Author	Thread: WHY???
Admin	WHY??? Posted : 12 Apr, 2012 03:23 PM Can anyone please answer me this? Why is it so hard for a man to accept that a woman is not having sex before marriage, and Im seeing it more often now in christian men. Just something I have been dealing with for awhile. Any advice and explanations are welcomed. Be Blessed!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 12 Apr, 2012 03:35 PM I'm so sorry for your experience but it just goes to show the mindsets of some "Christian men" and women too. To me waiting for marriage is not something we can choose to do or not to do. Our heavenly Father commanded it of us and if we are to follow Christ we must first deny ourselves. "Denying oneself" is not easy but not impossible. My prayer for you is that you meet a man whom God has prepared for you to wait for the beauty and sanctity of marriage. Pray for him even more. And pray for the state of the church culture. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 12 Apr, 2012 05:22 PM Thank your for your response, I agree fully, I was not only taught by mother not to have sex but she incoporated the word as well. My thing is sex is not for the single so it shouldn't even be a conversation piece amongst unmarried couples. Being affectionate is one thing because affection can be shown in many ways. But what most people dont understand is that if the relationship starts with friendship and courtship, when the time comes where the body can no longer indulge in sex, that friendship and courtship that was once developed in the beginning will keep the relationship. I will be praying for him and the church as you advised and a special thank you prayer to God for your advice! Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 13 Apr, 2012 12:31 AM Your welcome and thank you in return for your prayers. This is something that needs to be addressed and it seems to be one of the most dominant threads running through the church at this time. It's like I heard a woman say during a spoken word "Tell me how far can I go without actually sinning" and that seems to be the game being played by a few. I remember doing some research in anticipation of questions asked by my youth group concerning Christian relationships. I know where I stand but I wanted to cove my bases if you will. I came across this blog by a young woman giving advice as to what was okay in a relationship, citing her boyfriend could kiss her but not below the neck and she could touch his chest but he couldn't touch hers and all types of nonsense and my whole thing is "Why start in the first place" Why do we put our confidence in the flesh thinking we can handle something like this? The lie is purported that if there is no experimenting how then can we see if e're compatible and that is just a lie from the devil. We're judging things by the world's standards and not from a spiritual point of view which is always best. So I stand with you in waiting and I pray that God keeps you, its not easy but he is able to keep that which we commit unto him each day. God bless. here is a link of a poem that i think you will enjoy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuraJpB0OJg Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 13 Apr, 2012 12:11 PM I've known Christians who've been active sexually on the basis they were planning to marry. Sure enough, they did marry, but it caused me big problems in the meantime and I took issue over it with God.:boxing: Let's just say, if you're saving yourself then don't give in to temptation; and if you've blew it, don't let the accuser rob you of the peace of forgiveness... Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 13 Apr, 2012 09:03 PM Amen:angel: Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 14 Apr, 2012 07:54 AM A lot of people call themselves Christians, it doesn't mean they are one. Just because they go to church or read their Bibles doesn't mean they are saved. The Pharisees did both and yet Jesus stood against many of them. That said, if there is a person who calls themselves a Christian and who gets upset when a female says she isn't having sex until marriage, I'd have to say that he isn't a Christian. The Bible says " 9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." 1 Cor. 6:9-10 (NIV 1984). Our deeds are still important, because God still cares about sin. Sin has negative consequences. That said, I think the increase in immorality in the world is just as much linked to the church being ignorant as it is to anything else. Church numbers in the vast majority of denominations (at least in the US) have been declining for a while, which shows the church doesn't know what it is doing. Jesus didn't have a problem getting people's attention. In fact, sometimes he had trouble getting away when he needed some private time. If the church got transformed, the rest of society would follow suit, and we wouldn't have as many fake Christians and players out there. The saying goes- "Don't look for someone you could live with, look for someone you couldn't live without," and I think it's a good statement. Be more picky and one will have less problems. Don't waste your time on profiles where you can't tell whether the person is a serious Christian or not. There are like 7 billion people in the world, there's plenty out there. I'd also like to mention that there are indeed a lot of Christian men out there that are serious about their faith. It's just a matter of finding them. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 14 Apr, 2012 04:25 PM I think that's a hugely damaging attitude to take because it denies God's grace, or the very real fact that even Christians struggle in certain areas. As a Christian you WILL sin and the last thing you need is others telling you that you must be a fake because of it - though I can think of one who delights in making us doubt... We've just celebrated the resurrection less than a week ago, so how can we have forgotten already the lesson Peter learnt? "Sorry, Pete, I thought you were one of my disciples, but clearly you weren't really otherwise you wouldn't have denied me. Get lost!" Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 15 Apr, 2012 03:18 PM Yes. To the post right above me. A thousand times yes. Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 12:19 PM Sorry, not a brother, but... I've struggled with this, not only from men, but with myself. But wasn't unitl I realized (thru the word) of how valuable I am (we all are), learning (still) how God sees me, that things changed. I now don't see sex , dating, etc in the way I was brought up in the world to see it. Course it took time, revelation, forgiveness, understating, patience. I do beleive there are brothers and sisters out there alike who struggle and don't want to. Once you truly make the decision, to sin, you go for it, you don't talk about how you know its wrong but.. For SOME tt's a stronghold, but thank God that through Jesus, we can overcome. Then, course there's the other side, but I don't want to be disrepectful... Post Reply
View Profile History	WHY??? Posted : 19 Apr, 2012 06:31 PM I'm one of those guys who had sex with his fiance� while they were engaged. Unfortunately it didn't work out, and I had a few other sexually active relationships to be fair afterward. That being said though, I live celibacy now, and while I struggle with that temptation, I want a woman who wants that. Like one of the others above posted, there are 'Christian' men, and then there are Christian men. The real ones won't get mad for you wanting to wait until marriage, the trick is finding us. I'd say on both sides, you probably meet 10-20 untrue Christians before finding one serious about their faith in Christ's salvation. Post Reply

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