I am not asking a question but would like to share with you men how I found the right lady.
By becoming a leader. Godly women are looking for Godly leaders that they feel safe in following.
But it is not us leading and her following. It is us finding the will of God and then walking together in that. That is where unity comes from.
You see the beautiful thing is we dont have to have all the answers if we find a godly woman. We just need to be humble men who are willing to pray and seek for the answers.
When a woman knows a man is sucessful not just trying to find the will of God she will feel secure and confident in her man.
Finding the will of God is not about action but relationship. Relationship with God comes first and action follows.
Men can tend to be men of mere action and appear Godly. God is a God of relationship. Everything He says and does comes out of Gods relating with His creation.
It is easier for a woman to figure this out since they are more relational then us men. Now Im not saying become a sissy. God is no sissy.
God is strength combined with passion, compassion, gentleness and most important love.
The ballence of strength and weakness.
Being a man who leads his woman in humility. A man who leads his woman in unity. A man who cherishs genuinly his lady.
How do we become such men? Know Christ and you will be such a man. Like Paul writes learn Christ. When you have learned Christ, God will bring you the lady He has waiting for you. I guarentee this to you.
When you learn Christ you will have the choice pickings of the ladies here and anywhere. When you learn Christ many of the ladies you thought were so great will seem dull.
Judging from the content of this article, I would say that you still lack understanding. Conspicuously, as with just about all of your posts, the Biblical support is lacking. As Christians, we are called to live in accordance with the Word of God and not "lean to our own understanding"
When the seed is wrong, the root is wrong. When that tree finally matures, it will produce the wrong fruit. This fruit will be the evidence of the wrong seed that went into the ground in the beginning. You are sewing the wrong seed. It might take a good deal of time before this becomes clear to you in the context of your marriage, but it will nevertheless become clear.
Would you like to dissect your article piece by piece? We can do that if you want.
You are offering advice to the men here. Right? "How to find the right lady"? Right? Be like Mike... wear Nikes, drink Gatorade, and all that other cool stuff, right?
Are us guys free to "submit" our perspectives of your article for your review? From your previous articles, I assumed we were. My perspective is that this article shows a lack of understanding despite whatever positive admonitions it may contain in the end such as "learn Christ"
Setting aside the obvious self-aggrandizement and the articles confusion and simply trying to read between the lines to uncover the main points, one is still left wondering if the main points are Biblically correct. For me those main points read a bit like this:
I for one understood the context NOT to be and " end all, be all" but a very good thought process. I commend you Sir.
For others who wish to spew out venom towards me & others here who really make every attempt to seek the will of God through the Bible, prayer, counsel of wiser and the mysterious leading of the Holy Spirit....I'm right here in Cebu, P.I.
Not hard to find....... step out from this " Key board commando " Ninja poop and then ...let us speak face to face.
Better yet, how bout we focus on unity and building each other up, doing good, seek peace and save the lost ! ? !
"For others who wish to spew out venom towards me & others here who really make every attempt to seek the will of God through the Bible, prayer, counsel of wiser and the mysterious leading of the Holy Spirit....I'm right here in Cebu, P.I."
Sounds like action... I guess you must have skipped this part in the article: 'Finding the will of God is not about action but relationship." (whatever that means - we can't be sure because the article doesn't tell us)
Templar, if you believe that I object to someone seeking the will of God, you are mistaken. Please read my initial comment: "Conspicuously, as with just about all of your posts, the Biblical support is lacking. As Christians, we are called to live in accordance with the Word of God and not "lean to our own understanding"
If you or anyone else want to understand what parts of this OP I find problematic, feel free to email me. Otherwise, I am done here.
M said: "We cant help those who having ears but not hearing, having eyes but not seeing. Those who seek to destroy and not build up."
I agree completely. I realized after I posted that you would never be open to hearing anything that I had to say which is why I wanted to quickly extricate myself from this thread. I've seen what has happened here before when other members challenged your superiority. It wasn't a very pretty outcome for anyone.
M said: "Arent we as the body called to edify oneanother? It seems most only know rebuke. Not only rebuke but hostility toward oneanother."
Edification would include not sitting back and watching while a brother deludes himself with unbiblical thinking and then promotes that to other men. That's my view. I realize though that most men these days are more like you. They need to always hear that they are right regardless of the circumstances. You see, in modern Christianity, it's all about building "self esteem" and not glorifying God. Who was glorified when you asserted "Hey Guys, look at me, I have the formula for finding wives. I have transformed myself into a leader. Now that I have arrived as a leader of men, I want you all to know just how I achieved all of this on my own so that you can get guaranteed results." ?
Now, I could have just as easily said, why did you write this OP rebuking all of the men here for not being leaders? After all, your assertion is that if we were the proper leaders, we would all have wives. So, according to you, we all have it wrong. That seems pretty hostile when you think about it, doesn't it? But your motivation was in love right? To tell us to follow in your footsteps so that we can achieve what you have achieved? Right?
M said: "I see here great hostility expressed. When did hostility become associated with love? Love being the greatest will of God."
You see what you want to see because you still don't understand things rightly. If you choose to see hostility, so be it. I know why I do what I do and I will continue to do it because it's a necessary function for the body. I also know that those that don't like any form of correction always use cliche' lines like this to recast the discussions in their favor.
M said: "God tells us that if we are not able to love oneanother who we see how can we love God who we dont see."
Since, you have a definition of love consistent with humanism and not holiness, again you see what you want to see even a god who is " a balance of strength and weakness" Your god is a reflection of how you perceive yourself.
Further, to my point I would like to include another quote from you:
You said: "I have met many people here claiming the title of christian. Even this site has the title but to be honest most I have met are not true followers of Christ. Even the administrators in my experience are not following Christ."
Tell me, is that edifying? Is that a rebuke? Is that "loving"? What is that exactly? Even the admin are quote "not following Christ". Doesn't your comment pretty much tear down a good number of people on this site, the site itself, and those working behind the scenes to provide this free service for everyone?
It's a sincere inquiry.. I mean I just can't find the consistency in your thoughts and actions.
