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A Wonderful Way For Fathers To Affirm Their Daughters...
Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 03:36 AM
Single Fathers,
Has your church ever held a Father Daughter Dance? A dance which is all about affirming your daughter or daughters. If not, try suggesting that they do so.
If your church is unable to do such a thing, hold your own dance at home. Have music and her favorite food, and write for your daughter an ENORMOUS list of words that describe how special she is. Words such as you're unbelievably intelligent, you're playful, a genius - add why, you're caring, encouraging, gentle...go overboard. Read this list as you look into your daughters eyes, mean every word, and leave no question in her mind as to your sincerity. Get into a habit of doing such things.
Try writing your daughters letters of love and poetry, no matter how silly. Create a book of these things for her, and she'll remeber you forever. Set the standard as high as you possibly can for the young men she'll encounter in her life. View your daughters the way God views them. Love them the way God loves them. They are worth it.
This weekend I'll be accompanying my daughter to such a dance, where I'm supposed to have something written for her which I'll read to her out loud in front of everyone. So, after several failed attempts at writing sophisticated poetry, this is what I've come up with. My daughter is 6.
To my Daughter Savannah,
Thank you for your smile
For your laughs and giggles too
Thank you for your frowns and all the silly things you do
Thank you for your eyes like doves, the expressions on your face
Thank you for your little arms, so often wrapped around my waist
Thank you for your hugs and kisses each so full of love
Thank you for the mermaid songs I never would have sung
Thank you for introducing Barbie, for purple and for pink
You made me stop and listen�yes, you�ve made me stop and think
You have changed my life forever
Indeed you�ve helped me see
In many ways, though you don�t know it, you have helped to set me free
For this I�d like to thank you, for helping find what had been lost
The you in me that I�ve not seen for years since he�d run off
A little boy, who�s much like you, but shy and rarely seen
You�ve helped him smile, helped him giggle, you�ve made him want to sing
Though others may not see them, I know for certain they are there
The wings which God has graced you with
Wings you were meant to wear
What an honor to be the father of one so special and so fair
To be conquered by a princess, with mermaid songs and golden hair
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Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 04:34 AM
Good poem,
she is blessed to have you as her daddy. Mine is grown into a beautiful strong secure young woman because of the time I have invested in her. Teach her and watch her make good decisions. Listen to her and she will learn how to listen. Show her the example of genuine love and she will choose a man who will love her truly. Protect her and she will be secure. And in all of this she will respect you highly. Earned respect through sacrifice.
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Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 06:42 AM
Hi Dreamtime,
I know your post was meant for guys, but I as a gal just wanted to thank you and to bless you.
What an awesome way to be a dad!
Guys, remember that all women (no matter how tough and independent they seem to be!) need such tokens of love and appreciation.
I know I never had a dad who'd affirm me in such a way. With time, I learnt to rely on God and to seek fulfilment and find my identity in Him alone. But I know that I missed out a lot.
So, if you possibly can - as boyfriends, husbands and eventually dads - yes, do have dance nights with us and do tell us how special we are. No matter if we're 6, 16, 36 or 66 years of age :)
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Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 11:53 AM
Dreamtime,
Your post really touched my heart and you are such a fine young man and daddy. The poem you wrote your daughter is absolutely beautiful. And thanks for sharing it with us.
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Posted : 10 Feb, 2013 08:46 AM
Thank you for your comments :)
Our dance last night was spectacular!
Using wonderful words to lift my daughter into the clouds, focusing solely on her and looking into her eyes as if nothing else existed while dancing amidst a crowd of people (dancing sometimes on my knees) was as amazing an experience as is possible. I didn't even come close to reading my daughter the poem I wrote her without crying.
To know that this is the type of interaction that Jesus desires with each one of us is for me, indescribable. I don't know about you, but I long to be swept off my feet by the Lord. I long to comprehend the way that Jesus must see me. All too often though, I find myself like Peter, falling at Jesus' feet, and crying "Go away from me Lord, for I am a sinful man!" when what I truly long for is to be lifted into the clouds by gentle, loving Words, to be held, because I cannot hold myself, and to know so utterly and deeply that I am loved, as I gaze into the Eyes of my Father, as if nothing else exists.
May the Lord bless us, and open our eyes to the way He sees us in Christ!
