I've been thinking about this in light of two friends of mine prayerfully hoping to be married next year, God willing. She goes to my church which is small in stature and members but she's heavily involved in ministry. The guy goes to another assembly that is about a two hour drive from where we are and he is also heavily involved in ministry. They have yet to decide on their place of worship when they get married God willing.
So I know this happens a lot and it's something that a couple needs to work out. What is your take on such a situation? I know the general consensus at least growing up that the woman has to go to the man's church no questions asked. I have not found any scriptural reference to something like this.
I already have in mind how I would want this situation addressed if it comes down to it because I too am heavily into ministry where I am. I know this is not a clear cut matter and there are many factors that surround it.
If two peope truly love oneanother then i would love to see eachother give preference to the other. What greater way to have a fight than in giving preference. I have experenced this but I am just kidding about the fighting though.
For me personally I am between fellowships. I am a odd one and dont usually fit in well in a church setting due to my gifting.
When I am married i would want my wife to have a fellowship she felt cofortable in that we could raise our children in. Being the church is a bible teaching church and not doctrinely in violation to Gods word in the clear foundational principles.
LTM ... lol... I think she was joking ... implying that you had 'given them a gift' that had some how caused them to be offended and so they asked you to leave!
LTM, MsMarvel was putting a twist on your grammar.
You said, "I am a odd one and dont usually fit in well in a church setting due to my gifting"
She was using the word "gifting" as a verb rather than a noun. This changed the focus from you 'having several gifts (of the Spirit)' to 'giving several gifts', as in, "I gifted her the CD as I know she wanted it but couldn't afford it". And since you did not "fit in" due to your physical gifts that you gave in that church, she was wondering what kind of gifts you gave.
It's a play on words. Humour is a personal taste. Play on words and double entandre (a sentence packed with two -- often unrelated -- meanings) are my favourite type of humour. :laugh:
Its morning and I get it now..........Thanks MsMarvel....Hahah
Unlike most men I can talk about the things of God and I am very strong in my convictions and I speak with athourity about what I share.
Many people are not used to this and interpet it as my being forceful. We live in a wishy washy generation where truth is blurred. Where people would say keep your truth to your self if they really had the courage to do so. Because it makes me feel uncomfortable.
One example is this past week I attended a Divorce recovery group to give of my self and help people relate in their suffering. I am not going through it right now but I shared a story from my past with them. About how when I first felt the feeling of rejection God brought His son before me as a example of rejection and how God relates with our feelings.
They thought it was a memorised speach that I prepared ahead of time but i was simply speaking from my heart about my experience and who I know God to be.
Someone was offended because with my gift I see people and I can speak into their lives right where they are and I think it makes some people uncomfortable. How does he know me so well they ask?
I was talking with a lady on here and she though I was a friend of hers pretending to be someone else because I was speaking so specically about her situation. I had to go into skype with her to prove i was a complete stranger.
As a prophet I see what others miss and I hear what others are blind about. In fact I can through my spirit recieve and transmit thoughts from others I am tuned into. This has happened to me so many times.
I know this might spook some people out and it does. Not many people like someone to see through then like this so I am one who is avoided because of this gift of mine. That is why I dont fit well into church setting because most church goers are not genuine but hidders.
Its like if you knew i had exray vision you would feel uncomfortable being around me because i could see you. Its not like I go around pointing at every flaw in people I only mean to point my flaws and knowing this person has the same I hope they will find God as I have in my flaws.
See lots to say :) not rehersed just off the top of my noggin. Because I am a deep well I have much to draw on to give of my self to others including you my dears.
At LTM I totally understand where you are coming from, but do you always speak fortrightly to people openly or do you speak to them in private. I know he Lord gives us utterance and he also knows what he would like others to witness and what is a personal word for some, just wondering.
But um I'm still wondering about the initial question I posted :).
When two people come from different churches what do you do in instances such as these? One of my friends the guy told her in no uncertain terms that she had to come to her church he would not come to hers because he was in ministry. She was also in ministry at our church, as a worship leader, musician, she was also the treasurer and on the church board. The did not last long the engagement was broken off. He wanted so much but gave nothing in return.
The other couple from which this question is borne at this juncture are still talking about it but right now they would prefer to go to both churches, I guess until a decision can be truly met.
Another brother whom we are all friends with told us he would leave his church which is much larger and come to our congregation which is small and lacking in men to draw other men, he said he would come to help build and work with the ministry. If he was married to one of the women at my church that is.
