Author	Thread: Profiles
Admin	Profiles Posted : 23 Feb, 2012 04:23 AM I am sure I am wrong on this one, but somehow the facts don't seem to back me up. Why do some guys contact women (me specifically) when clearly there are differences that would prevent a relationship from forming? Fact 1 One of the things I find is that they live way far from me. My profile says that I am not willing to move. Sometimes the other person's profile says they are not willing to move. If so, why contact me in the first place? Fact 2 (I have seen this before) Then there are the people that do not wish to answer the smoking or drinking questions, both of which are deal breakers for me. Trust me, if you did not answer that, I feel like you have something to hide and probably will not contact you. If you did manage to get around the set controls to block you if you do smoke or drink by not answering the question, I will read your profile and look at your photos before I think about whether or not to reply. Any thoughts? Post Reply
View Profile History	Profiles Posted : 23 Feb, 2012 05:39 AM From my experience the problem is that most people don�t read profiles. They just see the picture and start writing. When I had my full profile up, I used to get emails from people all the time that were very clearly not what I was looking for. You sound to me like a fairly logical person, so wanting to know everything you can about a person before you write to them is important. But, most people take the point of view that marriage is just pure chance, so it just a matter of throwing yourself out there, and if you are �meant to be� then things will �just work out�. Then they wonder why their marriage failed. Post Reply
View Profile History	Profiles Posted : 23 Feb, 2012 07:59 AM They need a "Like" button for these comments! :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Profiles Posted : 23 Feb, 2012 08:22 PM Thanks Cobbler. I was thinking along the same lines. Hope that my OP did not sound like a gripe, it was more of a confused part of the day. I actually had someone check me out, send me something. I checked his profile, then wrote back with three of four items that were incompatible from both of our profiles. Then, he writes back something like, I guess that means we should not try to get to know each other then and stopped contact altogether. It seemed like a waste of both of our times. Post Reply
View Profile History	Profiles Posted : 27 Feb, 2012 06:08 PM With regards to willingness to move... I'm willing to move, so I get contacted by people who think I'm going to move just to meet them. I had intended my willingness to be more of a "I'm not tied down to one location and would be willing to move under the right circumstances". Such a simple thing, yet two different outlooks on it. It is possible that some people read "not willing to move" as you not being willing to move just to meet them (though possibly later on). Most likely though, as mentioned before, people don't read profiles. Post Reply
View Profile History	Profiles Posted : 1 Mar, 2012 06:16 AM i think a lot has to do with john444's last statement. just because someone has willing to move doesn't mean they really are, but rather would be if the right situation came up. i guess, i think thats a silly thing to even have one, i think mine says "sure, why not" but it's going to take a lot for me to get up and move for someone, and it would have to be after i've met her, and if i would be the one moving far away, i probably wouldnt be the one going to visit her first (that might sound bad, oh well). and the other part, people don't read profiles. i hate when people message me, "tell me about you"..it's like, i wrote my profile, try reading it and asking me something you would like to know. i put everything on there i felt was important Post Reply