Author	Thread: It's a new year...........
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 04:23 PM .......fellows and I pray it found you and yours in God's perfect will! I'm curious about something guys that may seem a little prudish, but were all adults here! How far or explicit would you go in expressing your romantic desires or passions to someone you've been conversing with online without crossing the proverbial "creep out" line? Personally I have always believed that ALL things can and should be done with class, decency and in order, even if it's expressing intimate passions and desires. What's your take on this brothers, if you don't mind sharing(smile)? Post Reply
View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 07:52 PM Dear Sister, I hate to sound ignorant, but what exactly does "creep out line" mean? Please be specific, after all we are adults here, and there are some of us here who have already "seen it all," even if we have not "heard it all" :excited: Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 09:17 PM Restassured.......thanks for pointing out that I needed to clarify the term "creep out"! Let me give an example of an actual experience. After speaking to a brother online for a few weeks or so, he decided to be explicit about how he imagined, if it would or could ever happen, making love to me. Now don't get me wrong, he tried his best to "class" it up.....to not offend me but in all actuality, the whole thing made me uncomfortable! As far as I could tell, he was doing fine up until that moment. Not yet replying to this last note, I'll be honest, I really don't know how to respond! Do I just ignore what was said, not to be "prudish" or over sensitive or do I speak my true feelings?.......(I guess I'm asking another question here!) It all seems rather "high schoolish"! Yet I think I understood what he was trying to say, it was just HOW he said it! This is probably where I got the term "creep out" from......it kinda felt that way! Any suggestions?........ Post Reply
dunravin View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 11:47 PM It is creepy in my opinion to be discussing any form of physical contact ...kissing ...hugging... etc when you have not even met the person in person...this is just another form of virtual sex...what is the point of even going down this track when there is no human contact and you don't even know if you like this person...it seems to me that if after a couple of weeks of messaging back and forth people are actually discussing their sexual preferences and intentions there is great trouble in the offing...virtual sex...what a very disturbing consideration from a man who would claim to be Christian....better consign him back to being under the rock he crawled out from under...just my opinion Post Reply
View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 06:50 AM Gotcha Hard to imagine that any person (man or woman) would go into that much detail describing a wishful physical encounter without any prior encouragement or warning they were going to take a conversation in that direction What I am saying is I would not make a move to kiss someone if I thought they were not going to kiss me back. IMO virtual sex is going to follow virtual dates, and is why I would not get into deep personal conversations with anyone I had not already "met for coffee". I do not believe in allowing "blind chemistry" to happen but I was not always this smart. Communication and brotherly, sisterly affection in the Lord does not spell chemistry. IMO talking sex without meeting someone and in a committed relationship, is talking trash. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 07:28 AM Joy, please PM me. Need to talk with you but your limits prevent me! Thanks sister! <3 Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 09:53 AM Well restassured & dr.......I second both your opinions(smile)! I will more than likely respond to this individual with honesty regarding this whole thing, and let the chips full where they may! I was hoping that maybe I should or could take a moment to minister to this person......that he claimed to be a Christian, it may bring him under some sort of conviction, leading him to prayerfully repent and turn.......I guess I truly am the person who wants to see the glass not only half full but full, full(smile)!! Thank you my brothers for your intuitive input.....blessings! And NRSV1953......you're on(smile)! Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 10:29 AM Thanks Joy! :applause: Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 05:11 PM Joy My two cents.... This fellow needs to focus on getting to know Jesus before he tries to know any one else. The one who looks upon a woman with lust is guilty of adultery. r Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 09:56 PM My exact sentiments 1jon310.......thanks and God bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	It's a new year........... Posted : 12 Jan, 2014 05:27 PM "How far or explicit would you go in expressing your romantic desires or passions to someone you've been conversing with online" Online? ZERO. If I haven't met someone in real life, I would not discuss such things with her at all. If someone does that, it's totally-totally creepy, I think. Post Reply