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Admin	photos Posted : 24 Mar, 2012 02:01 PM I have noticed profiles that say no drinking, but half the pictures show the guy with alcohol in their hand (a cocktail or a bottle of beer). So my question is why lie about this or anything else for that matter. For me, once I find out that the guy has lied about something like that, I have no trust in anything else he says. Honesty is important in relationships guys, so be yourself and be real. Don't hide behind a pretense of an image that you are clearly not. Such behavior would simply make me want to break things off and distance myself from such an individual. Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 24 Mar, 2012 10:46 PM Well said! I agree. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	photos Posted : 25 Mar, 2012 06:30 AM I came across one man's profile that included several half-naked pictures, including one where his wedding band was obvious. Just as I was about to report him as a "scammer," I noticed he is a "Favorite" of 22 people on CDFF! Perhaps these pictures, including ones that show consumption of alcohol, are old? But then, that poses a different "fib," doesn't it! Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 25 Mar, 2012 10:33 AM NRSV, I appreciate your input here. I think the point would be that if the photos are so old that they do not depict the current person's habits and hobbies,they need to be updated. It is part of presenting an honest image online. Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 26 Mar, 2012 09:48 AM This isn't exactly a response to your question, but another question I have about guys' expectations on this site is "must not smoke". Yet a lot of them say the drink on occasion, or socially....what's the difference in them preferring someone who doesn't smoke, but not mind them drinking once in a while? Don't get me wrong! I know smoke is NOT a pleasant smell! I smoke but I pray that the Lord will help me to quit, and I'm on medicine that is supposed to help me quit. And I state that in my profile. So I totally understand the smell of smoke bothering the guys, but as far as it goes for being a Christian, if one is wrong, they are equally wrong. Just wonderin. Opinions? Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 26 Mar, 2012 08:48 PM I don't think it's that either is wrong. Smoking affects other people more than occasional social drinking does. If I (or my partner) choose to drink responsibly, we aren't putting one another's health in danger. Smoking isn't the same. Smoking affects everyone in the vicinity, whether they want it or not, and then they can't breathe. Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 27 Mar, 2012 08:12 PM I for one am allergic to smoke, so I will not date people who do. In addition, talk to any doctor to find out why it is so unhealthy for you. I think of the body as the temple of the Holy Spirit and smoking damages the temple, so that is my encouragement to not smoke. I see it as one damaging the body on purpose. I know it is addictive and that after that first puff, it seems impossible to quit. I hope and pray that people who do smoke will seek help and join a smoke cessation program. It is in their best interest in the long run. I know that is one of those desires that the Lord can take away. Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 28 Mar, 2012 12:54 AM I am totally dependent on coffee... and I could see how quiting coffee would be very hard, although not impossible with the Lord's help. I've puffed a few cigarettes before.. but I never liked them, and if coffee would be hard to stop drinking, I bet the life of me that smoking is even harder to quit. That's why I never got into it. Post Reply
fiferic View Profile History	photos Posted : 29 Mar, 2012 05:00 PM Guys like that give the rest of us a bad name. I understand that if someone lied about one thing who knows what else they have lied about. Post Reply
View Profile History	photos Posted : 1 Apr, 2012 04:59 AM Exactly! Thanks fife for the only male response in this thread. I think we look for patterns, to build a relationship. To notice something like this early on gives some red flags that need to be addressed before real trust can even begin to take place. If someone's actions are inconsistent with their words, then thread carefully. Post Reply