Author	Thread: what happened?? please help me understand.
niki0673 View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 6 Jan, 2012 07:11 AM i thought i met someone nice here. i thought he saw me differently from all the other girls he met here who he said just used him to get them to the US. i thought we clicked. i thought he liked me and that i liked him. we chatted/texted a lot. we even deactivated our accounts here thinking that we have found the one. until for whatever reason, i heard from him less and less often. he said that he was sorry coz he was undergoing a sort of depression coz he's got no work at the moment and other alibis and that he thought it would be best to distance himself coz we may never meet. i was hurt coz i never saw whatever it is we had would end like this too soon. i did not think it would be that easy for him to "dump" me like that with no rational reason. im a newbie in this online dating thing. he's the only online friend i got. maybe that is why i didn't see it coming. i'd like to think that he was just being true and fair. but i can't help but feel that he just played around with my feelings. are all men online like him??? shutting out people anytime they want without considering the other person's feelings??? then i recently discovered that he activated his account again (so i activated mine too) saying in his profile that he's had bad experiences with women online coz they just used him to get them to the US. i felt bad and mad coz he told me only nice things and now he is posting that he's had bad experiences with the women he met on this site!! is it wrong for me to feel and think like this??? all these things may sound stupid but i got no one to tell all these stupid stuff to. i need to understand whatever happened and i need to look at things from other people's perspectives to be able to easily move on. i hope someone would take time to enlighten me... thanks :prayingf: Post Reply
View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 6 Jan, 2012 11:05 AM Hi He might have started to doubt that u were genuine. In future dont get too hooked to people u meet online. Take ure time and u need to start as friends first. A number of people on here are not real Christians and will crush u in a heartbeat. I wish u all the best. Post Reply
cowboybuck1969 View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 6 Jan, 2012 09:21 PM pretty hard to know what is the situation as each person faces different ones. This person might have met someone else closer to home, had a on and off relationship with someone all along... or just simply might have lost interest. I have a fairly long list of chat friends, and some of them are very good people that I've known for a long time. Some of them, I just don't have alot in common with. They are nice people... and I try to be nice.. but hey... sometimes you just run out of questions to ask. I don't know your situation, but I would say that what you experienced is fairly common... and part of the reason it's difficult to meet a really good match via email only. Post Reply
View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 6 Jan, 2012 11:31 PM Nothing stupid about that. I think reality set in and he didn't want to deal with it. People love online dating cuz it's an escape from their reality, until it's time to commit and the party stops and all it's uncertainties and responsibilities. Post Reply
niki0673 View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 7 Jan, 2012 03:23 AM I will keep your advice in mind,, not to get hooked on the people i meet online! Thanks so much. Wish you all the best too :D Post Reply
niki0673 View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 7 Jan, 2012 03:38 AM Thanks for the reality check, cowboybuck1969. Your "might haves" have given me new perspectives. God bless you. Post Reply
niki0673 View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 7 Jan, 2012 03:54 AM IOnlyDateCheerleaders, I appreciate your not finding my concern stupid. Many people would have found it silly... I agree, maybe reality set in and he didn't want to deal with it. Good thing reality set-in early otherwise it would have been more hurtful. Thanks so much. I wish you find your cheerleader :D Post Reply
View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 16 Jan, 2012 11:24 AM you know what I think? Maybe he is just looking for attention. It is possible that no one has ever used him and he might be using good-hearted Christian women to give him the attention he is seeking by having them feel sorry for him. just try to not let it get to you. there are girls on here that i start to talk to, and then out of nowhere we stop talking. i don't like it, but there's not a lot i can do. Post Reply
niki0673 View Profile History	what happened?? please help me understand. Posted : 18 Jan, 2012 08:24 AM thanks for your thoughts, lpm10. well, i'm just glad we had each others' attention even for just a short while. now, moving on... Post Reply