I understand someone who doesn't want to be with someone who drinks or smokes; both can cause really complicated relationships and can lead to substance abuse. I think smoking is disgusting, but I have a drink maybe three times a year, mostly for special occasions. I love Jesus like anyone else, but I don't think one glass of wine is wrong, or that the Bible says it is wrong.
Which brings me to questions #1: Since this site gives the option to not talk to anyone who drinks, is it really fair to label someone because of that?
And questions #2: If you met the girl of your dreams, who loved the Lord and you could see a future with, but you disagreed about drinking, would that be a deal-breaker?
I know everyone is different, so this is purely out of curiosity.
I think there is a reason why they have those options available, once a year or something like that is fine IMO its just that people who binge drink is totally unacceptable.
Some quotes about this
Ephesians 5:18
And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit.
Proverbs 20:1
Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler, and whoever is led astray by it is not wise.
Even things on this site like do you drink or not and what label we accept according to our choices are up to interpetation by the one obsurving our profile.
So what does these things really tell us about a individual. One who does not drink maybe legalistic.
One who says they drink one now and them what does that mean?
What about getting to know people? What about addiction to food or coffee or work or religion.
Does anyone really live in such freedom that their life is perfect? We all justify something in our lives dont we?
Can anyone really say that they have nothing that they dont justify?
I agree, completely. There should be other choices to pick besides drinking, smoking and babies. What about how often you read the Bible? Or, if you're a vegetarian? There are things that people can relate on that would make sense to put in... maybe they're trying to get us to go to Christian Mingle instead, since that has been the main advertisement I've seen since I came back.
Also, because wine was drank regularly in the Bible, I believe those scriptures are mainly on overindulging. The Bible says overindulging in anything is a sin, and alcohol is one that can lead to even worse consequences (in this life), so it warns against it. It says being "drunk" with wine.
Which brings me to questions #1: Since this site gives the option to not talk to anyone who drinks, is it really fair to label someone because of that?
Answer
Evenly yoked. Such a statement is multi demensional, it means spiritually, mentally and physically compatiable. Additionally there is a reference to kings and drunkeness and avoiding strong drink... Do you want a man who is the king of his castle (meaning himself, as the body is a castle and castles are the homes of kings) or does your yoke require something else?
Inquiry #2
And questions #2: If you met the girl of your dreams, who loved the Lord and you could see a future with, but you disagreed about drinking, would that be a deal-breaker?
Answer
Evenly yoked means evenly yoked. If you are not evenly yoked you are gambling... In other words you have a 1 in 1,000,000 chance of hitting the jackpot when you do not share common fundamentals of daily living.
What you are, expect in a mate or a potential mate. 1 Samual 25, Proverbs 31, Galations, 5: 20 lay out the philosophy in potential mate choosing very well.
I know everyone is different, so this is purely out of curiosity
Alcohol is not forbidden in the bible (indeed, it may even be encouraged, depending on your interpretation of some verses) but getting drunk certainly is!:toomuch: Whether you have a few pints:Mug: every weekend, or never touch the stuf:excited:f, is no indication of faith, obedience or responsibility, and so long as you don't get drunk, I couldn't care less...
I enjoy red wine and my feincee would not have chosen to talk with me if I had put on my profile i had drank any because her dad had issues with alcohol and his anger toward the family.
I am a very well tempered man and know how to process my emotions in a healthy way. Some use alcohol to hide from their emotions I just enjoy a glass of wine.
Since this site gives the option to not talk to anyone who drinks, is it really fair to label someone because of that?
...the person must be fairly adamant about not wanting alcohol around if s/he chooses to not communicate with those who drink. So, it's probably in your best interest to just move on to the next in those cases anyway.
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If you met the girl of your dreams, who loved the Lord and you could see a future with, but you disagreed about drinking, would that be a deal-breaker?
...my position on alcohol is somewhat similar to yours. I don't object to it when used in moderation. Still, I don't drink at all myself. I wouldn't want to get involved with a woman who drinks several times a week. Rarely, on special occasions, once a month...something along those lines wouldn't bother me.
I believe every human is a addict to something. Addiction is obsession.
Some can be obsessed with work and some can be obsesses with church activities and bible reading.
Some obsessions lead to destruction and some lead to life. and life everlasting.........
Scripture talks about being under the power of any. Power of something over ones life is the ability to have good judgement. To mannage ones life for the glory of the kingdom of God.
Their was a time when I turned my obsession to planting flowers. I couldnt have enough beauty around my house.
The thing how does our obsessions effect those around us? If we have a unbelieving spouse and we are spending every waking moment in church activity. Is that healthy for the relatonship?
If we are working 60 hours weekly. Is that healthy for our relationships?
If we are spending every waking moment in front of the tv is that healthy for our relationships?
If we are spending evey waking hour in a craft or working on a car project, is that healthy for our relationships?
You see unhealthy addiction will close out the relationships we have in life. Unhealthy addiction will leave us by our selves.
So I would encourage everyone to do some self evaluation and determine what in your life might be closing out people and relationships?
Let us not figure out how to fix others but be better more equipped individuals our selves. Let us do the self evaluation and repent of what God reveals to our hearts as individuals.
Then we will have revival in the single community.
I have no objection to drinking alcohol, except not to be a drunkard who can not control their booze.
My finding is that alcohol has been around for so many thousands of years that I sometimes wonder if God did not teach humans how to make the stuff. Otherwise how could some very uneducated farmer of old old times have thought about putting fruit and yeast into water and letting it ferment long enough and then to drink the stuff? which at first taste nasty.
Alcohol is not just for drinking, as it use to be used as a disinfectant which probably saved many lives.
The Bible has a peculiar speech concerning booze in Proverbs 31:
6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.
Link the text here = http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=proverbs%2031&version=KJV
We do need to drink carefully, but booze is not a sin, and I would like to find a Lady who drinks a little but not too much.
