I have come and gone from this site several times. I've tried online dating for quite a while. I have had my share of dates only there is no one and I mean no one who seems to be serious enough about moving towards the only biblical goal of courting, "Marriage". In the world this is to be expected but as Christians, I would think it different. Do you guys just have cold feet, or are you really not interested in taking the next step?
I think some men have made mistakes in the past. Mistakes that have cost them some of their ability to trust. Other men claim to be Christian, but arent. Then there are ment like myself, who, because of their beliefs and upbringing, have an extremely difficult time finding a woman who matches their...standards. I would absolutely love to find the woman God has chosen for me, get married, and have a family, but I have yet to find her.
The first type of man I spoke of, well, you just have to have patience with them. The men who claim Christianity, but are not Christian. They are not worth your time. Many have spoken with them to no avail.
I wounder if Peacenic knows your name means peace also?
To be honest and dont want to discourage you. I dated many american women. What I discovered is their is a stuburnness with the ones I choose. Their was this tremendous guardedness.
I dont know if this is other mens experience. But I began to speak with the women in other countries especially asain ladies.
I found their attitude was softer and their faith in following Gods will more genuine.
I wounder if the women of America are being abandoned for ladies over seas. I know I have found one great, precious lady over seas.
I think the Ladies of America have lost their selves. To what is for each lady to search out her own heart before God. I think it is probally to late for many American women.
I think many of American women are so damaged that a realtionship with God is their only option to find the love they need and looking for. Because He is the only one who can fill that deep void and heal the wounds you sweet ladies have.
But this takes time. Unfortunitly when I have spoken to many ladies they still are living the victom role and are not willing to search out their own heart to discover understanding between what happened to them and their husbands.
What I hear is that they are forgiven but they are clueless to what they are forgiven of. God wants us to look at the ugly parts of our hearts and bring them before Him that we might recieve His love and cleansing.
I wounder if Peacenic knows your name means peace also?
To be honest and dont want to discourage you. I dated many american women. What I discovered is their is a stuburnness with the ones I choose. Their was this tremendous guardedness.
I dont know if this is other mens experience. But I began to speak with the women in other countries especially asain ladies.
I found their attitude was softer and their faith in following Gods will more genuine.
I wounder if the women of America are being abandoned for ladies over seas. I know I have found one great, precious lady over seas.
I think the Ladies of America have lost their selves. To what is for each lady to search out her own heart before God. I think it is probally to late for many American women.
I think many of American women are so damaged that a realtionship with God is their only option to find the love they need and looking for. Because He is the only one who can fill that deep void and heal the wounds you sweet ladies have.
But this takes time. Unfortunitly when I have spoken to many ladies they still are living the victom role and are not willing to search out their own heart to discover understanding between what happened to them and their husbands.
What I hear is that they are forgiven but they are clueless to what they are forgiven of. God wants us to look at the ugly parts of our hearts and bring them before Him that we might recieve His love and cleansing.
I wounder if Peacenic knows your name means peace also?
To be honest and dont want to discourage you. I dated many american women. What I discovered is their is a stuburnness with the ones I choose. Their was this tremendous guardedness.
I dont know if this is other mens experience. But I began to speak with the women in other countries especially asain ladies.
I found their attitude was softer and their faith in following Gods will more genuine.
I wounder if the women of America are being abandoned for ladies over seas. I know I have found one great, precious lady over seas.
I think the Ladies of America have lost their selves. To what is for each lady to search out her own heart before God. I think it is probally to late for many American women.
I think many of American women are so damaged that a realtionship with God is their only option to find the love they need and looking for. Because He is the only one who can fill that deep void and heal the wounds you sweet ladies have.
But this takes time. Unfortunitly when I have spoken to many ladies they still are living the victom role and are not willing to search out their own heart to discover understanding between what happened to them and their husbands.
What I hear is that they are forgiven but they are clueless to what they are forgiven of. God wants us to look at the ugly parts of our hearts and bring them before Him that we might recieve His love and cleansing.
I wounder if Peacenic knows your name means peace also?
To be honest and dont want to discourage you. I dated many american women. What I discovered is their is a stuburnness with the ones I choose. Their was this tremendous guardedness.
I dont know if this is other mens experience. But I began to speak with the women in other countries especially asain ladies.
I found their attitude was softer and their faith in following Gods will more genuine.
I wounder if the women of America are being abandoned for ladies over seas. I know I have found one great, precious lady over seas.
I think the Ladies of America have lost their selves. To what is for each lady to search out her own heart before God. I think it is probally to late for many American women.
I think many of American women are so damaged that a realtionship with God is their only option to find the love they need and looking for. Because He is the only one who can fill that deep void and heal the wounds you sweet ladies have.
But this takes time. Unfortunitly when I have spoken to many ladies they still are living the victom role and are not willing to search out their own heart to discover understanding between what happened to them and their husbands.
What I hear is that they are forgiven but they are clueless to what they are forgiven of. God wants us to look at the ugly parts of our hearts and bring them before Him that we might recieve His love and cleansing.
Sadly, and I say this with heaviness of heart -your post is dead on. God has used some of the ladies overseas here on this site to renew my hope in women. My hope had largely been abandoned directly because of my experiences with women who express an "American cultural mindset". I echo pretty much every thought that you expressed in your post. I do know there are some fine single women of God here in the U.S. but they are very few and far between. These ladies deserve our highest respect and admiration for defying cultural norms.
I think there is a certain stigma out there of online dating being "joke dating" or "hook-up dating". So you have a lot of jokers like that running around, even on a site like this.
Then you have the ones who aren't just looking to get in your pants, but still don't aren't really looking to settle down yet (especially if they are young). These people might be looking for good, honest fun with christian ladies, but are not looking for anything that serious.
The irony of the situation is the people who are looking for serious relationships tend to scare people away, as a result those people become frustrated with it and those who are left are the non-serious ones. That said, there are keepers out there for sure, just hard to find. But that's a needle worth finding in our great haystack :purpleangel:
It breakes my heart also but I dont blame the ladies. I place the responsibility on the church leaders of our nation for not standing against the lies that have crept into the church.
Their needs to be greater focus by church leaders on the family and not just leave it up to the ministries like Focus and others. Families are the foundation of the church and our nation.
