Author	Thread: Dead conversations
holyflarp View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 11 May, 2012 09:24 PM When I get a response from someone the conversations seem to die quickly. What can I do to keep them alive and going? Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 12 May, 2012 12:36 AM I think its important to just be yourself...if the conversation dies, don't force it....one day it will flow! :) :) :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 12 May, 2012 07:14 PM I've been on this website off and on for about two years. Anyone I have ever had a conversation with, lasts to have maybe 5-10 exchanges then it dies off. Nothing personal to anyone who reads this, but it would seem, from my point of view that about 95% of the people on this site are window-shopping for a mate instead of letting God actually lead them. This being that I know I've done it from time to time without actually consulting Christ in prayer about relationships. Post Reply
lovenote View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 13 May, 2012 12:28 PM i agree with Nick, they may ask your facebook but later they wikk inresting in talking few times then pufff.... gone with the wind :( ummm.... sorry , i know its ask a guy forum , i hope you don't mind me giving my answer :) :peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 13 May, 2012 10:19 PM Most people are terrible at conversation, and bore the people they're talking with to tears. Showcase your sense of humor, your unique qualities and ask questions that they most likely haven't been asked before. Even if your conversation flames out, at least you tried. I once sent a girl a message that I thought was hilarious. She did not agree, and she responded with a number of very personal insults. I responded with a request for a more respectful response, and I never heard back from her again. What I learned from that ever so brief interaction is that we did not have similar senses of humor, she was quick to jump to making personal attacks, and while she could dish it out, she couldn't take it back very well. Had I sent her a less polarizing message, it would have probably taken longer to figure out how terrible a match she was for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 14 May, 2012 02:32 AM That's a great point Tulip. I've had some similar experiences here. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 14 May, 2012 11:49 AM Messages back and forth are, IMHO, a terrible way of getting to know someone - why d'ya think companies interview people!? Personally I find it hard to get excited over written comms and even if I really like the person I get bored of writing after three or four messages. By that time I'll have already decided whether it's practical and worth meeting them or not. Also I don't really know what to say in messages anyway, because let's face it, you have to be in the mood to sit down and listen to a stranger's ramblings about what they like and don't like, what they're looking for, etc. and often it does feel like form-filling rather than building any kind of rapport. Of course, that could all be why I'm still single! Post Reply
View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 20 May, 2012 12:47 PM There's nothing wrong with the ladies responding to this question, because I've been through similiar situations. The thing I question is, if I send a message to someone, it's because I like things they said in their profile, or we have similiar interests. It doesn't mean I'm askin you to marry me!! Come on guys! Don't say you want to meet friends and then not talk to them!! Be real!!! The guy will SOMETIMES respond to the message and other times not. But what's even worse are those guys who respond to a message and then when we send another message they don't respond at all. Does it cross your minds that maybe we feel like you answered the first question then looked at our profile, decided you didn't like us then won't talk anymore???? This is a Christian site guys. Be kind to people. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 22 May, 2012 09:26 AM I'll put it like this, sometimes the chemistry and flow is not there. And if it's not it will seem like a chore to sit and read and email and try to reply to it as opposed to looking forward and or excited to receive and reply to someone. For me I like a sense of humor and I am a witty person, sometimes I will write to guys just to encourage them, what we do on here is not easy, it's just as hard in the dating world you can't just pick out a profile and say that's the one and live happily ever after. You still have to go through all the paces as in the real world. But I love to laugh and a sense of humor has always caught my eye. I don't get offended at humor unless you say something truly disrespectful to me or my faith. But I agree you still have to pray for guidance from God to know how to proceed and not just leave pieces of yourself all over CDFF lol Post Reply
DanielleJoy1228 View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 22 May, 2012 08:02 PM Sometimes it's just that you can tell that the other person is losing interest. The replies are no longer witty banter and are getting shorter and shorter. I'm not going to keep after someone who could care less. Post Reply
Dannyroc View Profile History	Dead conversations Posted : 25 May, 2012 06:38 PM If your conversations consist of a list of questions rather than actually talking about a topic, it will grow stale quickly. Use answers to questions to springboard into a give and take conversation on a topic. Offer interesting info about yourself, mention your work and WHY you got into it. Talk about some dream you have to one day hike the rocky mountains or what-ever. At some point steer the conversation toward more personal topics, Does she want to have kids, how many and what kinds of things does she look forward to doing as a mom. You have to get past surface, predictable conversation. If you don't have a personality.... fake it :laugh: Post Reply

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