Author	Thread: Recovering From Disappointment
Admin	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 7 Oct, 2013 09:09 PM Just wanted to pass along something I learned tonight, which is that as any one who's been a guy for a while knows, you're going to face a lot of disappointment in this dating game in going out and approaching women. Many of us realize the importance of picking ourselves up, dusting ourselves off, moving on and trying again. However this is so much easier said than done, and what I learned tonight is that, as Christians, we should let Jesus be the one who picks us up and dusts us off and helps us move on when we get disappointed. I don't know about you, but I've been trying to do that on my own for a while and it's been crazy difficult and painful and from now on this is the solution I'm going with and I hope you do too. Gals too. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 7 Oct, 2013 09:46 PM That's a very sound advise friend I personally think this disappointment is a two way traffic, we ladies get disappointed too especially in 'christian dating sites' If you don't mind dear, please go read my conversation with Cat on the very first colomn where new members greet and introduce themselves.... You'll then see how skemmers compromise you guys relationships with good ladies here, with us there's just so much to be cautious off. Remember when I told you how i'm not bothered by you not qoating verses in your profile, verses that you could not even live up to? Please go read as me & Cat share some of our experiences in 'Christian dating sites' I personally believe you're one of the few good guys dear friend.... You'll see dear God will bring you a good lady in due time, she could not even be here in these christian dating sites, she could be in places you least expect to find her. Whichever way dear I support you friend. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 12:43 AM This a good post. Challenges make us learn and gives us wisdom. This a good thing you have chosen to do.Jesus will lift you up,dust you well and heal any bruises. I love this. Post Reply
View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 07:57 AM indeed He who is risen will lift us up, the hope is to remember is, " well done good and faithful servant :applause:," doesnt happen till later. definitly worth the wait :yay: Post Reply
One_Sojourner View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 10:07 AM I've been going through some similar times there Reno, don't think it's an age, gender or skin color thing.... we all get to experience these disappointment and hurts to some degree. It's probably wise to keep things in perspective concerning our desires, our relationship to God, our personal study and prayer, our friends and family and not expect too much on things that we have no control over... and try to keep a good attitude and be genuine, that's one of the main things that I find attractive reading through some of the women's profiles. It doesn't necessarily guarantee I'll get a reply if I am to write them, some will and some won't. :( I agree with you and the others here... Post Reply
View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 05:01 PM Right, right. No age, race, or sex has a monopoly on disappointment though they do experience it in varying quantities and qualities depending on those factors. I think I favored telling guys this because I was sort of telling myself this too, but it can be applied by anybody who's going through disappointing times right now and if I could do it over again I would've tried to be more inclusive and put this in the "Advice on Love and Dating" section instead. I also just want to encourage and remind people that Jesus will comfort, empower, and guide you to things far better than you could know or plan if you if you let him and make your #1 priority to seek to know and glorify him as best as you can. The more I read John, the more I'm pretty certain that's what this life is all about. So press on and pursue that as your priority everyone, and you'll start to see things get better as he gives you hope and empowerment (There's no power in the present if there's no hope in the future) so glorify him, which doesn't exclude loving people for who they really are (as opposed to who you perceive(d) them to be), whether they love you or not. Post Reply
One_Sojourner View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 05:48 PM It's also helpful during one of those down times having someone with a good word to get you focused n thinking right and an extended hand to help ya get yer legs back under you :dancingp: Well said brother n thanks for the good words!:buddies: Post Reply
View Profile History	Recovering From Disappointment Posted : 26 Oct, 2013 11:50 PM I'd say "Why even get disappointed in the first place?" Everyone will meet gorgeous dates, that turn them down for someone better, or just turn you down. Let Jesus do the picking. Step into a date expecting nothing but a good time, enjoying movie with company, and a drink, perhaps enjoy the chat; but don't expect it to be a marriage in 1 year, or you'll be disappointed more often than you can date! If something more blooms from it, accept it gratefully. if it's bound to happen, it will happen. Just worship God, and God will battle for your love interest! Post Reply