Author	Thread: Before you get married.
TravisjustTravis View Profile History	Before you get married. Posted : 22 Feb, 2013 09:14 PM When I was a younger man, a friend of mine told me that the dating pool was like fresh milk "the cream rises to the top" I am not the oldest single person, but over the years that I have been single I also have noticed that females can be compared to fine wine "that is they get better with age" (that is not to say that every older person is a keeper because some younger folks have better qualities than some of the older folks) It apears to me that each person should try to form there own checklist of what qualities there future spouce might be intrested in. (e.x. I think my future wife would like to marry a guy with some amount of financial stability...however if I meet a girl that says "I want my husband to have at least $25,000 in savings before I marry him" well at this time I do not want a relationship with a girl that is looking for a guy with $25,000 in savings) I think of myself like a car and not too many women want an old busted hoopde car! So I try to make improvements to myself like, learning some type of skill like cooking (the car still migh be an old hoopde...but its got nice rims!) But the improvements that I make lack organization, that is the dont have much of a rhyme or reason to them. I still try to make improvments but the situation looks more like Guerrilla warfare as opposed to a well trained army. So progress might be being made but I might paint the car red this week and put in matching interior, then next month I paint the car black (maby a big hindrence in finding a suitable wife is actualy me...maby its just that I do not know what qualities woud accompany me nicely due to the fact that maby I need to figure out more stuff about me!) Perhaps a person is reading this and they would like to share there checklist! Post Reply
View Profile History	Before you get married. Posted : 23 Feb, 2013 07:04 AM Oh yes, the check list.....Been there done that. Relationship is about discovery and self discovery is of greatest importance prior to finding a lasting commited relationship. I have worn many many masks over the years trying to learn who I was and trying to discover what is likable. What I have learned is that we are a vast diverse world of people and nothing is normal and everything is normal. I only know what is important to me now after many years of searching and found what is important to me. And enjoy the relationship of what is truly valuable. Whats is right for me might not be right for another and what is right for another is not right for me. Just be your self....... Post Reply
View Profile History	Before you get married. Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 02:25 PM Hey Travis, I just had to comment on this. My checklist isn't so much about qualities. I want to find someone honest, trustworthy, caring and loving. However, I want to find a woman that wants to do things on the weekend like common hobbies even when I marry the person. An older gentleman told me one time to never stop dating your wife. I feel like Christian couples sometimes get married and they assume� we need to have a child right away. I would like to have a child one day but I would also like to get to know my wife more before a child is brought into the world. Trying new hobbies doesn't have to be expensive. I can get fulfillment going on a 3 mile hike on the weekend and keeping active. I might not find someone that enjoy exact hobbies that I do but at least someone that wants to have fun on the weekend. Post Reply
TravisjustTravis View Profile History	Before you get married. Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 11:30 PM I may not have the right words, but I was thinking along the lines that maby other guys had a "checklist" of qualities that they would like to see in themselves before they get married. E.X. "before I am married I think that I should be at least...(a certain age or certain maturity level) I already crossed climbing Mt. Evearest of my list :MrT: (just kidding, death defying heights are not how I prefeer to relax!) Post Reply
TravisjustTravis View Profile History	Before you get married. Posted : 22 Mar, 2013 10:32 AM When I was 14 years old (or so) I did some yard work for a nice elderly married couple. Well a few years later the wife died and the man became very lonely. And one day he became so lonely he killed himself. Thats a tradgy in and of itself. And I learned a little from that. I think that some people never learn how to walk that good on there own, and they gladly lean on their helpmate (I have no complaints about relying on your spouce) I just think that it is unfortunate to not be able to walk that well if you are single. Please learn how to be comfortable with being single. because GOD can allow any of our life circumstances to change quickly! Post Reply
rikalin View Profile History	Before you get married. Posted : 24 Apr, 2013 01:49 AM Yes...absolutely agree with this statement "someone will enjoy his marriage life,when he/she had been satisfied/comfortable in his/her past single stage" Post Reply