Author	Thread: My brothers in Christ.......
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	My brothers in Christ....... Posted : 22 Sep, 2013 03:01 PM ......what would it literally take for you to reach out, in faith, to a sister here at CDFF, who you've wanted to reach out to all along, but didn't? Post Reply
View Profile History	My brothers in Christ....... Posted : 22 Sep, 2013 09:33 PM It doesn't really work like that, for me anyway, but I think for most guys too. If there's a girl we want to talk to, regardless of how improbable it might seem that she'll reply or like us or whatever, we'll send a message. And if we don't, we won't. I can't really imagine being too afraid to send an email to some one you liked. That's like saying you're too afraid to eat even though you're starving. Then again though, the other day, on a different site, I did send the pathetic message that literally just said "I probably don't have a chance with you do I?" Even though I believed I didn't have a chance with her being interested in or liking me (especially after sending that message), I still wrote her anyway because I liked her and really wanted to and just felt like I had to say something. Unfortunately, that was all I had to say. Post Reply
View Profile History	My brothers in Christ....... Posted : 23 Sep, 2013 04:18 AM Men and women do not realise the treasure in rejection. When a person fears rejection their fear prevents them from ever moving forward in action. I used to be such a man but it was when I began facing my fear of rejection that I discovered that it was not all I made it out to be. In facing countless times of rejection I began to learn about my self and women also. I began to grow in strength and confidence. To the point that I could talk with any woman any where. My confidence created an enviroment for women to relax and be drawn to me. I then begen having multiple oppertunities. I became the chooser rather than the rejected. I learned how to treat a woman with honor and how to reject her with her keeping her honor in tact. Then I found the greatest woman ever and now we are going to be married. So my answer in short is push past your fears to find the treasure of a good woman. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	My brothers in Christ....... Posted : 24 Sep, 2013 07:57 AM Here's some testimony about the woman I'm in a relationship with now. I was very impressed with her profile and how much we had in common, and sent her a message. From watching her profile, I could see that she had last signed onto the site(not this site) a few days before I sent the message. So I waited, and waited. Almost a month went by and she still hadn't logged back in. I finally decided that I wouldn't let a dumb website keep me from contacting this girl, so I took a chance, stalked her to her Facebook page, made my intentions known in a message, and left the ball in her court. I would NOT recommend that approach to everyone, but it definitely worked out, we're going on 5 months now. My advice would be, "take the initiative", even if you "fail", you can have confidence in the courage it takes to throw yourself out there like that, and in all reality, even if you're rejected, you have really lost nothing except maybe a bit of pride, and we could all do with trading some pride for some true confidence. I just wish more ladies were interested in trying that, it's exhausting to be the one throwing yourself at people all the time... :peace::peace: Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	My brothers in Christ....... Posted : 24 Sep, 2013 11:41 AM DHTM Hello to you my brother, Your reply reminds me of my first one on one conversation with you..... When I asked you "what do you think of a woman initiating the relationship?" "I wish more ladies were interested in trying that, its exhausting to be the one throwing yourself at people all the time" I agree with your above statement especially since I had my share of pressure from loving someone from a distance until I finally decided to just come out for once & for all. (I shared this story with you dear) Though its not easy hey, With you guys its kinda normal to initiate, With a lady there's just soooooooooo much at steack, its rough out there one could be taken advantage of for bad intentions. With us its a question of safety too since we often hear terrible stuff happening to girls daily..... So it takes real courage for one to do that. With me dear what gave me courage was my worst experiences of rejection starting with family (a closed chapter of my life now, won't be talking about it anymore than I have already) Rejection from the church too when they don't even know me but thinking the worst of me, when all I needed at that time was being embraced & loved. So in a way I really had nothing to lose anymore than I had already. That was the only thing that gave me courage to approach & express how I felt about him. Rejection has been my portion for too long that I eventually learned to let it bring out the best in me. My daily fear now is pushing love away cause i'm not really familiar with having such attention & affection given to me. Can just tell that a lot of people would be really happy if I were to be in a relationship. They desire that for me especially my work mates... They think its crazy that I haven't had a boyfriend since from 2004. Went out few times only to find that those guys didn't meet my requirements, then embraced my singlehood since that's what i'm more familiar with. All in all dear, I understand what you mean by exhaustion. My experience of loving & finding ways of expressing to this guy drained me energy.... Was most probably one of the hardest things I had to do, only did it for peace of mind. Was tired of sleepless nights over him when he had he's rest peacefully daily. Beautiful lady you got your self there my brother She was worth the effort, I support you hey :rocknroll: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	My brothers in Christ....... Posted : 25 Sep, 2013 09:29 AM :rocknroll: Thanka! Post Reply