Author	Thread: Got to ask you guys about what would you do
Admin	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 22 Apr, 2013 03:33 AM I have to ask. What would you guys do if the girl you loved had some really bad things happen in her life that made her very difficult to get along with? She would be one that can never make up her mind, so doesn�t know what she wants, is very afraid of 'being in a cage', and becomes very flightily when it comes to things get to hard. And has a very big emotional trigger that can be pushed at anytime. What would you do if you loved her? Just saying cause Ive noticed that a lot of ladies have that problem. And lets say she was a very sweet Christian and loved you back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 22 Apr, 2013 04:22 AM "She would be one that can never make up her mind, so doesn�t know what she wants," Perfect love casts out fear because fear involves torment. The cure for a mind that is unstable is to be renewed in the truth of Gods word. Leading a woman in listening to find Gods will is vital to any christian relationship. It is never about what we want but what is the will of God, right? So leading a lady to find the will of God is the answer. But even knowiing the will of God does not remove fear and the crippling effects fear has. This is where faith comes in. Faith is our willingness to follow Jesus inspite of and in the midst of our fear. We will never walk by faith without some level of fear. As we mature and learn the voice of the almighty we become more secure in our minds and thought process and begin to make good decisions that honor Christ. Even a loving sincere christian has to mature out of infancy. " is very afraid of 'being in a cage'" Marriage is a restriction. A cage can confine but also a cage can protect it is how one views their restrictions. I would recomend that if one has the fear of Cage " comitment" then they ought to mature out of this before seeking marriage. In marriage we like our relationship with Christ cease to have right to self. We now are giving our selves over to another and the power that comes with it. Scary.......huh......But the bible is clear that we loose the right to self govern under Christ and in marriage. Many people do not really grasp this concept. They want to hold onto their individualty. Their is no romm for individuals in the body of Christ and marriage. "and becomes very flightily when it comes to things get to hard. And has a very big emotional trigger that can be pushed at anytime. " Emotional triggers. Yes, they can be hairy.....LOL If you have a hair trigger then you probally fire off alot. So the fellow who is in relationship with a hair trigger woman will have to be very patient. Once a trigger is pulled then the gun must fire off, right? So we have to just allow the emotion to run its course that you might find release. Once you have found you release then you should be fine as long as the man has wisdom to be empathetic to your emotions and not defensive. In all of the things you have described you are not alone. We all have these sort of responses to life. Some hide it better than others. Some mannage their emotions better than others. What this woman needs and we all need and is the answer to all your inquiry is LOVE. love is the answer. For God sooooooo loved the world that He gave His one and only Son that whoever believes in His will not perish but have everlasting life. This is our model. To love, to give, to sacrifice, to die for others, to free from punishment, to bring life..... May the peace of God be with you..... Michael Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 22 Apr, 2013 08:52 AM Sometimes it's better not to get in a relationship until some people are healed up a bit more. I would probably just stay friends with the girl. There is a guy out there somewhere who could probably handle having a good marriage with her, because he knows how to deal with those sort of things, but not me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 22 Apr, 2013 06:01 PM ack! sounds like my soulmate,OH WAIT!!! sounds like me.... on second thought,sounds like everyone!!!!!!!! i guess i would just say," get past yourself,noone is special " but i would probably say," You smell like waffles ." or maybe i would cook us waffles? Post Reply
View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 24 Apr, 2013 10:59 AM Thanks for the replies, ^^. the reason why i wanted to ask is because I know alot of girls who have been hurt and abused badly. Yeah I know bad things happen to all of us. But to some it takes a long time to get over or they never do. So I was just wondering if there are others would love them back and could deal with their pain. Post Reply
View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 24 Apr, 2013 02:13 PM The reality as I found it is that the vast majority of women claim to have terrible tales of them being hurt or abused, and it is really unusual to find any Lady that does not have her own tale of woe. Their ex boyfriend was terrible, their ex husband was terrible, their step father was terrible, or whatever they say. Most sensible Men simply try to acknowledge the Lady's story and then we try to move on and try to forget about it. It is very seldom that we ever hear such stories from Men, and Women do not like the Men having any such sad story. We even hear the sob stories from the rich and famous Women, as like Oprah was abused as a child, Christina Aguilera was abused, Joyce Myers wrote a book about her abused life, so for some reason Women seem to find their history of pain and hurt as some thing which they value or a part of their identity. This is why men get the idea that Women want to be saved or rescued, and so we do try. Post Reply
View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 25 Apr, 2013 12:06 PM That seems to ring true in my experience too. Bad things happen whether deserved or not - that's life. The mature individual realises that, taking what positives they can from it and moving on. Not being willing or able to do so would be a barrier to a relationship for me as they're more in need of just a friend or perhaps professional help. Post Reply
prayreadwalk View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 6 May, 2013 01:52 AM What would I do? If I loved her, I'd have to continue loving her. If she's got behavior traits that are really harming her quality of life I'd suggest counseling. If she thinks counseling is only for crazy people, I'd have to lead by example and go myself. Show her is ok to get some help. I'd have to put the effort into understanding her point of view, so that I could find ways through actions to communicate health, love, peace, because if someone has serious, relationship blocking problems, they aren't going to change their life just by someone telling them to change their life. You gotta show them. The strength to do this comes from Jesus. Whether someones problems are huge and jagged, or under control, everyone has them. The only way to avoid dealing with messy people is to avoid them, and forever search for one that's perfect. That's no way to live. Post Reply
PrincipeMx View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 16 May, 2013 12:30 AM Love is patient, Love bears all! Post Reply
View Profile History	Got to ask you guys about what would you do Posted : 27 May, 2013 01:34 AM and prayer answereth all things... Post Reply