Author	Thread: Honey? where do we fellowship.
Admin	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 29 Jan, 2012 12:55 PM I do not know if this is something that is traditional in other countries, but in my country when a woman marries a man she is supposed to leave her church for the one her husband goes to. I do not know if there is any scriptural reference to this being done. As I said it's practiced here, not sure if it' in the bylaws of a church etc. It got me thinking because a lot of people who are getting married are starting to have discussions about it. What if, if this is a practice of the wider Christian hemisphere, and the woman is in ministry at her local assembly, and she comes from a small church and I mean membership of less than 100, if it was you, who being apart of a much larger congregation leave to got to your wife's church just to build the membership? if there were fewer men there would you got to lend help to the shepherd of that assembly? And vice versa? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 29 Jan, 2012 02:24 PM I don't know if there is any sort of typical pattern for people around here (USA). If/when I get married, I'm going to assume that I need to be willing to join his church, but I wouldn't mind if he wanted to join my church. A lot of the young couples that I know tend to start going to the same church while they are dating, and might even switch back and forth some so that neither person has to completely leave his/her church. Eventually, they seem to settle into one more than the other, then just keep going there once they get married. Whether it's "his" church or "her" church doesn't seem to matter. I wonder, though, if it's different in my town because of the large university here...many people didn't grow up in their current church because they've only lived here a few years, which makes switching churches a relatively minor issue for them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 29 Jan, 2012 02:25 PM This is quite a sensitive issue. Personally, I think both parties should pray and seek God for direction when it comes to choosing a place of fellowship. I don't think it's right for women to leave their church and join their husbands' just because of gender discrimination. We, as believers, should rise above the silly traditions and cultures of this world to represent the Kingdom of Heaven. I believe prayer is key when choosing a church for your partner and for yourself. Let go and let God, Ken Post Reply
View Profile History	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 29 Jan, 2012 02:49 PM Thanks for the responses so far, I take issue in things that ave become a tradition becoming doctrine in the body of Christ. It is a sensitive issue and a lot of younger couples are starting to have this discussion rather than just going with the status quo not even knowing why they were following in the first place. but something just came to me, I believe as many would that God brings people together and if they are both being led by the Spirit of God it shouldn't be an issue. As for me personally it's something that I have before the throne of God, I come from a relatively small assembly and if the man I was getting married to came from a mega church I would pray to the Lord to sort it out. I wouldn't want to leave and take from the assembly when we can add not just numerically but spiritually, serving with our gifts at the altar. But then that's just me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 30 Jan, 2012 09:02 AM Ideally you'd meet at the same church! Meanwhile, back in the real world... Chances are, if you find your partner on this website then they probably don't live in your immediate area; therefore the question of who's church you go to depends very much on who's moving in with who. Of course, I'm not familiar with any scripture that says they have to go to the same church and if both are practical choices and the people were church-goers before meeting each other then why should they change, after all, most churches have a morning and evening service so they could do both! Post Reply
AsmileForever View Profile History	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 6 Feb, 2012 10:14 PM In the USA there is no set pattern. Usually the most religious one wins the fight of which church. Post Reply
AsmileForever View Profile History	Honey? where do we fellowship. Posted : 6 Feb, 2012 10:14 PM In the USA there is no set pattern. Usually the most religious one wins the fight of which church. Post Reply