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IamIsabel

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How important is it to date/marry a lady who is sexually pure?
Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 01:49 PM

I'm not talking about virgins but those who practice celebacy before marriage. So for a divorced lady it would mean she would not be sexually active until she marrys agan.

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KiwiMav

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How important is it to date/marry a lady who is sexually pure?
Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 05:42 PM

Pretty important.

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gracefreedme

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Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 05:47 PM

I made a promise to God when I got divorced to do things His way this time. Which means no sex or living together before marriage. I waited 3 yrs. before going on the first date and it's been almost 4 yrs. now. It is hard but I know it will be worth it when God does decide to bless me with another spouse. So for me it is very important. To make a commitment to God and stick with it is rare these days. I actually had a "Christian" woman dump me because of my stand on this. There is no half-way, you either commit or not.

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Posted : 12 Nov, 2012 12:43 AM

That someone had slipped up sexually wouldn't be a bar to me - like any other sin, I'm more concerned with whether they've repented and resolved to live in accordance with God's will or whether they're happy to continue as they are.

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Posted : 13 Nov, 2012 02:19 PM

I have no expectation that women I date will be virgins. What I do expect is that we'll be in a place with our relationship with God that she'll desire to keep our relationship pure. Forgiving past indiscretions isn't hard. God has forgiven mine and forgiven hers, and to refuse to forgive her would be to place myself above God. It's just not wise to enter into a romantic relationship with a person who has no intention of waiting until marriage or doesn't see the value in it.

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Posted : 13 Nov, 2012 05:22 PM

Purity of body is the fruit of purity of mind and heart. Purity is good fruit.



Bonapetite.

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Posted : 14 Nov, 2012 10:39 AM

It's as important as all the other commandments given to us by our Heavenly Father.

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Posted : 14 Nov, 2012 11:44 AM

gracefreedme,

You are cuter than pigs!

We probably wouldn't be a good match. I"m 4 years older than you, and would rather be a writer than a preacher's wife.

However, you are so cute, and I also enjoy your comments so I hope we can be good friends on the chat forum!

Blessings,

Debby

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Posted : 14 Nov, 2012 07:50 PM

In the imaginary 'ideal mate' list of attributes, virginity would certainly be one of them for me, but honestly it's pretty shallow to see it as a dealbreaker. Modern evangelical christians have the tendency of having strange tier lists of kinds of sins. Why would it be any worse to date a non-virgin (ignoring previous marriage) than to date someone who was once a thief or a coveter or an atheist? Most evangelicals wouldn't think twice of the last three, but the first one becomes a big deal. It's really nothing more than self-serving pride getting in the way of God's plan and is actually a sin. Such people really need to soul-search and ask whether their obsession with their lady being a virgin is about them-self or God. Remember, pride is the biggest sin of all men, and due to it's more spiritual and emotional nature, it's harder to nail down on paper, but this is nothing more than pride.



We are all sinners who deserve to burn in the fires of hell forever and ever and ever. There is no limit to the amount of torment we justly deserve. We cannot even fathom it. We have no right to judge people for actions they have turned from any more than they have to judge ours. This is what forgiveness and love is all about. Chastity is a wonderful and beautiful thing, but like many of the virtues, it has an ugly side when it is overemphasized in ungodly ways. Chastity done out of pride is no better than lust, at least in my opinion.

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Posted : 15 Nov, 2012 12:51 PM

I totally agree - one of the devil's best cons is that there are various levels of sin and some are worse than others (we get to pick which ones, and of course, the worst ones aren't the ones we commit). It's sad how many Christians also accept and perpetuate this lie, even though Jesus told hard-hitting parables like just looking at a woman lustfully was the same as taking her to bed.



Sin is sin is sin. The 'out and proud' homosexual is no worse than the one who 'borrows' a ream of paper from the office - or rather, the latter is no better than the former.:angeldevil:

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Posted : 18 Nov, 2012 06:37 AM

Totally important...God has told us this:



1Cr 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,



1Cr 6:13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body [is] not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.





1Cr 6:14 And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.





1Cr 6:15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make [them] the members of an harlot? God forbid.





1Cr 6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.





1Cr 6:17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.





1Cr 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.



1Cr 7:1 � Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman.





1Cr 7:2 Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

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