Author	Thread: Is it ungodly to be in a relationship?
Jacesassie View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 11:37 AM Everything is on the topic... Is it out of Gods will to have a relationship with someone?...i was discussing with a fellow christian on this site...he believes in being friends because to him there should only be a relationship after an engagement....i dont know how it should be,i am confused...because i knew a relationship/dating is Godly if we do it in Gods will and purpose...avoiding fornication and all that comes with it,having in mind though that you and this supposed man are journeying to seal a covenant of marriage before God at his chosen time...but now am made to understand that there can only be normal friendship,then a proposal suddenly,followed by a relationship then marriage...is it? Or is it friendship,a relationship,engagement and then marriage?....am confused... Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 12:29 PM Engagement/marriage/dating/etc didn't really exist during bible times like it does now, and there are no biblical verses that instruct us on the details about how we should go about those things, except for the underlying principles that it should be honest, modest, avoiding immorality/fornication, etc. Sounds like he has an opinion on the matter, perhaps based on wise counsel, who knows. I've always had a bit of a problem with the mechanical approach that "courtship" tends to have. My personal method would be friendship, then dating, then engagement, then marriage. So I guess my "dating" would be kinda like "courtship", but I don't see the point in getting engaged to someone I'm only "friends" with. Committing to someone before I know if we're compatible as more than "friends"? Sounds dangerous to me...but maybe it's just a misunderstanding of his definitions. Maybe to him being friends is "dating".. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 16 Jan, 2013 03:53 AM Many people have differing definitions of relationship, dating, engagement, marriage. So what is marriage beside the physical intimate expression? Is it not a friendship? Is it not a relationship that works. I put that works because many individuals have relationships that are unhealthy and do not work. Have you read what Love is or what the King James version calls charity? It is very easy for individuals to have the right words even the imposter scammers have learned the language of christianity. But it is by a persons fruit or works that the evidence of Faith or being joined with Christ the true vine becomes the evidence of their trust in God. How does one discover fruit? Well just like a vine or tree the fruit is produced in time is it not? If you want a husband who produces good fruit then you must wait to see if you find a man who produces good fruit. If you rush into a relationship and marriage you more than likely will discover that not only is the fruit rotten on his tree but you have some rotten fruit as well. One good indicator of good fruit is what and where do you go with the physical lust a man and woman have for eachother. If your lust is great then it will be great after marriage. How do you know that a mans or your lust for that much will be satisfied by one individual after marriage? It probally will not. So i would encourage you rather than define in terms like relationship, marriage, engagement etc......to learn truly what God would have a young woman like your self to be looking for in Godly character. Than wait to see over time if his values stand the test of time. Post Reply
lovehope3 View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 7 Feb, 2013 03:15 PM Anyway you choose. There's no ground rules on this on. Just be holy in however you choose to be with that person (i.e. friendship, marriage, engagement, relationship...) Much love in CHRIST JESUS :) Post Reply