Author	Thread: How far are you willing to go for love?
Admin	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 26 Jun, 2012 03:59 PM I have been here long enough and seen enough profiles where men claim there are no good Christian women in the state where they live and then there are those who know they do not want a wife from beyond their borders. Then there are the few who don't put limitations and meet their wives outside their own country. That got me thinking, how far are we wiling to go to meet that special person. Are we putting limitations on ourselves. If not in meeting a future spouse but a future brother or sister in the Lord? What do you guys think? I can understand there is a cultural divide in some cases but our love for God is the unifying factor, isn't it? Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 26 Jun, 2012 09:32 PM thought provoking :applause: it always seems the LORD will meet You where You are,or,get You to where You can come just as You are. honestly i joined here because i was new in town and curious to see who was around,there are alot of big city girls here at CDFF.com in the state i am in,i can see why and how they would have no interest in me,and cannot say i blame them :ROFL: isnt it ironic,most the Ladies are in the City,wondering where are the guys?and most the guys are in small towns wondering,where are the Ladies?:laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 27 Jun, 2012 05:55 AM When people are looking for a relationship, which would imply dating, long distance doesn't work. You can't date someone who lives three states away (unless you live in New England) and, contrary to what some on this site may think, you can't "date" someone over the internet. It has nothing to do with "limiting God" or any kind of spiritual undertones at all, it's simply impractical, the same way you wouldn't look at options for other life decisions that don't fit with the direction your life is going. If I don't plan on moving to the next state, I'm not going to consider jobs there. If I don't plan on moving to a different part of town, I don't go look at apartments there. If you already have an established life in a particular region, you aren't going to seek out a potentially life-altering circumstance in another one. Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 28 Jun, 2012 12:22 AM Lol @ peacenic irony does seem to be the name of the game. @ godsgirl I do honestly get where you are coming from but somehow I can't help but think of people who may hold a similar view (not saying there's anything wrong with yours because it's a valid point) but what if, if you were holding yourself and I use this generally, you were holding yourself back from things because it may be outside your comfort zone? I get that dating is one of the reasons many are on here and it is important but what about those who have stepped out of their circle and met the one they are going to marry. I have seen the testimonials posted and even here where some are engaged to people as far as the Phillipines. It worked for them but the same holds true that it doesn't work for everyone. But what if? I guess my point is in all this is that we should be mindful not to block ourselves off from wonderful connections because it's outside our comfort zones. I will go so far as to say if God is prompting us in any area of our lives not just dating we should stop to listen, it may not always line up with our desires but isn't the whole point dying to self and seeking God's will for our lives? I think that takes a lot of courage to do something like that. Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 29 Jun, 2012 06:23 AM I think generally, as the Church, we tend too much in that direction, assuming that just because something is crazy, extreme, and hugely uncomfortable, it must be of God. Things of God are often very, very uncomfortable, but usually not completely out of the blue and disconnected from the overall narrative of one's life. Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 30 Jun, 2012 01:50 AM Depends on different people. But like as for me I would go anywhere in the world if I felt led by God. I haven't lived in my hometown since highschool and I am more like a nomad. And as I mean to continue in this lifestyle,distance isnt a big deal for me as long as the other party shares my passion for christ. Also, in a country like mine where your parents,or a relative finds a boy for you and you just meet and marry, what difference does it make if you dated in person or the internet? And marriages does last till death do us part here! Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 30 Jun, 2012 09:51 AM Honestly speaking, I had limited my self in the past regonially but have changed my position. I have found more women in other countries to relate with in my faith and convictions then here in the states or shoulld I say women I would be attracted to as well. I would go anywhere in the world to meet and find a good woman who's faith and attraction is right for me. Only my finnancess prevent this for me at this time. Since most if not all women in another country have no resources to come here that leaves me waiting for the open door from God. We dont like to wait but waiting is the name of the game when it comes to faith, isnt it? Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 12:08 AM i really liked this, "I will go so far as to say if God is prompting us in any area of our lives not just dating we should stop to listen, it may not always line up with our desires but isn't the whole point dying to self and seeking God's will for our lives? I think that takes a lot of courage to do something like that." :applause: i am totally down with the nomad thing,i have lived it, truely, it is No Mad :peace: as far as love? hopes we loves all our bro's and sis's here at CDFF cuz this is one of the few places it is ok to be christian and single,and or,even divorced.... thats a major reasons i keep hanging here,this is the only place i know of where i stand a even a very minut,small chance at even getting to talk to single christian females at all.hahahahaaa.... Post Reply
OhZone View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 4 Jul, 2012 06:05 PM I started out looking in my local area (<2,000 people in my town and median age is 53 years). Then, I looked online in my vicinity, Kansas, then nearby states (Missouri and Nebraska). Mostly, the women I found to be prospective matches don't seem too interested in me. On the rare occasion a woman even responds to one of my emails, things never really go past the email/phone stage. They usually just want to chat or email but never meet it seems. Honestly, out-of-state and foreign women have been more willing to meet. Not that that's a lot, but over the years I've met women from Washington, Russia, England, Illinois, and have an open invitation to visit a woman in Los Angeles. It is a case of the grass being greener? Or are the women here in the heartland just too conservative to be bold and take a chance? If I have to go abroad to meet my wife, then I will do it. But God will have to change my financial position first! LOL O3 Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 5 Jul, 2012 04:51 AM <Quote>I would go anywhere in the world to meet and find a good woman who's faith and attraction is right for me. Only my finances prevent this for me at this time. <Quote> I feel the same, there have been some women that i have saw on here that i thing would be a great match, but they were from a different state/country, and for the out of country, defiantly dont have the financial ability to go visit them. Post Reply
View Profile History	How far are you willing to go for love? Posted : 6 Jul, 2012 04:58 AM I have the same situation with my financess but I choose to continue seeking for Gods provision to be with that one special Asian lady God has for me. To walk by faith and not by sight. Americans even being sincere christian ladies simply dont have the values I hold dear it seems. I dont think they know how deeply they have been influenced by our culture and lost what it means to be a woman in some sense. But it is not only them, I see the men of our culture having the same issue. We are both made in the image of God but we are also made unique genders with our roles and responsibilities even the ones that grate against us. We are Kingdom people and not Americans. Post Reply