Author	Thread: Is it ungodly to be in a relationship?
Jacesassie View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 11:36 AM Everything is on the topic... Is it out of Gods will to have a relationship with someone?...i was discussing with a fellow christian on this site...he believes in being friends because to him there should only be a relationship after an engagement....i dont know how it should be,i am confused...because i knew a relationship/dating is Godly if we do it in Gods will and purpose...avoiding fornication and all that comes with it,having in mind though that you and this supposed man are journeying to seal a covenant of marriage before God at his chosen time...but now am made to understand that there can only be normal friendship,then a proposal suddenly,followed by a relationship then marriage...is it? Or is it friendship,a relationship,engagement and then marriage?....am confused... Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 12:02 PM Friendship is a form of relationship, as is employment. Even cooking a meal for the old lady down the road once a week entails some kind of relationship (that of trust) between you. Without knowing what definition he has in mind it would be difficult to say. I will say that if you're dating someone then the relationship needs to be something more than just friendship. That doesn't justify fornication or anything close to it even, but being 'just friends' isn't a commitment to you, and excuses him to have several female 'friends', because, hey, you know, we're not like in a relationship or anything... I'd insist on acting like just friends if he's not willing to define the relationship as the something more which requires him to only have eyes for you. Post Reply
MikeWheeler View Profile History	Is it ungodly to be in a relationship? Posted : 8 Feb, 2013 06:02 PM dk is right on the money. but i'd add the following (of course building on what dk said) having eyes only for you is absolutely critical. but, at the same time it's important to know where they are coming from. being intimate with someone is massively important. but, not in the sexual way. that is for marriage. but, to get to know eachother in pretty much every way is what most look for in a deep relationship. it's impossible to say one way or the other what his intentions are by the decision to remain friends for now. but, i say it boils down to his slight immaturity (and we all have our moments.. even myself in some regards) to define what it means to be in a committed relationship with a potential wife, as opposed to being in a friendship. but, at the same time, it seems quite clear that he has some good foundations, since he knows it isn't just about sex and romance... but also about building a bond. Post Reply