Author	Thread: Why Wink and Not Chat?
Looking4someonereal View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 2 Aug, 2012 05:36 PM Any time I get a "wink" I normally always send the person a message saying hello instead of winking back. I am curious to know, why doesn't the individual write back?? Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 2 Aug, 2012 07:34 PM I couldnt tell you. I always write back when someone sends me a message/wink. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 2 Aug, 2012 10:31 PM Not a guy but just thought i should say something; After the experiences i have had on here, i have come to realize that some people just send random winks and they even forget that they sent a wink to a specific person. Like you, i have always received winks from guys but when i write back usually to say hello and to thank them for the wink, i get ignored...lol and because of that, i have decided not to respond to winks unless the wink is accompanied by a message. Post Reply
Looking4someonereal View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 3 Aug, 2012 04:08 PM Hmmm, that does make sense, just reply to the wink/message:applause: I also had one time a guy wink, then I sent email saying thank you and he said it was an "accident"...:stop: Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 3 Aug, 2012 07:59 PM I dont like to say it, but some guys use the "shotgun" approach. Send out a large number of winks/messages in the hopes that a few write back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 4 Aug, 2012 05:55 AM We all want someone we can communicate with harmony dont we? If you become frustrated over a wink their could a couple of problems. Either you are not patient enough or the Guy is not someone with whom you can communicate in harmony. Its really simple, let us develop our communication skills and continue to do so until we meet the right person with whom we are one in communicating. Communication is key above all else. In care, Michael Post Reply
mithridates View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 4 Aug, 2012 09:48 PM Men have an enormous spectrum of directness and indirectness in communication. Some will walk up to a physically attractive girl and tell her "You're beautiful" while others might literally just hold a gaze with her a second longer than expected. Winking on a site like this just might be a low-committment way of saying "you are interesting". Type 2 males will be much more likely to do this than type 1, that's for sure, haha. Then of course, as said above, you have the kind of guy who shotguns 100 winks and hopes at least 10 reply, using winks because it's time efficient. This method is less...romantic to say the least, but I cannot deny it's practicality! It's also worth noting that just because it's the social norm for boys to chase girls doesn't mean that some percentage of boys actually want to be chased by girls. Such a gender role reversal isn't particularly surprising considering the enormous personality spectrum and there are certainly girls out there who enjoy doing the chasing. Needless to say, these are only some ideas. It depends on the guy individually. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 5 Aug, 2012 09:27 AM Whenever we send a message it gets ignored so why not send a wink? It's a lot easier. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 5 Aug, 2012 05:45 PM I have never used the wink function, but maybe men and women are in time constraints and have limited "man shopping" and/or "guy shopping". I suppose it would be easier to just send a wink than write an original message. I suppose the least they could do is write a universal open message and copy/paste it. It would be a bit more sneaky. =p Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wink and Not Chat? Posted : 6 Aug, 2012 02:45 AM If one can't have the time and patience to read and write a genuine message,why even try to pursue a relationship? You wont have time either. .......... The best is to ignore a wink I guess,unless you just want to say hi and expect nothing in return. If ever I respond to a wink,that which I rarely do... I just ask what was the wink for? Lol. Post Reply