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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 06:32 AM

I've been on this site since 07 and no luck finding a long term committed relationship.I message women on here.....no reply..at all....never. What am I doing wrong? Can someone give me advice on my profile? I know , I know i've heard it before: Be patient and God will bless you etc. Not saying those things arent tru but c'mon man really! Whats wrong with these women on? I'm not saying I'm Gods gift to women or that im all that. I'm just trying to meet a descent woman. Not a super model or a perfect ten just a woman who wants a committed relationship and likes me for me.....ill get off my little soap box now

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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 12:13 PM

idk Bro Zro

You and Your profile appear as perfect as i and mine appear wretched...

maybe the Ladies are holding out for average types?

maybe the Ladies are holding out for a more financially aspiring types?

maybe the Ladies just not that into ??????

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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 01:08 PM

I say you are expecting too much.



It has nothing to do with the style of anyone's profile page.



For Men it can be very nervous to meet a Lady for the first time - but for the Ladies is can be a terrifying thought without ever even actually meeting the Man.



To meet a stranger from an online dating site is asking and expecting too much from mere mortals.



Some people do it but there are usually unsaid reasons, as like they recognize the other person from real life, or they have some real life friend who knows the other person, and some times if the couple are very young then they might take such a risk.



I know of one couple who were strangers who met and married from the old Yahoo dating, and she told me how she did it. First she asked the Man for his real name and his place of employment and she called the place to verify it, then she did a legal back ground check through the Court, and then they met at a public site along with a couple friends so that she felt safe, and then they started dating and eventually got married and going on 18 years now.



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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 02:40 PM

It's interesting that we place so much of a stigma on people who we meet online. It's not like you really know the strangers you meet in real life any better or can trust them more. People get kidnapped, raped, and murdered all the time by people they know, but the ones we're most suspicious of are the people we don't know.

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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 04:04 PM

@OP:



You aren't necessarily doing anything wrong - I don't know of any guys on here who's had any real success, so your results are literally par for the course. However, you are far more likely to find your future partner through other channels in life such as church or workplace. If you can find a hobby that's relatively gender neutral then that'd also help because it's mingling with women in real life that is likely to kick things off, whereas chatting is about as much as you can expect from sites like these.



I'm here mostly for the forums myself and because working shifts I don't get regular free time to socialise much, but I've also been where you are now and have to accept that any future relationship is very unlikely to be conceived online.

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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 05:05 PM

Dude. CHILL. I think your profile is a good one...but I'm not a woman:laugh:



I think this site is very interesting. Think of your issue on this site in this why...perhaps it really isn't you but them. It's very likely that the majority of women on this site have some serious issues. Then again, you should be looking for the exceptional anyway, so just keep your head up and hopes high and wait on God.:peace:

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Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 05:06 PM

Dude. CHILL. I think your profile is a good one...but I'm not a woman:laugh:



I think this site is very interesting. Think of your issue on this site in this why...perhaps it really isn't you but them. It's very likely that the majority of women on this site have some serious issues. Then again, you should be looking for the exceptional anyway, so just keep your head up and hopes high and wait on God.:peace:

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Posted : 18 Oct, 2012 03:51 AM

I have felt that many times in my search over the past 7 years. Now I am engaged to be married this coming year.



Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you.



I cant tell you how true this statement is and how important it is in the process of God creating us into the men He needs us to be.





Strength & Honor,





M

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Posted : 19 Oct, 2012 05:41 PM

My analogies and comparison usually don't make any sense, but humor me for a minute. Courting/dating is like a casino, this site is like a slot machine, and the woman God has for us is the "jackpot." Simply putting quarters in a slot machine doesn't make us automatic jackpot winners. Likewise, looking for a long term relationship online doesn't guarantee you that you will find someone with equal interests that you desire to know and vice-versa. If this slot machine (Christian Dating For Free) appears to be a lost cause, fortunately you can try your luck with the other games in the casino (local events, Church/single adult activities, blind dates, another website, etc...). You could also just keep feeding the machine more quarters (be patient and continue seeing who is on CDFF) and hope one day you do hit the jackpot.



I don't know you very well, but I did look at your profile and it looks fine. Perhaps nothing is wrong with you OR the girls on this site. It's just simply not your "lucky day."

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Posted : 20 Oct, 2012 03:51 PM

thats a down right epic descriptive dracula :applause:

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Posted : 21 Oct, 2012 11:22 AM

Brother.

It isn't you. When women suspect you have genuine standards, they run from a real man of God. They're looking for nominal baby christians. Ask the Lord for real women of God. I've point blank, asked women to be my girl friend and they ignore the question and say, thanks for stopping by my profile. At least give me the courtesy by saying, you're not my cup of tea.

Sam

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