Author	Thread: do guys mind if a girl writes first?
Admin	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 31 Jan, 2014 09:46 AM Just wondering what guys think about girls contacting them first. Not to ask out on a date, but just to get to know them. Would a girl writing first be okay, or would it be considered too forward? If it depends on age, I am thinking specifically about guys ages 18 to 28. Post Reply
chrisSam123 View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 2 Feb, 2014 01:24 PM us guys dont mind if u start the conversation. i personally like it when ladies start to write first. Post Reply
sharongracey View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 4 Feb, 2014 02:32 PM they mind because it makes them feel special Post Reply
View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 10 Feb, 2014 11:14 AM Read the Book of Ruth. Naomi saw a good man and told Ruth to go get him, and she did. Post Reply
View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 16 Feb, 2014 10:02 PM i'm curious about the implication if the guy does not reply but viewed mail sender's profile. What Ruth did was the existing and acceptable practice at their time and culture. Widows have to approach the nearest kinsman that she may be redeemed. They put so much weight on continuing the family line. Remember Tamar? Brother after brother for the sake of bearing a child. Legacy. Though a number of guys say that it is fine the woman communicates first, I believe majority of them prefers doing it by themselves. I don't care about statistics. I tried writing first before, maybe around 4x which did not contain any text indicating love interest--just friendly notes responding on something in their descriptive profile, oh well, all got no replies. Based on that experience, i find it extra challenging to do it again. Maybe, i will not do it again. I will just be contented reading good profiles. However blogs are better to visit instead of jumping from one profile to another. The latter is such a vain endeavor on my part who is tortured not to write. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 17 Feb, 2014 12:02 AM " Widows have to approach the nearest kinsman that she may be redeemed for the sake of bearing a child, Legacy" Your insight on the above paragraph is very deep. I have never thought of it that way. Instead i'm reminded of Lot's daughters who had to get their father drunk so they can sleep with him hoping to conceive baby boys for the continuation of family after the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. "I tried writing first before, maybe around 4x which did not contain any text indicating love interest" Believe me sis its a two way traffic. How many times have guys here opened up about the frustration of writing to ladies who just won't bother to respond? I've had my share too of being ignored when initiating conversations after majority of fellows here have been talking their concerns about being ignored. Yet I have a special friend who embraced to a point of assuring me that deactivating his account does not mean that his gaven up on us. We now closer than we've been while he was still a member in this site. I'd say don't give up. Something great may take place just when you least expect. God bless you Servewithlove! Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 17 Feb, 2014 10:08 AM if all guys stopped communicating first because they got no replies then no one would be communicating on this site. we'll all just be watching profiles. Post Reply
View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 22 Feb, 2014 02:27 PM In times past, that would matter in a negative way but now it matters differently in that it will make the contacted individual feel appreciated and there is nothing wrong about being appreciated. Every person loves that even if they may decide not to respond. Besides I strongly believe its high time get out of their conventionally designed skins to get what they want. If for any reason you wanna talk to a man, then you gotta let him know or risk losing your opportunity because with so many me maids in the sea, he may never notice you unless you take the initiative. Post Reply
View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 26 Feb, 2014 04:21 PM I know I double the gap age you mentioned but, since I�m still a man i acn say that I never felt it offensive when a lady writes first. It fact, I dare to say, it would be an honor, because the women�s eyes drift less than men�s. :hearts: Je! Je! What�s the reason a woman writes? I guess she has similar dreams like a man or a blogger. She desires to be seen or to be noted, like any other man but, as far as I have seen, many of them want to be asked, begged or followed, much more than a wink, more than that scent she oftens smells, the way she stares at her mirror. Often they don�t write. I have seen on Facebook they tent to upload pictures rather than posting their ideas... Who knows the heart of a woman? I don�t know it! Yet she is a gift GOD would grant the one HE has chosen. :yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 15 Mar, 2014 08:22 PM I don't mind if a girl writes first. Generally, I think, men write first. But that's not a rule. That's just how it is. Post Reply
View Profile History	do guys mind if a girl writes first? Posted : 28 Mar, 2014 09:03 PM Actually I think that is fine if female sends message first, I personally like if female messages me first, especially if I am already like her & I am shy about sending her a message. Post Reply