Author	Thread: why no message?
Admin	why no message? Posted : 29 Jun, 2012 11:08 PM I'm certain this question has been asked before, but I'm not good at finding them, even with the search option. Anyways, please forgive me. I got a couple of guys who view my profile over and over but never make any type of communication with me. It gets irritating sometimes. I'd ask them whats going on but I'm so shy I quickly loose my nerve. What do I do? I think if you're that interested in me to check my profile as many times as these guys have done, you can send me a PM. Am I wrong in thinking that? (sorry, I've had a long week!) Post Reply
OhZone View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 30 Jun, 2012 11:34 AM I cannot answer for every man, but here's my take: Many times, I'll check out a profile just to read a bit about the person who posted something interesting (or irritating) on the forums. This could be a man or a woman, btw. Other times, I just like someone's photo--I found it intriguing, beautiful, ugly, fascinating, or whatever that made me look. I'm a photographer, so that might have something to do with it. Another reason I check out profiles is I don't remember for sure if I checked one out or not. There are a lot of profiles, and I read a lot of them (and not just on this one website--I am on several dating sites). Sometimes I can't remember what a particular person's profile reads, so I'll read it again. It may not be because I "like" that person. It might be that I don't remember her age, or her opinion on whatever. I wish this site had a way to check off the profiles of people I've eliminated from my search. It's so hard to keep track, especially if she changes her profile pic. Now, I've gotta add that if something bothers you, you're much better confronting that person rather than asking friends or the forums! IYou've said you are shy, and I know how crippling that can be (I deal with this every single day of my life!) but the only way to overcome it is to face it head-on. Write to the guys that check you out often, and just say something short and witty like maybe "Hey! I caught you looking again! ;)" or "I see you're still browsing. Let me know if you have any questions." Bear in mind that men can be shy, too. Especially if they've been abused by women in the past. As Christians, I think it is our duty to lift each other up, encourage one another, help each other become better people. Many Christians have been misled by their childhood church. They've been taught to be humble, meek, non-assertive doormats. I didn't learn until just a year ago that most women want a guy who is confident and decisive, and being shy is not a part of that. Well, guess what? Guys like confident women, too. Not the overbearing Governess type, but certainly not mousy either. So, step up and say something. The more you do, the easier it becomes. O3 Post Reply
View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 12:27 AM for example Blossom,when i first saw your photo i thought, whats (married friends name) doing here? earlier i clicked a photo that i thought was my great,great, niece,and was going to say "HI!!!!!!!!! How's JJ ?" on the rare occassion i do look at a profile,either they viewed mine page ,or, it is from one of the nine photos posted above,and really have no clue about the person at all,until the profile loads... hope this helps... Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 06:54 AM I look at profilies thinking the guys generally think the same as I. - What does the profile say, - what are they looking for, - cause they cliicked on mine, - cause they're attractive to me, - caude they only want friends, - cause the part of profile I can see is itneresting, so.. - cause they posted something in forum chat that shows wisdom, wheatever. its best in my opinion to not read much into a view of your profile or winks for that matter (IMO), depeneding on what you desire here, I would say what matters are the actual contacts to you. If you feel clicking on a guys profile as contact, than maybe you should send an email. But of course the brother has no obligation to respond, some may not agree. Let's just say I grew up in Chi. Post Reply
View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 07:33 PM @sweetcherryblossom: What OhZone said, almost to a tee (my not being a photographer and all). Post Reply
View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 08:08 PM Hi, I can understand shyness I get like that sometimes but I think you have a great opportunity here since these are not face to face conversations. If either of these men pique your interest send something simple as a "Hi my name is..... how are you?" It just take a few words to break the ice. I agree that men can be as shy as we can be sometimes, that it may be just a case of not remembering where you've been. That's what I use my favorites button for. There may be someone who may be very interesting ad I may not have the time to write a message if I decided to or and well this is how I am if whilst reading a profile and I come across something that I can pray about I save it to remember to keep that person in prayer. All in all send a quick message if not just try to ignore it because that dance can go on forever.... Post Reply
mssuplada21 View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 4 Jul, 2012 08:26 AM knowing a guy.. if hes interested he'll leave a msg.. if not, then he's not... don't assume things just because he checked your profile or our profile for that matter..(unless its 10X) ;) i like browsing pictures too... and i enjoy reading profiles makes me realize i like those stuff as well... i like gaining new friends here.. i feel so safe knowing that they are accountable to God and wont do bad ;) Happy Searching!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	why no message? Posted : 5 Jul, 2012 04:58 AM Not answering for everyone, but i personally can be a shy guy. For me, I may really want to message the woman, but because of one reason or another, i just dont know what to say. Post Reply