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Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Just asking......... Posted : 5 Oct, 2013 05:18 PM ......my brothers in The Lord.....I've seen on many posts here that accepting your potential mates children would not be an issue. What if there were an elderly parent that that significant one was the sole caregiver of? Would that be a deal breaker? Post Reply
View Profile History	Just asking......... Posted : 5 Oct, 2013 05:42 PM Good question. For me it would depend on the situation and the reason she is the sole caregiver and the condition of her parent. I don't think anyone should ever be a sole caregiver. I was one for my late wife and it wore me out. Perhaps her being married and having an additional income in the home would make it possible to hire another caregiver. There are just too many variables to give a definitive answer other than I might consider it but it could be a "deal breaker". Also, if I were given the opportunity, I would certainly lay hands on the parent and pray for a healing. It has been know to happen! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Just asking......... Posted : 5 Oct, 2013 07:42 PM Ok SBD, would there be a difference, in say, a single mother who has sole custody of her 12 year old physical or mentally handicapped child vs. being the sole caregiver of an elderly parent(with both cases having some type of assistance)? I ask this question because your right, the situation within each circumstance could vary greatly, individually, yet none to be at fault of the caregiver. I just wondered how a man would assess the matter, hopefully because of his care for the woman, giving the entire issue the benefit of the doubt...... Your response however was quite helpful......thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Just asking......... Posted : 5 Oct, 2013 09:14 PM It does take a special person to take on a relationship and care giving. I have a grand daughter that needs 24 hour care. She has a condition called 18Q-minus and also Cystenosis. 18Q-minus is very rare. While she was developing in the womb the bottom of the 18th chromosome disappeared and that part of her DNA is missing. She is a sweet girl and may not have a very long life. She cannot speak, sit up by herself, and has little or no control of her movements. Everything has to be done for her. Could I be in a relationship with someone with a child in this condition? In the situation my daughter has, yes, because she has 24 hour in home nursing care for her. My daughter is also a nurse and works in a hospital. If I met someone that had to do all of that work then no, I would not be interested. It might sound selfish, but I already have a life that has demands of its own. Besides having a regular job I also have a small business I run from home. I really don't have time to be a caregiver too. So yes, it's situational and it can be a difficult and personal decision. Another consideration for me is that I believe my calling requires me to be able to come and go when necessary and sometimes it is even when it is inconvenient. I think it's important to consider what God has called us to do and to find a mate that fits into our calling. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Just asking......... Posted : 6 Oct, 2013 07:24 AM SBD I want to truly thank you for sharing a very intimate and personal part of your life here with this Christian community! My heart goes out to you and your daughter in regards to meeting the needs of your grand daughter, yet I suspect that the extraordinary love you, your daughter, immediate and extended family have for her, out ways those challenges everyday(smile)! God's blessings to you all! How we love one another on and in this journey with The Lord, will always reveal the true fruit of a soul.......where truly that heart lies!!! Post Reply