Author	Thread: Honest but "pretty messed up"!
Admin	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 26 Jul, 2012 01:02 AM I have met some guys on here and the ones that are serious and want to take the friendship to the next level are Virgin! yes, they tell me that they have never dated anyone before or they have been abstaining... However, the problem is that I am not a virgin, I lost it along the way-I know that I cannot change my past but I decided to keep myself until marriage.and i feel really so bad about it and also feel that I am not good enough for them. Fine, some of them are okay with it but i am thinking it is not genuine! My question is that how do you feel about dating girls who are not virgins? Is the"I love you the way you are" genuine? Post Reply
View Profile History	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 26 Jul, 2012 01:09 AM When our Father brings you the right man, his "I love you the way you are" will be genuine? Don't let the enemy put that weight back around your neck that our Lord has removed with His forgiveness. Be blessed woman of God. Post Reply
View Profile History	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 26 Jul, 2012 08:11 AM You say, " i feel really so bad about it and also feel that I am not good enough for them. Fine, some of them are okay with it but i am thinking it is not genuine!" Sister stop beating Yourself up. GOD worked very hard to get You where You are,which is exactly where HE wants You to be,HE has a plan,it is perfect.... is easy for anyone to portray,ME SOOOO HOLY,online... appreciate Your honesty..... Post Reply
View Profile History	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 27 Jul, 2012 05:36 AM Shamah, We often times forget we are all stained by the effects of Sin. We forget that it is the covering of Christs righteousness and not our own that we are called children of God. I think it is great men and women here are still virgins but is it a issue of pride? If a individual lives in pride over their virginity you dont want them any way. I also wounder if a adult is a virgin, what was it that kept their virginity? Was it real moral fiber or were they made virgins due to their insecurities? Are they stong gody virgins or are they just using their virginity now as bait? You see the motive has much to do with who and where they are. Only God really knows our motives and we can personally learn our motives as we yield to God. Just to elaborate for you virgins please dont take what I wrote as a attack on you I am simply trying to help our sister have greater understanding that her heart might be made whole. Humbly, Michael Post Reply
View Profile History	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 27 Jul, 2012 01:56 PM Thank you so much Bob, Peace and Micheal for the those kind words. I have always known that God forgave me a long time ago but the only problem was that i did not forgive myself! I am glad that finally i have and I have come to realize that yesterday only laid a foundation for who i am today:glow: May God bless you all! Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 27 Jul, 2012 09:48 PM Shamah. If a man is a virgin and says that it does not bother him that you are not, take him at his word. Well, take him at his word until he proves that his word is false. If his word is false, then he not the man for you. The reason it may seem as if men who are not virgins are not as interested in a serious relationship may be because they have been hurt in a previous relationship. Their emotions/egos may have been damaged. Post Reply
View Profile History	Honest but "pretty messed up"! Posted : 27 Jul, 2012 11:00 PM I am the kind of guy that you are describing. And I just had this conversation with a girl Im starting to date. She feels the same way that you feel. I truthfully told her that it doesn't bother me and that as long as she knows what she did wasn't right and that she truly wants to wait till marriage now than then thats all I need to hear. Everyone makes mistakes and I can't hold that against them especially if they truly want to change now. I don't look at her any different the way she is now or if she was a virgin because I know she is genuine. Post Reply