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Admin	loneliness the hardest thing on earth Posted : 12 Jun, 2013 10:50 PM Loneliness is the worst one can face on earth. We can have doubts: God you said that it's not good for a man to be alone so why am I? You said that no man has temptations he cannot overcome but I can't bear it anymore. You created love so how come it's a curse in my life. Some people say that we cannot bear it anymore then we receive what we want but what about the tears that filled my eyes and drown my heart for all those nights. People are so bored of hearing us repeating the same thing and we have no one to whom we can talk and even if there is someone, it doesn't take away the pain and it�s getting worst. I'm not trying to give you ideas to complain :). Are you fed up with: it will come when you don't expect it, or in his time, it will come soon and it never comes. I've been sick about this also. Sometimes you find it so unfair because your brothers and sisters are married and you find it as a curse or something. The worst is when you see the younger than you going before you. Some may think it's a double curse because if you don't have a partner you cannot be parent. You are struggling with the love you have in your heart that you are unable to give to anyone and you wonder what the use is. You are upset and you get out of your mind, saying I won't be serious, I�ll find anyone and i won't care. You will say God you are taking too much time, I�ll take the initiative. I'm not giving you ideas to complain :).What I want to say to you is what God said to me. When you think you are really alone you are not because I�m with you, Mt 28 .20 �I�m with you till the end of time�. He said to me I know who you'll get married to, but I will give him to you in my time not yours. He said to me that he wanted him to be his first love Mt 6:33 �But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.� He wants me to put him first. For my own good because man cannot be the source of my happiness only God is. If I get in a relationship the way I am I�ll surely screw it up. God gives me time to be sanctified so that my mate can have the best. He gives me time to do what I won't have time to do when I�ll be in a relationship. The more you wait to have something the more thankful you are and you recognize his value. Do you think that it's not fair because some people don't care and treat others like animals but they get what they want. No it's not fair but it's not God's fault, Adam and Eve made a bad decision and we pay the price every day till Jesus comes and removes the pain. But Jesus came on earth and he felt like us deeply alone, he died for us and it�s the last thing that�s fair. He understands us much more than we can imagine. He says to us, I carried my cross and you have to carry yours, but God is next to you holding it with you. You won't have to carry it always but for some times. You are not alone, perhaps the person you see with a husband and a child has another cross to carry heavier than yours. It�s not easy to accept but God is giving us a solution that we are free to accept or not. If you refuse his help, if you deny him, if you get proud and tell him you don't need him, you'll feel worst because loneliness will be deeper. I experienced it, during two weeks I got mad at God. I didn't want to cast out my fears on him, it was a night mare and when I couldn�t bear it anymore i went to him and I felt released immediately I felt peace. don't let sin overcome your life but always go to God, he'll give you everything you need and for you who are waiting the most important is that God is saving the very best for you. Amen. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	loneliness the hardest thing on earth Posted : 13 Jun, 2013 07:06 AM This is good,wait upon the Lord and He is faithful.His timing is the best.Sometimes its not easy waiting, a year goes another one comes and goes, but when our God fulfills His promises we forget the many years we have cried coz He will give us the best. May God's abbundant grace be upon everyone who is waiting on Him. Post Reply
Guardian143 View Profile History	loneliness the hardest thing on earth Posted : 18 Jun, 2013 01:31 AM I'm already 43 but still waiting for the right one. Not to say I am passively waiting but trying to do my part but still waiting on God to send me who He has prepared for me. In the meantime, try to keep busy. Loneliness seems to creep in when we are focused too much on ourselves. I find joy in serving others especially in the church. Keep on developing friendships with singles and who knows one of them might be the one. God bless Post Reply
View Profile History	loneliness the hardest thing on earth Posted : 19 Jun, 2013 12:39 AM keep on praying because my aunt is 45 and she found someone this year. God is not deaf he hears when we pray with faith Post Reply
View Profile History	loneliness the hardest thing on earth Posted : 19 Jun, 2013 04:22 AM I once had a friend Chuck. We attended the same church together. He was friends of my wife at the time also. One day Chuck and I were in front of the church talking. He told me I was so blessed to be married and that he was feeling so lonely. What Chuck didnt know was, we were having difficulty in our marriage. We were issolated from eachother. I told Chuck lonelieness being single is nothing compared to being lonely and married. What Chuck was longing for was intimacy and what was lacking for my marriage was intimacy. The void of genuine intimacy can bring deep lonliness. The problem is we as people dont really know how to develop deep intimacy even though we desire it so much. In relationship we have needs and wants and the important ones are emotional. The need for trust and respect. The need for love and honor. We work hard to develop these qualities and extend them to others.Ultimately to find in relationship times when these are lacking. What do we do when this happens? The key to more and greater intimacy is humility and vualneribility. We tend to go into guarded mode when we find our needs not being met by another. Extending accusations pointing the finger. Like this is going to help us. When we do this we are seeking power over another individual and this ultimatley causes then to not move toward us but away. Expressing our needs and vaulnerability in a gentle way always wins in the heart of a good man and woman and destroys the lonliness we feel in our hearts. Creating oneness and deep satisfaction in relating with another. Post Reply
View Profile History	loneliness the hardest thing on earth Posted : 19 Jun, 2013 10:26 AM well said letthisinmind. there's nothing worst than feeling lonely when you are in a crowd Post Reply