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Admin	winks continued... Posted : 7 Jan, 2012 04:50 AM ...so there's a couple of threads about winks already. My question is...how do you men feel about receiving winks? In particular, if you're a guy who thinks that men should be initiators then what do you think of receiving a wink and how would you respond? I'm curious after seeing the other discussions on winks. Post Reply
View Profile History	winks continued... Posted : 7 Jan, 2012 07:22 AM Like most other similar-veined questions, these are all highly subjective things which will attract some men and repel others. Therefore if you were considering winking anyway then go ahead and do it! Likewise, if the thought of winking leaves you cold, don't do it. What you're really asking is "how can I act to meet someone else's expectation?" and my answer would simply be "Do what you would have done if there was no-one to ask, because that is who you are." Post Reply
View Profile History	winks continued... Posted : 8 Jan, 2012 07:10 PM Winks are fine but when it comes down to it if the guy isn't initiating much after that he probably isn't interested and you shouldn't over extend yourself because tons of women get hurt because they think that they can get any guy they want but guys are even pickier than women (at least other than looks) and that is the number one reason i think guys cheat. Guys don't get that one woman they are looking for and settle. Post Reply
jholmes View Profile History	winks continued... Posted : 10 Jan, 2012 04:37 PM It depends on the context. If it is someone who I have already viewed and she winks at me, its kind of useless. I am man enough to contact a woman if I like what I see and read. However, if she sees me first then wink away. Nothing wrong with letting a guy know that your interested or he caught your attention :) Post Reply
View Profile History	winks continued... Posted : 11 Jan, 2012 08:51 PM It doesn't matter one way or another, but winkers usually haven't had much in common with me, so they just wink to say hi, and move along their own direction. Post Reply
View Profile History	winks continued... Posted : 11 Jan, 2012 10:01 PM i rarely respond to winks. send me a message if you're interested, i mean really, what is a wink? you have nothing to say to me? lol Post Reply
Miss_Wendy View Profile History	winks continued... Posted : 17 Jan, 2012 11:33 AM I completely agree with lpm10 on this one. I usually don't respond to Winks at all because I would rather receive a message. I want to know, 'What was it about my profile that caught your eye?' That's a conversation starter. Something we can build on but I don't really know what caught said Winkers eye because all I got was a Wink. Though, I do realize that there are a lot of shy people out there who don't want to be the first one to make a move ( I'm one of them.) but we have to think about this... We are on an online dating site. The only form of communication we have here with one another is through what we write. What we say, no? So if the person doesn't think enough of me to at least say, "Hi. I saw your profile and I really like such and such about it..." etc., etc., Then I'm not going to think enough in return to send an message back. I'm just going to assume he only looked at a picture or two and was like, "Okay, she'll do." Without reading one single word about me. Not cool. It doesn't have to be some elaborate, philosophical message of how you think we'd click together or anything. Just a simple something like, "Hey Wendy, I saw that you like Rod Stewart and Frank Sinatra. I was always a fan of Harry Connick Jr., myself." That gets the ball rolling. It leaves it in their court. So, to all of you sweet, shy people out there: I know it's hard to start the conversation but you're here to find someone who could potentially become your spouse. You've got to put yourself out there just a little bit. And if they don't respond, that's okay. You did what you could. On to the next! We're never going to know what a golden gem you truly are unless you allow us get to know you! :D Post Reply