Author	Thread: Is weight really a big issue if...
Admin	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 18 Mar, 2012 09:50 PM a girl is doing everything she can to get to a healthy goal weight? I mean, I know I'm obese but I'm working on it. I eat healthy and I've lost some of it but I'm not where I should be yet. I guess what I'm asking is would you consider someone solely based on "Oh, she's overweight, I'm not attracted to that" rather than the potential that person has if everything else is really good about her? Just wondering. I'm fine with who I am. Very curious what the men on here think. Post Reply
fiferic View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 19 Mar, 2012 12:32 AM I have to say I myself am obese. However, I believe that before anyone dates they should be friends. I say that because people are willing to be friends with heavier people and then when they get to know us then they really don't see us for our weight like they might have before. I hope that helps you. God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 19 Mar, 2012 01:06 PM Well you can't help the things you're attracted to (or repulsed by), so it could be ruining the "first impression" people get when they see your profile. A shame because that's a relatively minor thing overall and you may otherwise be perfectly matched, but if they don't bother to look at anything beyond the photo then that's the opportunity out of the window. On the flipside, would you want to be married to someone for whom weight was more important than character!? Post Reply
View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 20 Mar, 2012 12:25 AM weight? the scale lies..... go to a physical therapist and get a fat content measurement...record You measurements and work from there... alot of people say they are obese when they are mildy fluffy...on the other side is the thinspo's...... encourage You in Your healthy pursuit of a healthier life.... fight the good fight.... Post Reply
Looking4someonereal View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 21 Mar, 2012 05:01 PM I actually met a guy on here in Dec and we dated til Feb (he said the 3 hour distance was too great), but anyhoot, he had a pot belly and was a little overweight, BUT that didn't bother me at all. Because he was a real sweetheart and very nice and I liked him for that. Also, my question for the guys is how can an "obese" guy wink/email a slim/in shape female and expect her to stay true to form when they themselves are not? Again, I don't have issues with the weight on the guy, I am more concerned about his character. But it seems more guys are "viewing" the outside more than what's inside? Post Reply
View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 22 Mar, 2012 06:09 AM Different people are attracted to different body types, fat or skinny. It could be a turn on, a turn off, or a nonissue. And it's irrelevant of health... I know some srsly unhealthy skinny people. Don't worry about it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 24 Mar, 2012 03:40 PM I agree with a previous poster - what is with very overweight /obese guys demanding the women be toothpicks ? It does seem like a double standard for the ladies to try to meet. Even if it is about appearance and not health, it still seems very unfair. I don't think any lady would find a very overweight guy telling them they are overweight good dating material. The guys are visual argument doesn't justify that as far as I am concerned. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 25 Mar, 2012 05:11 PM I'm a big guy who has a thin/slim fiance that I met on here....she is absolutely amazing and while I think she is physically beautiful....it is the little things she says and does that makes me fall more and more in love with her everyday... Post Reply
dexterjblevins View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 26 Mar, 2012 10:52 AM 1 Corinthians 10:13 King James Version (KJV) 13There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it Post Reply
View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 30 Mar, 2012 06:22 AM It may sound shallow, but I don't really feel physically attracted to enormously obese people. That being said, I'm one of those skinny guys who doesn't have to work for it. But I hate it. I'd rather be a teeny bit heavier because this whole 'I'm 6'2 and have weighed 150 or less since I was 16" thing annoys the tar outta me. But I actually really can't stand the skin and bones girls at all. I like to myself feel a healthy medium, and I'm attracted to that as well. But if you're doing everything you can to try and get in shape and shed a few pounds because you want to, congrats on it! My friend Eric lost like, 50 lbs in one year or something. He pretty much cut out sugar intake, and started eating smaller portions, walking about 2 miles a day. I think he went from like 240-185 or so and he's saying he just wants to lose a tiny bit more. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is weight really a big issue if... Posted : 19 Apr, 2012 06:55 PM I am overweight now. I purposely let myself gain this weight for survival reasons. I had a bad past and was trying to make myself unattractive. At 18 I was 125. I gained alot of weight thinking that if I was so fat, I wouldn't be attractive and men would leave me alone. (Fear of getting raped). Well it did not work. It actually worked opposite. As men seem to think obese women are easy targets. Ive been in counseling, and everything. And finally am trying to work on my weight. I realize that I can't let my past hold me back. I need to set a healthy example for my beautiful eight year old. I have lost eight lbs now. In two months. It is very hard. But I keep trying. My church has tons of health nuts, and really in shape, attractive people. So that is kind of giving me the encouragement. I think weight is an issue for health reasons. But people shouldn't judge based on weight. I have met some very awesome heavy friends. One of my friends when I met her was my size. Well she got a very skinny boyfriend, and he helped her lose weight. Now she is a healthy normal size. And very happy, they are engaged now. Its not so much the weight but the reasons behind the weight. Be a motivator to someone. A friend. My goal is to lose at least 50 lbs. I use myfitnesspal.com that is really good it helps you track your food and everything. Some day i want to try insanity and p90x. Maybe just for laughs cause I dont think I could do any of the workout. Post Reply