Author	Thread: Overlooked
sngresak View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 22 Apr, 2012 08:04 PM Hello Christian Men- I'm curious, what SPECIFIC things do you look for before choosing to message a woman? Let's be honest here too, don't just say that you're looking for someone who "loves God." Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 22 Apr, 2012 08:18 PM The hair Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 02:13 AM Lets see, it usually starts with an interesting picture. Face it, we all have a filtering system called, "eyes." If we like what we are looking at, then we will most likely read the profile. Some important factors are; hair color, eye color, weight, height, physical condition, physical appearance/clothing style, social life, kids or no kids, race etc. The next thing to determine if we send a msg or not(some people may skip this), is whether we have some common interests so there's actually something worth spending time talking about. That's basically it... at least for me. God bless, Ken Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 06:10 AM What he said....and the hair Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 06:11 AM I'm going to disagree with the above poster. I don't believe that most guys qualify things such as eye color, hair color, race, etc. - maybe I don't want to believe it. I think that eyes and hair are less about color (brown eyes? check!) as about overall, the same as the profile. Do you look like a fun person? Genuine smile? Nice hair? There you go. Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 07:49 AM What he said and hair Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 08:53 AM Yes, andI apologize for the ambiguity. When I posted, the post above yours was "the above poster," not you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 10:13 AM A smile, a twinkle in the eyes, not too much makeup, and someone smaller than me. But even with all that - you're still waaaay outside my commutable distance! :nahnah: Post Reply
View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 04:38 PM what He said," That Hair !" glorious :applause: Post Reply
sngresak View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 24 Apr, 2012 09:44 PM Thanks for all the replies! This has been helpful :) Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Overlooked Posted : 19 May, 2012 10:44 PM The most important thing to me is the overall message that her pictures convey. In general, profiles are useless, as they seem to be full of the same empty cliches and little to no useful information. Obviously I have to find her attractive, but there's a lot more to it than that. The way people dress, the poses they display, the looks on their face, whether they're smiling, who else they include, and even the general vibe they give off all tell me more about a person than most profiles ever will. You can't really determine where someone is in their walk with Christ until you start to message them, so the best you can do before that is do what you can to ensure that you're a personality match. When reading profiles, I generally look for huge red flags more than anything else. If you can't spell or string together a proper sentence, you get cut. If we're extremely different denominations, you get cut. Before I get to any of that though, I filter people by proximity/location. If you lived close to me, I honestly would probably have messaged you, but I know that I'm no good at long distance relationships. There are some people on here who are ok with cross-country or even international relationships, but I know that even an hour away is a stretch for me. I'm sorry that my answer isn't more helpful as far as editing your profile, but hopefully you're encouraged to just put the most authentic version of yourself out there. No one can attract everybody, but only the real you can attract the best man for you. Post Reply