Author	Thread: Would you ever
LlsCooks View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 20 Jul, 2012 06:30 AM I have been curious about something for awhile now. I told my best friend that I loved him and he did not return the feelings. Couple years later I asked why he did not love me and he said he had no idea. Is that a common thing to say to a girl? Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 20 Jul, 2012 06:54 AM 30 years after a fellow did the same thing to me, we bumped into each other, and he now says he regrets his in-action. He says, of that day, that what he felt for me was so real it terrified him ... he wasn't ready. Maybe he is just saying that now because he doesn't like where he currently is? :rolleyes: Nevertheless, finding a mate is not just a matter of finding the right person... it has to do with timing in their life (and yours) too. Trust in God with ALL of your heart; don't lean on your own perception. In everything you do, look to Him... He will direct you in the right path, sister! Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 20 Jul, 2012 12:45 PM if our trust,respect,acceptance,affections,attentions,actions do not convince You,we love You? blah! nvrmnd... Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 23 Jul, 2012 02:13 PM LlsCooks, Love is not feelings. It is an action, one of your will. A man should not tell a woman he loves her unless he is ready to marry her. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 23 Jul, 2012 04:10 PM Fire is on to something here...love is an action that isn't happening just when things go well but also within the excruciating horrible things that can happen in life. Love is forever; when are we as human beings going to understand the true implications when we declare our love??? I will love you when you have your prostrate removed due to cancer. I will love you when you are diagnosed with MS. I will love you even when a house fire removes the definitions of your face. I will love you...when you have post tramatic stress syndrome after your served time and you come home. How many of us are able to even express unconditional love truely? You can only return love if you've been loved first, and this should happen with parents with the gift of their child, or a significant care-giver chooses to love the adopted child, or when one becomes born again and has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Someone doesn't love another by choice...agape love is a choice, phileo love is a choice. Not everyone is able to choose because they have never been loved before. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 06:23 AM Good post Saved, So your post made me think of this. Did we really express love to our spouses and if we did why did we stop? Post Reply
KiwiMav View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 26 Jul, 2012 04:02 PM Yes I agree love is not a feeling. Post Reply
KiwiMav View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 26 Jul, 2012 04:02 PM Yes I agree love is not a feeling. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you ever Posted : 9 Aug, 2012 07:05 AM It depends on the context of the relationship and your intent on telling him you "love him" Do you love him as a friend? or do you feel you are IN LOVE with him? You can love a person without wanting to marry them. I have a female friend who I have become closer to recently because of our conversations of the Bible and God's Word. I knew she was struggling with her spiritual life as well as some personal things. Well I hadn't seen her for a while and I saw her at a meeting and told her a I was glad to see her and hoped she was doing well because I loved her. I was expressing God's love, because I care about her. She happens to be married and I consider her my friend and care about her well being. I do however find it compelling that your "best friend" doesn't love you in some compacity. Is he Christian? I tell my close male friends on a regular basis that I love them. I don't know if this helps you or not....God bless you Post Reply