Ok friend (LTM) I did say I was gonna post more questions to you dirrectly. There's one of them again,
Its nothing personal just something i've abseved lately.
DHTM it just wouldn't be without your imput friend. I've noted that you two special friends of mine, are just too different. There's so much one learns when expressing your differences, unless you'll both have something similar to share. Whichever way i'm interested in your openions.
The question is:
Why is human nature most likely to respond to positivity with an energy of resestance/doublefullness?
I've observed this for a while now & its a continues first respond to anything positive that is brought forth before men. One may reconsider & return to you on what you've said earlier, (when bringing the idea forth) though the very first respond is doubtfullness.
Just to highlight few of these noted human responds:
I'm the first one in the list.
(I always have a little personal story to share, bear with me please)
This one time a colligue of mine (a lady that I was not even friends with) we only talk work related issues, she come to me & told me that "this thing about me of being single should come to an end." She said that with a firm tone that was not really offensive but a little more of an order (if you get what I mean)
I was a little amazed since I didn't expect that from her, yes there are some colligues whom i'm friends with & therefore do talk to them about relationships, but NOT her. Little was I even awaer that she knows i've been single for longer. (she must be overhearing our conversations when talking during lunch hours, I assumed)
Nonetheless I didn't say anything on that particuler day, until this one time I was in a cheerful mood, i started the subject as she approached. (she's been on my case about this for weeks now, without me saying a word, just ignoring her)
I asked her with a smile "So what do you think I should do about being single since you don't seem to approve?"
She was excited as if she's been waiting for me to come around eventually. She said "I found you somebody whose just perfect for you. You gonna love with him. He's obsessed about God just like you. He's out of the province for now due to work, but he's coming for you." and I asked "how do you know i'm gonna love him or if he's gonna even like me? Whose this person anyway?" she carried on.... "Oh yes he loves & tells everyone about you. He's family always talk about you.
Should expect he's call (this was about a week later) i've gaven him your cell numbers, though he's too shy to call. Should see he's wall paper on he's laptop, its your photo my friend"
I freaked out as I asked her
"you gave him my photo...? Without me knowing...? Where did you get that photo?"
"I downloaded from your bbm since everyone in he's family didn't believe I can hook him up with a right person. He's been seaching for a while now, no luck & he's wants to settle down"
For that reason I turned the whole thing down. Was scared that he & they (the family) already know me, to a point of having my photos since I change them from time to time on my bbm. Was really uncomfortable with the idea. It didn't matter that they liked & looked forth meeting me.
The second ones are from the bible:
Moses when seeing a burning bush
He came up with excuses as why he shouldn't be the one God sends to bring Israel out of Egypt. He carried on about being unable to express himself very well verbally.
Jeremiah when called by God
He's excuse was that he's too young to be a prophet & to testify.
Abraham
He eventually came around with the idea of having a child at an older age, though he first argued that he was older to have kids (just as I said earlier, one may come around, though the first respond is resestance)
Likewise with Sarah when when overhearing Abraham being promised that he's wife was gonna concieve, she laughed at the angels,
Hense Abraham was asked "why was he's wife ?" (that was a sing of doubtfullness.
With many more others to qoate, though I know that you do get the picture.
Thank you so so much guys for the time taken in reading & writting back. (Do excuse my English please, has lot of errors)
Wow, creepy that all this happened. I can tell that what I know about you is you will not be satisfied with a shy man.
You are a strong young woman and need a strong secure man. Dont allow anyone to push you into a situation but continue waiting upon the Lord.
Believe me, God has a man for you and he will nottice you in the right time. My simple strong and lovely woman would have been easy to miss but God brought us together and I couldnt be happier with my Lady.
As far as what and how others think. They are free to do so and God will honor every thought of the human race and their true desires in Him.
"Why is human nature most likely to respond to positivity with an energy of resistance/doubtfulness?"
The bible talks about fear a lot, I'd say that is why we tend to respond to great responsibility or daunting tasks with doubt. What makes it bad when we're dealing with God, is that we should have no reason to fear if God is with us, it shows a lack of trust in him. You can see God's response to the bible patriarchs/disciples, there are some places where God even kinda mocks them, like:
"Really? The God of the universe, the God who commands the wind and the waves, the great "I AM" is standing beside you and you're afraid?"
The subject really hits home to the condition of our hearts, we're full of fear and insecurity until God "gives" us peace, we receive that peace by trusting Him. The world's response there is to "trust in yourself", but a truly humbled person knows exactly how easy it is for humanity to fail, the only safe place to put our trust is in God.
"In nothing be anxious; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."
And yes, that is very creepy. I guess his obsession"might" be "innocent and sweet", but it says a few things about him, and I'd recommend not pursuing that relationship. He sounds more like a child than an adult. If he hadn't already latched onto you, I'd say maybe try being friends first, but it doesn't sound like that's possible if he already has you for his desktop background. Use your own judgment, but definitely be careful.
I hear what you're saying. Suppose we do trust God to a certain point when He gets personal with us, recruiting from the multitude & expresses He's thoughts & plans about ones future,
That we feel humbled, overwhelmed & amazed at the level of depth that God thinks & plans about us. Onother thing i'm picking up as reading through your answer is comfort zone. Its a little easy to trust God when refering to casual things that are normal to everyone else, until He touches ones inner most desire/need that we start wondering if He'll really bring to reality.
In saying the above i'm taken to the passage of Abraham when God instructed him to leave he's mother country. He did that without asking or manifesting any doubt. He knew God will surely lead him through until God mentioned a very personal issue of having a son.
Likewise with Moses when choosing to suffer for salvation sake, than enjoying little pleasures of Egypt. When sent back to Egypt was onother story. I suppose our genuine trust to God is exempted & proven when one is shaken from the normal cercumstances, to a personal fulfilment through an encounter where one knows forsure that it was God meeting a need that no one else could have.
Your answer spoke volumes to me as I hope that I somehow understood what you meant. On your last sentence when saying
"Use your own judgement, but be careful"
I've decided otherwise about him days before having this conversation. What made me mantion this was my personal seach after i've figured the human natures' responce of resistance when a positive thing is brought forth as an idea from God or anyother person.
After looking at those i've qoated from the bible, had to look at the most recent incident of my self where I reflacted such energy. This was the one I could think of, not necessarily regretting but rather wondering why such response is always the first than taking things positively as they are meant.
As for he's mother & family excited & looking forth meeting me, think I understand where that is coming from. I'm also in that position where family would delight knowing i've met someone. (somehow parents desire the best for us & when their desired expectations are not met, especially looking at the biological clock, they get a little worried & start asking questions)
Knowing my mum very well, she'd be excited too soon if she was to be told that i've met someone, being coscious of my safety & a lot of other issues. The idea of having someone would still make her happy.
Thank you so so much dear, its always great hearing from you.
?" (that was a sing of doubtfullness.