Author	Thread: Sorry I offended you.
Admin	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 23 Jul, 2012 03:53 PM Hiya gentlemen, I noticed some guys get offended about some things more than others. Women and men are so different, things that wouldn't offend me offend some people. I'm sure some things offend me that wouldn't offend others. What offends you guys? Are there things women say absent-mindedly that offend you? The ladies are naturally welcome to give an example, vice versa! God bless you Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 23 Jul, 2012 10:51 PM Are you talking in real life or online? For example, I have found the comments of only one person on here offensive, and that was because what they said completely against scripture. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 24 Jul, 2012 05:26 AM MsMarvel, Good question. I personally am not one who easily gets offended, i used to be......Thank God I am not anymore. I feel offended when I feel disrecpected. I feel offended when someone reads words and thoughts into what I try to communicate becasue they are to aftraid to ask. I feel offended when someone takes a positive that I try to communicate and turn it into a negitive. I feel offended when someone assumes something from me that I havent agreed. I feel offended when someone asks what offends me.....Hahahahahahaha :nahnah: But nottice I said I feel. Because we do things unaware and it might not be the others intention. This is a point I am trying to get through in many of my threads. We react out of our offense and create a downward cycle of distruction many times. Destruction leading to divorce. If we really intimatly learn our own hearts and the one we seek to marry we will have total understanding and peace free from reactionary rejection of eachother. Forgiveness is key, Michael Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 24 Jul, 2012 06:14 AM Are there things women say absent-mindedly that offend you? it seems most things women say absent-mindedly offend me,that is my problem, to be offended is a offense in itself.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 24 Jul, 2012 09:52 AM Apostelle, in real life mostly, but if someone offended you on here it'd be very much the same. I've just noticed men and women react differently to different things. Maybe an example would be.. You met someone on here whom you really like, you're talking, she lives close by..everything's splendid. However, she says something that offends you, maybe in the heat of being upset or emotional. Would you be willing to work through that, depending on what it was that offended you? LetThisMind, that's great, spot on. It's great you try to be forgiving. That's really admirable. Okay, now you said you feel offended when you're disrespected. That's really interesting. What is disrespect to you? peacenic, I agree, it's better not to be offended.. or to try to be calm about most things, despite others attitudes. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 24 Jul, 2012 11:41 AM MsMarvel. Yes, I would be willing to work through a minor difference or offense. Everyone has opinions. And I know some things can be said in the heat of the moment that we wish we could take back. I dont get offended by things like that. I am even willing to discuss matters where I may differ with someone over scripture, but not blatant disregard for scripture. In cases like that, I simply follow the Bible when it says not to continue the discussion. Not only will we have to justify our actions before God on the day of judgement, but also our words and thoughts. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 04:30 AM (What is disrespect to you?) Good question MsMarvel. I really dont put thought into what is disrespect for me. In our emotions we are offended for various reasons, right? The key is this. Are we mature enough as people that when we do get offended that we can communicate that to the offender in a non combative manner? Are we able to understand that others point of view? Are we able to allow our selves to be vaunerable even though we were hurt? Are we able to be honest? Then are we really able to forgive? Can we communicate that from a humble perspective? Or are we reactionary and defensive? Often when we are hurt we fight for our right to be loved or respected. When we have the source of Love we have all we need and that should make a difference in our lives in how we treat oneanother and respond to oneanother. I hope people see that in me here. We should all hope that we see the love of God in every heart in this christian dating site, right? Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 09:33 AM You know friend i been thinking about this post, if we apologize,i.e. Sorry? we are claiming some kind of control, if GOD is in control? what is there ever to apologize for? Post Reply
PrincessofRedeemer View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 09:46 AM Sister: I think it is important to remember that when you are using the internet, it is so different then communicating with body language and eye contact. :excited: It really is easy for anyone to get offended because you may be making a joke, and someone thinks you are serious but cant see facial expressions or hear voice inflection or anything, then add to that the fact that most of us are typing fast, get some typos in there and maybe dont proof read...and :boxing:an offense is made :nahnah: LOL AN offense is easier to find online, that has been my personal experience. I think even romance talk can be inferred now and then even when it is not there, it can look like fliritng or flirting may be missed.:hearts: I think that is why we have these little emotocons to help us be sure our message gets across although they are a little wierd:) :ROFL: :angel: JUst wanted to remind brothers and sisters that we are dealing with a different form of communication then face to face and there are challenges to that sometimes. :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 09:55 AM Peace, When we express we are sorry even if we are not guilty of something and it was just taken out of context, we are expressing care. When we say sorry its not about us having controll but showing love and our desire to free the one we love from hurt. Humility takes great courage and strength. Relationship is not about being right or wrong its about caring for another and giving preference to another. But sometimes our need out weighs our ability to be compassionate and show love that is when we need to go to the source>>>> God has unlimited love for us and when we aquire Gods love we are filled to over flow into others lives. We the church are called to love oneanother. A tall order is it not? In His & your service, Michael Post Reply
View Profile History	Sorry I offended you. Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 12:52 PM i think what i am asking is more like," Who are We to apologize for the acts of Almighty GOD?" a truely humble,repentant,loving soul could not be offended by anything, they just accept things are as they are....as if it was not GOD's Will,it would not be.... which now brings a new question. are we really serving GOD or are we serving social traditions in these instances? Post Reply

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