Author	Thread: Never responding to a message?
Admin	Never responding to a message? Posted : 11 Jun, 2012 05:36 PM Okay, so usually I don't message guys on here first. Unless I really relate to something they've posted on their profile or whatever, I will normally wait for them to message me first. I never had good experiences when I made the first move with guys and I always ended up humiliated and hurt. I think it looks bad for a girl to be "chasing" a guy, so I figure that if they see my profile and they're interested, then they'll message me. And if it's meant to be, it'll happen. I try to have a really laid-back attitude about this whole thing. But when I go out on a limb and put myself out there, such as emailing a guy whose profile I really liked, then I always end up getting ignored. What happened? This has happened more than once. I'll come across some guy's profile and they'll say something funny that makes me laugh, or I see that we have a lot of the same interests, etc. so I go ahead and message him casually just to say hello and introduce myself. A few days later when I log back in, I see that they've read my message and viewed my profile but never replied. Am I just nobody's type or am I doing something wrong? Is it normal for guys not to respond? I usually try and respond to anyone who messages me at least once... Post Reply
View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 12 Jun, 2012 08:46 AM I know it is a guy section I thought I should share my In my own experience when someone does not respond to messages it might mean that they are not interested. Some men just do not want you to get the wrong idea if they are not interested in you they will rather chat with ladies that they see as potential partners. IT IS A SIGN instead of being sad about it thank God for it because you do not want to get attached to a guy that you like that does not feel the same way about you. I actually prefer this than being led on I had an experience where a guy send me a message asking to be my friend to get to know me better and all we had a lot of chats on yahoo a couple of times a day. But I ended up liking the guy while his intentions where for us to be friends. Thank you for bringing this up I am interested in hearing what the guys will say. Post Reply
Christinafaith View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 14 Jun, 2012 05:08 AM Yep I think it too, they don't answer if they don't think that you can have their requirements. Sometimes their requeriments are implicit and they don't put it in their profiles. Wait a messages is easier to start a conversation, I think, but anyway, they are differents so they can act of different way. Sorry with my englsih is a little rustic! :D Post Reply
Christinafaith View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 14 Jun, 2012 05:11 AM Hey I have a experience like yours, maybe he is the same guy! lol The world is so small sometimes.Take care you, GBU. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 14 Jun, 2012 05:35 AM Notice, please, that thus far NO MAN has responded! Typical! :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 14 Jun, 2012 05:36 AM Over the years I think I've come to the conclusion that your experience is actually "the norm" when it comes to online dating. We keep equating it to saying hello to someone in the grocery store and the other person just rudely assessing us from head to toe and then turning away without as much as a "hello" back. I think the anonymity and openness about who we are and what we are about combine to give the viewer a candy-shop mentality, forgetting that these profiles are not a commodity, but actual human beings with depth far greater than perceivable in print and with a couple of photos! I think most, if this were not cyberspace, would at least return a nod and a polite smile even if they were not interested. But alas, this IS cyberspace and the mentality seems to have settled in. Best not to take it personally, as both men and women seem to be experiencing this MOST of the time. Know that your value lies in your relationship as a most favoured child of the KING, whether others recognize it in this make-believe room or not! :yay: Blessings sister! Post Reply
Savida View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 14 Jun, 2012 06:40 PM I have had the same experiences here. In fact I posted this very same question a few weeks ago in this forum. I guess it is because they are not interested. Guys are wired different from women. I usually respond to all my messages, even the suspected scammers. Girl just shake the dust off your feet and move on. If a guy is interested he will respond. LOL i get some who actually view the profile first and never bother to read the message! Post Reply
View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 14 Jun, 2012 11:47 PM It's not you honey. I have the same thing happen to me. The exact same thing. I think what makes it worse, is, with me anyway, I message for the same reason you do. They have similiar interests as I do, or I liked something they said. It will show that they read the message, but they don't respond. And I message to be friendly. I don't always read their profile and think, oh he's the one!! Then sometimes they will message back, then when I message them again, they don't even respond, but it shows that they viewed my profile....that's especially hurtful, as well as rude, because it makes me feel like they viewed my profile, formed an opinion about me simply because I'm not a size 2 super model. It's not just hurftul and rude, it sorta makes me mad, lol. The one thing I wish guys on here would understand is just because a woman messages you, it doesn't mean we're ready to marry them!!! With me, if I message someone and they respond, I'll try to carry on a conversation with them. If it goes somewhere great. If not, at least have the courtesy to tell the girl how you feel! I have one specific guy friend on here that I think very highly of, and he messages me and we talk..but only as friends. I have friends that are guys and I talk to them in chat, but that doesn't mean I'm gonna latch on to one of them and say hey will you marry me? LOL. One guy messaged me wanting to know more about me, but he was a lot younger than me, and just not my type. But instead of not responding at all, I messaged back and told him I would love to be friends, but he was just too young for me. Sooo, I'm like you. It's rude for guys to just not message back. And if they don't want to respond at all, there's the thing you can click on that says, sorry, you're not my type. And when you click that, it has a very polite message that it sends that person. Guys should at least send that!! Not just think it! Lol. Anyway, no sweetie, it's not just you. I think it happens to a lot of people on here, because if it didn't, there would be more matches. :) Best of luck in your search girly...hang in there and pray about it. God knows who he wants us to be with. We don't want to be with the wrong person, and miss out on the one who is truly right for us. The one God chose for us. Take care. JC Post Reply
Rhs32 View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 15 Jun, 2012 04:40 PM ok Im scared to reply to this as a man since all women have responded. However I wouldnt worry about it its just that he wasnt interested for one reason or another and most men dont have the courage to say thank you for the interest but blah blah blah. Men leave women messages all the time because its there job lol and if we dont get a respond back oh well she isnt interested. Dont give up you will find the right person someday to make you and keep you extremely happy. Ive personally found women that im like wow we would be perfect and messaged her and been so excited waiting for the response that i never get lol its no fun but we are all on here for this reason it will happen. best of luck to all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 15 Jun, 2012 08:27 PM I am not really in the position to comment not a pro on this topic obviously, but on a general note. I message people too who don't respond to my message. I think for a woman its better to be pursured and not send messages to guys. For a guy its better to chase. its simple as that. If its on a friendship level then you can email them and highlight just friendship no attachments but if otherwise i suggest you don't message them. since this is a dating forum its hard to tell people you want to be their friend. Even though this is a christian forum, folks don't really have the patience to build friendships. if you like the person please don't message them, he needs to fight for you to win your love. If he can't win you over he is not worth the fight. Then i went over your profile, and just a suggestion not an advice to be followed. Your about me section seems to be very long, Guys are meant to discover you along the journey. A guy reading through your profile knows who you are and may simply analyze and base their decisions on your profile. Even though there is obviously much more to you than this. Give little information as much as you can, this sincerely makes a guy want to explore and discover who you are. Everything i have said its purely human not in anyway spiritual this are just male tendencies you should notice. giving you my 2 cents. In anyways i wish you the best and trust God for you. Regards Ed Post Reply
Mykl View Profile History	Never responding to a message? Posted : 16 Jun, 2012 07:42 PM Well I'm one of the new guys here so I don't exactly have a lot of experience of why some people answer messages and some people do not. Maybe it is best if they do not respond. It might be better to have no response from someone than to get a response from a player who is going to hurt you in some way. It sounds like I may be a little different than some because I try to respond to everyone who has sent me a message (all 3 of them :rolleyes: ) But then again I am more interested in just getting to know people from everywhere and making friends and not worrying about the whole dating thing, if it happens, it happens, if not that's cool too. I disagree with the person who posted and said you have too much information in your profile. I would rather see a profile with something to base a message on. I don't want to be one of those people who just message "Hey, what's up". but that is just me, I guess not all guys feel the same way. I hope you have a great weekend. God bless. Post Reply

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