Author	Thread: Was there something I said?.............
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Was there something I said?............. Posted : 29 Oct, 2013 02:40 PM Ok guys, I'm going to give the short version of this......I had been speaking to a gentleman here at CDFF for a few weeks now. We really hit it off great! We started writing here first, graduated to speaking by phone.......everything seemed fine! Now I was always aware that our denominations were different, but the base, the foundation of them both is Jesus Christ....period! Well that's all that mattered to me, but when the topic came up for discussion......poof! He just stopped communicating! My question guys is this, did I maybe bring the topic up to soon or maybe was he always indifferent about this and hoped maybe down the road I'd conform or that the issue would just go away?........ummmmmmm(I'm just stroking my chin now as I reflect over the whole thing again) I'm just seeking opinions about this...... Post Reply
View Profile History	Was there something I said?............. Posted : 29 Oct, 2013 06:48 PM This is a just a complete guess, but either something big came up on his end (what I usually assume with people when this happens), or he's just cold/weird. Short of having supernatural powers, I don't think there is anyway of knowing why. Sorry, and sorry that happened. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Was there something I said?............. Posted : 29 Oct, 2013 07:26 PM Hello sis, My observation about relationships is that, they turn to be complecated at times (or should I say that we complete them) One thing i've learned about guys is that... They don't compromise their interests. If at all the question of your differences in denomination was an issue, he wouldn't have reached out at all, inspite of who initiated. Could have been anything else that caused distance, something so little that you didn't even note. Was hooked up currently with someone (since I did say that my work mates are not buying my story of being single for so long. These people Joy don't understand that I have a lot to deal with, hense not looking. I have personal long term assignments to get through. Can you believe that my sessions of counseling with abuse are still pending? The court thingy is taking so much energy from me that counseling will serve no purpose right now but a waist of time) Nonetheless dear I coperated with them with an open mind. The brother's doing very well hey, he's a kind a lady will run home to as a husband after a long working day. It was only a little thing that turned me off, wanted to communicate but didn't know where and how to start especially since I didn't know him very well. The feedback that I got from him inassumption of my "reason" for pulling out had nothing at all to do with my main reason. Was actually amazed that he's worrying over something I missed untill he brought it forth now. Fruits of lack of communication right there on the spot. It was never to soon to bring forth what you did dear, was actually wise of you, cause you would have got attached with time and be the one hurting when whatever that caused him to decide otherwise comes forth in futher. You'll be amazed its not even what you're thinking. Could be something you've mentioned in passing, something you didn't take not of as being offensive or reflecting you otherwise. Well that's what I think, taking from my current experience. Hope that was helpful Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Was there something I said?............. Posted : 29 Oct, 2013 08:01 PM R8E8 & Sisygirl........thank you so much for your words of wisdom! It seems that the overall consensus here is that no one but The Lord can read minds! He's the only one that knows the true heart of man! And your right Sisygirl, communication, communication!.....there's no way to get around it's importance!! And R8E8,"cold/weird".......interesting(smile)lol!!! Thanks again guys, I kinda feel better already! Be blessed! Post Reply
123JJJ View Profile History	Was there something I said?............. Posted : 12 Nov, 2013 09:31 PM I can only tell you the story of my aunt and her husband. A couple of years ago my aunt married this really godly man who truly loves the Lord. However, He though only his denomination is "correct". One day my aunt got tired of his nagging about how his denomination is correct and all others are not, so my aunt hold him, "Well, when you go to heaven tell God that you don't want to talk to those brothers and sisters in Christ because Jesus death on the cross for their sins is not good enough for you!" Being the godly man he is he realized her erroneous thinking and ever since that day he changed his way of thinking. If a man has hard time loving you because of sprinkling vs immersion Baptism then he will be shocked when he finds out his favourite food is not your favourite food, and his favourite sport is not your favourite sport, and so on. Post Reply