Author	Thread: Why do?
Admin	Why do? Posted : 9 Jun, 2013 06:35 PM We men have difficulty expressing that we care? Except when we have something to gain. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do? Posted : 10 Jun, 2013 07:22 AM honestly Michael it seems something along the lines of a generational brainwashing of capitalistic intent started with a chicken in every pot, car in every garage ideal that has now resulted in some sort of materialistic,self induced,gainprofitshysteria.... or the manifestion of something like that,possibly? why is it? peoples of faith are prophets? peoples of worldy seek profits? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do? Posted : 11 Jun, 2013 03:44 AM I think it's just the nature of desire. We desire things that we believe will give our lives meaning and purpose. Without those 2 things, I believe we cease living either literally or figuratively. When my last serious (Long-term-on-again-off-again-long-distance) relationship ended for good, after I finally realized what she meant to me and got off the fence and decided I was willing to move for her only to find out she had already moved on, I told her I genuinely hoped she was happy and that the relationship she was now in would work out and be her last. I did my best to mean it, and for the most part did (both during and after I said it), painful and difficult as it was, but I knew in the back of my mind that if I was able to play God or have a time machine or some magic wand or something that I would probably use it to get her back. Eventually I had to let that desire go, and literally ask for God to heal me. I think that's how it should be with all desires. I also think a healthy way to sustain a desire for God is to acknowledge that He and He alone can give our lives meaning and purpose and we should be mindful of when other desires (things we perceive will give us meaning and purpose) come in to compete. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Why do? Posted : 11 Jun, 2013 08:16 AM I'm not sure it's always that we don't express it, perhaps it's a translation problem? Men and women do not think the same, whether it's genetics or environmental influence, not really important. I can't speak for all men, but I do "think" that I express my feelings and that I do care, but I don't think it's always in a way that a woman understands or as much as a woman expects. Is there too much lacking or too much expected? I guess that's the $1000 question. Is it a man's job to cater to a woman's every emotional whim? Is it a woman's job to hold it all in and trust with no evidence? Or should we meet each other halfway? I like the last one. I don't want my partner to be emotionally dependent on me. I want her to be strong and stable and I will be the same, so that we can lean on each other, not so that I drag her around or vice-versa. I think men need to express that they care, and I think women need to try to accept and trust what that man does express and how he expresses it, instead of expecting a commercialized/rom-com prince charming in every situation. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do? Posted : 11 Jun, 2013 05:23 PM Men and women usually express themselves very differently; also they place different levels of importance on the same acts. If you think they're not expressing their love then it's entirely possible you're not tuned into the way they're doing it already. This isn't a Christian specific issue and there are a wealth of pages on the web and in relationship books that explore this so I'd recommend doing some further research on the subject. Post Reply