That was your post my brother to the ladies column as seaching for an 'American lady' as your missing rib. In your last reply on this subject, you said "Do you know that God actually took a rib from a man and formed a woman from it?"
Yes dear I do know and fully agree with you on that note.
"By this understanding I have to seach for my lost rib. And a man cannot actually pursue his dreams without a helpmate by his side, e.g Adam couldn't have successfully named all animals that God created without Eve by his side"
I disagree with you on this one dear brother. Eve was not yet in the picture when Adam named animals. Please double check dear in your bible when was Eve created?
I'm not writing this post so I argue/ or ask why must your missing rib be an American lady,
That one is a closed chapter. It would really be unfair of me to keep asking you questions on your seach based on your personal interests. Reason i'm asking and looking forth having this conversation with you dear brother is the question that came forth as reading this passage.
Adam in my little mind as reading with an imaginating mind, wasn't really lonely in the garden, he seem to have been having fun (you're welcome to share your thought/revelation of this if you maybe got it different from me. However I don't want to dwell too much on what we think when reading about creation) instead i'm more interested in the helping side of this passage.
Then my question to you dear is: (even if your answer is based on your thoughts and personal needs since seaching for your mate, it doesn't have to be biblical unless you wanna base it from the bible its still ok with me)
The question is: What is a lady helper for in a mans' life, since a man (Adam inparticular) was not really lonely since he related with all animals?
What then did God mean by us helping you guys?
Think your answer is gonna be more based on your personal needs and expectations from your lady should you find one... Hope you will dear, hense said doesn't have to be a biblical answer.
Hope both parties (me and you) will learn something from this conversation hey..... Atleast that's what I'm expecting learning something from you.
thanks sisygirl for ur reply. I think u r a true xtian who studies the bible often from the way u sound, so do I. the bible says iron sharpeneth iron. ur answers has sharpened my faith.
I belive the word of God can't contradict itself. thanks for the correction anyway. finding a wife means obtaining favour from the lord. God bless u.
I have two more questions to ask you dear, please don't lose heart cause i'm this kind of a person.... I ask many questions that one eventually lose heart of answering. This is how I learn though, more questions asked means more answers and clarity about that specific matter discussed.
The first question could be a little personal, don't mind me please i'll reveal after why did I ask you this. You could be answering a question that has always been pending in my mind.
First question is: (note that my intention is not to attack you hey)
You said "I admire Americans' a lot, their mode of speaking, dressing and culture are incredible."
There surely could be more to your lifetime mate requirements than the ones you've mentioned dear one. Can I ask you to say 2more requirements/expectations from her, those that will better serve you personally as a man seeking for helper. Her mode/exent of speaking is hers dear, it can only turn you on OR charm you from time to time, same goes with her culture, its hers dear just as you also have your own unique African culture that makes you who you are.
Let me ask you in this way please so it gives more idea of what i'm seeking for from this question: How will the combinations of your 2different cultures serve you in marriege?
You can then top this up with your other requirement cause I need atleast about 2answers from you before revealing why I asked. Please my brother don't feel attacked or opposed, we're only having a conversation dear.
The 2nd question is:
"If God has chosen a partner for me I won't obliged..."
I need your openion on this,
Does God choose partners for us or we choose for our selves and then preasen our chosen partners to Him in maybe asking for His help with the relationship?
Do we choose or He choses for us?
Don't you worry about being right or wrong please, or else you'll compromise both of us the depth and lessons to be taken with from this conversation.
I really appreciate hey
I appreciate time taken in partaking in this subject, you've initiated after all my dear brother.
thanks sisygirl. to the first questn, I was being specific about some of the attributes I love most in people from the westrn world not from my future life patner. for me what I desire most from my life patner is to be God fearing. and the other question God can actually choose ur life patner for u, if u ask him by faith. what I mean is that for e.g if a man has more than one spouses and wants to get married to one of them, he might make the mistake of choosing the wrong one therby resulting in divorce bcos the marriage has failed. reason because he didnt ask God wch one to get married to.
3rd question, one of the characteristcs I know about living thing is adaptability. I believ I can adapt to anything in life cos I m living thing.Thank u and God bless u.
Much appreciation dear for writing back and opening up a little about your personal interests and requirements from the partner that you're seaching for. Apologize for taking longer to write back to you, Got more busier than I expected, didn't have time to check what is happening in the forum.
I'm sorry again for misunderstanding OR confusing the attributes you love about Americans, which are culture, dressing, mode/excent of speaking etc
I've confused those with your main requirements for your seach. Thank you for clarification on that note dear!
So your main requirement you say, IS A GOD FEARING LADY. Very interesting I must say, i'm more familiar with ladies seaching for God fearing guys, not the other way around.
You'll then be most likely to enjoy her fruits of Submission when she submits to God through you hey
I support you on that one dear.
Reason I asked you for your requirements hoping that you might answer a question that has always been pending in my little mind before I was even a member on this site is: I wanted to see if guys see more in us ladies than sexual fulfilment in relationships.... keeping in mind that sex is one of the packages of marriege. I've observed dear (NB this is not a general statement, take no offense please since none is meant anyway hey) that 'sex' is often the top of the list when seaching for a lifetime mate. Not only refering to guys dear, with ladies too. Which again can be argued since we seach according to our personal needs and interests. With me friend its like worrying too much about being payed at the end of the week or month (this is only an example. I'm not comparing marriage with employment, they not even close). Your salary is a sure case as long as you're registered with the company's pay roll department. A cautious servant will be more concerned about performance, the main reason why one is hired.
A real man seaching for a lifetime mate would be more focused on ensuring that he masters loving he's wife to the very best of he's ability, sex is surely coming no doubt about that... Whereas love and submission could be lacking big time from both parties if priorities are messed up.
I look at Jacob being cheated by Laban and given a wrong wife to a point of intercause without noting a single sign of Leah being a wrong wife, just cause sex (a sure case activity if only he was cautious of important things to note when marrying) being of greater importance and therefore being ignorant of other things. He's words to Laban are: "Give me my wife, that I may go into her"
That is why I asked you in details what are your 2requirements atleast.
Thank you so much dear brother for your coparation with me,
i luv people like u, cos u are very inquisitive. to me sex before marriage is wrong from biblical point of view, cos the bible says ur body is the temple of God.A Guy that is looking for sex fom his patner before marriage is not a responsible guy and the relationship wil not last once he has gotten what he wants. since i gave my life to christ i av desist from fornication for 4years, though it has not been easy but the grace of God has kept me. pls i will talk to u later. God bless u.
Thank God for an opportunity of finally writting back to you dear as promised. And thank you once more for the complement dear brother, it humbles me whenever I get complements of that kind, it's more of a reminder to glorify the one who made and kept me together through out life's challenges and hardship.
"Since I gave my life to Christ I av desist from fornication for 4years, though it has not been easy but the grace of God has kept me"
Your testimony has reminded me of so much to be grateful of. I can't imagen where would I have been without Christ's love, as I shared my testimony on the girls forum that He showed up when I was desperate for acceptance and love. Let's hold on, on He's grace my brother. It keeps us from a lot of evil activities.
Do allow me to say: I am proud of you for abstaining for 4years, as much as I glorify Him dwelling in you through He's spirit, you also had your responsibility to pursue to make this possible. The responsibility was being cautious of what you feed your mind through movies that you watched, magazines, people you hung aroung with and so onn.. Our bodies reacts to what we feed our minds.
I'm writting to ask you for your openion since the theme of our subject is 'finding my missing rib'
What is your thought on this dear:
"21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his rib, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God has taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man."
By These two verses dear brother, I observe that Adam was 'chosen a wife' in a way since this took place while he was made asleep. He's situation is a little diffrent from ours today. We're all over the dating sites seaching for mates knowing very well that God disapproves divorce, He rather states to us as to under which conditions are we allowed to divorce. He still doesn't really approve it as such but rather looking out for the other innocent part.
Do you think Adam had a right to divorce Eve, instead of compromising his relationship with God with a wife he didn't even choose but was chosen of for good intentions ofcause.... Only to be cought up in the most worst flop that still affects our lifes today even as new borns... Born in sin?
thanks sisygirl for writing me back. concerning adam and eve they were the first man and woman on earth, what caused eve to disobey God was satan, thereby leading adam to his dissobedience. indirectly it was not eve but satan.cos the bible says the devil is like a roaring lion, looking for whom to devour. I believed adam and eve gave satan the opportunity to disobey them. after they sinned they were truly sory of their misdeed. and after dat incident adam and eve never had any misunderstandn.frm another perspetive, I believed that,the thought of divorce wuldnt av come to adams mind cos the word does not contradict himself wc says God created man in his own image and likeness and said go ye to the world be fruitful and multiply. reason with me if adam had divorced eve wuld u av been alive today?
2nd ans. we were not born into sin, even though adam had sin unto God.that's y Jesus christ came to die for our sin and redeemed us from us from the curse of the law.he his the second adam. God bless u.
"After they sinned they were truly sorry for thier misdeed."
Yes they were dear.
It's very dangerous not to know our place and worth in the body of Christ. We become the devil's weakest link. Eve was told that she was gonna be wise like God if she eats the fruit. Little did she knew that she was made in the very image of God already.
And yes you're right dear,
I wouldn't have been alive today if Adam had divorce Eve.
Your reply is loaded with wisdom and insight.
Though these two have really compromised us a great relationship with God, were God was coming down to us for fellowship and now its the other way around.
It wasn't until I red Daniel 10 did I comprehend the depth of these two's flop, Daniel's prayer answers were hindered for 21full days. (which is onother subject on its own hey)
All in all.... Its a struggle at times for us to enjoy fellowship with God now that we must reach out to Him.
Thank you dear for your patient with me
Was a long session hey, but was certainly worth the effort.
Will be writing back to you on our private chatts. Think I need to make a reseach about your business before I can get back to you. Sounds like great ideas I must say
And hey enough complements already,
Can't hear enough I must admit. Though you're making me shy now:nahnah:
Be good my dear brother. I enjoyed your company hey
