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sisygirl

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What I could pick from you John.....
Posted : 11 Nov, 2013 05:54 AM

... In few conversations that you've partaked in from our forum chatts, was your selflessness. You often reflect a humble spirit that just comes out even in arguments. I appreciate that in you



My question to you friend is:

What is this one particular requirement from a woman that stands to be your wife, that you just won't compromise lacking in all her 'flops'? (errors that may manifest while dating her)



What is this requirement that will better bring out more of the selflessness within you, and complement you so well that you don't feel a need to suppress yourself but to release more of you in this way without your 'man-hood/leadership' being intimated by your mate.



I don't claim to know you dear, it takes a life time to claim to know someone. Though certain things in our charator find ways of reflecting without us noting, with you my brother it's your humble energy that often springs out when interacting in the forum.

Thank you for partaking in this!! :nahnah:

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What I could pick from you John.....
Posted : 13 Nov, 2013 05:27 PM

Sisy My dear Sister



As explained before I have been away from the chats for a few days. Answering you now and then going to take some time away.

First. The trait that stands out and I appreciate in any other person is humility. Saved or sinner humility goes a long way.

Second. If you have read my profile I take my marriage vows and therefore what the Bible says about breaking those vows very serious. To break my vow of "till death do us part" would go hand in hand with me turning my back on God. So I do not make it a habit of entertaining thoughts of seeking a wife and breaking that vow to God.

Third. I could list all of the Biblical traits of a woman and a wife. Lets be honest... the majority of people are not happy with those and add and subtract according to what they think will make them happy instead of what God wants. The Bible is my guide but instead of expecting someone to fit my template or even God's I focus elsewhere. To take the plank out of my own eye. For myself...Within a year after my children's mother left I read a book on co-dependency where it was explained that sickness attracts sickness. Gave me a kick in the pants to seek God's healing and therefore the very face of God. Healthy people do not attract unhealthy people for very long if at all. Also explains why some people make the statement that they married the same person several times but that person just looked different and had a different name but was still the same bad person.

I'm not seeking self improvement, that would be akin to idolatry. Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness. Not to have things added to me but for the sake of seeking Him, my Lord who saved me.



So my sister these may not be the answers you were looking for but they are where I stand. May God's Grace fill your being. r

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What I could pick from you John.....
Posted : 13 Nov, 2013 07:32 PM

"So my sister these may not be the answers you looking for..."

Oh so you assume i'm not answered? Got far more than what I was seeking for. I got an additional answer to my question I asked at the ladies forum, the question is: "Can we find a solid ground to root the marriage relationship on, in a sense that if/when our issued and weaknesses get the best of us... At least we know the relationship is rooted on a solid foundation. We won't consider breaking up over pity matters that we maybe failing to resolve at that particular time"



This post to the ladies column wasn't a question of who makes it after breaking up, was rather wondering if maybe there could be ways of protecting this precious covenant that was not forced but well chosen by 2individuals and involved God who is the main creator of marriage. And you said, "Seeking God first, seeking His kingdom first" can anything else matter John?



Do you still recall on our previous chatt about the fall of men in Eden you said, "The evil one hates it when a woman submits to her husband, fore by her doing this she's demonstrating/ministering to all of us how is our relationship with God suppose to be" Now why won't a woman want to submit under the leadership of a man seeking after the kingdom of God first? That in me is a charm beyond any other requirement a man can ever have. Since marriage is created by God from the first place.... It makes perfect sense seeking to root this agreement by seeking He's ways and wisdom.



By so doing, if/when the nature of our beings get the best of us, we have this solid foundation to always bounce back to... The very ONE we've rooted our marriage relationship on, then its far less about us with our short comings and more about Him who can give us devine tolarence for one another when failing and overwhelmed by our issues and weaknesses.

And yes dear humbleness goes a long way. I'm very sensitive to this energy, I take note of it very quick. You must really be shocked that I picked it up so soon hey?



Thank you friend for taking time out of your hectic schedule and write back to me. You did email me that you're currently busy will then be responding late.



God bless John!

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