Author	Thread: CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY???
Admin	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 01:32 PM What's wrong if women wanted a career? I just came across too many men who expects the woman to cook, wash, clean the house and have babies! Sad. Aren't we women supposed to have dreams n careers? What would you rather have? A career woman or a houseproud housewife? I don't see any wrong if a woman has dreams n career as long as she doesn't neglect her family. Post Reply
PrincessofRedeemer View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 04:14 PM Hey sister, good topic, I was an at home mom for 13 years and I wish I had stayed up on my field since getting hired now is tougher but I would never say one minute of investing n my kids education, Faith Life, moral character and just being there as a mom wasnt worth it. It was the toughest job you will ever love:) I think many CHristian men see that raising a family of Faith means that someone should be an ambassador daily to young children in the home, I was a child care provider first so caring for my own made sense to me. Just remember that he should support your dreams and make a plan with kids to have that happen, some men even off er to stay at home while the woman goes to school or work, kids do need the home to be managed by parents who are their emotonally and you can come up with ways as a couple to make both your dreams come true and still be sure your kidlets dont feel left out or are being raised by some athiast nanny. Pick a man who wants to support your career goal and to also make the sacrifices necessary to give your kids a parent at home when they are young. My two cents> :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 05:17 PM I think it is a rare thing to have the luxury to have a stay at home parent, but there are ways to make it work. I found myself raising my child on my own (when she was 4), so I could have went on welfare and stayed home, or work and teach her some important lessons that way. I chose to work. I would say much more disasterous to a family is dis-unity, disrespect of position and lack of quality time and prayer over your children. There were times when I had put off housework until the wee hours to make sure I spent the time with her that she needed. Sometimes I got up when it was still dark to do a quiet prayer walk around her room, and in our neighbourhood where she played to claim authority over anything Satan would try to throw against her or us, and still go to work and pay the bills and learn how to fix things on my car and come up with something nutritious for supper. :eat: Parenting is not for wimps! Keeping a balance of giving "100%" to your kids and family AND "100%" to your career is something you can't take lightly. My advice would be to make sure you both are on the same page before sealing any deals! Post Reply
View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 05:20 PM I meet do not mine the woman being a Career lady. However, I am Older and they know I am not having any more Children.lol It is wonderful to be able to stay at home and raise your Children but most of the Young married women I worked with Worked full time. Of course, these were not all Christian women. So, a Christian man may want his wife to stay home. It is best that is agreed upon before marriage.lol Post Reply
View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 05:42 PM I wonder how many men hold this view no especially in light of the current economy. Post Reply
View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 06:14 PM Especially since this forum is "Ask a Guy" and only women have answered! :laugh: Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 06:44 PM It is so awesome to just hang out under all the wisdom around here. Heard a thing on the radio, couldn�t understand how if given the opportunity, who wouldn�t stay home and raise their children. I know that just because I don�t understand it, doesn�t mean I�m right. There�s a survey; of new mothers who were basically saying , (in my opinion) that because they found their worth in the workplace, they were miserable having to stay at home with their babies. But I think about all the mothers I work with. When they�re in the office, they neglect what they should be doing because they�re on the phone all day with their children, sitters, schools and husbands. Then those that can take off, do their work at home. I think this says a lot. You can�t be two places, so neither place gets your full attention. Both of my parents worked until I was a teenager. My older sister told me about sex, as I recall, my mother didn�t have the time (she was working) and I was asking a lot of questions, at the time so I learned the basics of a worldly view of sex from a 19 year ikd who was responsilbe for doing my hair and dressing me. I had my first kiss from my brother�s friend who was high on something at the time, think I was 10. Fortunaltely it scared me to death. I could go on and on, but the point is while I was under the care of siblings who did loved me, my mother is the one who should have been there. Definitely something for a couple to agree on before the wedding. Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 06:58 PM Before Yall yell at me, I said 'if given the opportunity" to stay at home...:excited: Post Reply
View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 07:43 PM I will weigh in. Maybe most men are scared to touch this topic or they have yet to find it. I am never afraid to give my preference or opinion. I have two friends who are stay at home moms and they have friends who are also. They are completly satisfied in their role and I find joy in hearing their joy in being such. I personally am looking for in my wife a woman who is equal to my values. The value I hold to and would want my future bride to hold is for her desire to be home caring for our children. I would never begrudge a woman who wants a career but a woman who would choose a career over raising our children would not be for me. I would rather do with less than have to put our children in a day care to be over seen by another. If we think about it, It is relitivly a short time before children attend school any way and at this time I would be totally supportive of my wife working. I am much of a traditionalist and have traditional values even in a non traditional world and my future bride will be such as well. Becasue we will be in agreement over such important issues prior to marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 08:56 PM as the offspring of a atomic mommy,the positives are You have children that can drive,cook,clean,sew,do laundry,write checks,balance the checkbook,grocery shop by the time they are nine....the negatives are You end up with lonely, socially maladjusted children that are super self sufficient, have huge difficulties in relationships, do not trust You,do not know You,and get brought home by the police often... Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	CAREER + WOMEN = DISASTROUS FAMILY??? Posted : 10 Jul, 2012 09:19 PM wow.. you just discribed me and my 6 sibling, and perfectly, course we're all chldren of God now, buy too funny, but also kinda sad, ok, at myself, um, former self. :applause: Post Reply

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