Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Life is a blessing and should never be taken for granted or lightly, and no man or woman wants to be alone, because life is too short for any person to be alone.
When a man goes in search of a suitable mate, he must understand that he should seek a woman that is to be his wife, and not just a woman to date with no prospects of ever marrying her, unless they both have agreed that the relationship is of a friendship only. Moreover, there is no place in the Bible where we are told that anyone went out on a date, or that a man dated a woman for five or ten years and they never got married.
A man must understand that a woman is a gift from God and she must be cherished, shown compassion and love, and considered above all things. Just as a woman must understand that a man is a gift from God, and the man also must be shown compassion and love, and considered above all things in a relationship.
After God had created everything there was to be created, making provisions for man to live a comfortably on earth, Adam was placed in the garden with everything he needed to care for himself. But there was one thing missing that would fulfill the total man that God had not created. God realized that although He had given man all things in the physical, the man was incomplete in the emotional, and mental and spiritual sense therefore, He said, " It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a helpmate for him."
By divine wisdom God created the woman on the sixth day from the rib of the man which completed those things that would make man fulfilled. And God brought the woman to the man in perfect order to be his helpmate.
Notice, Adam had everything needed to accommodate his wife already established. He had a beautfiul graden home, and a job as caretaker of the garden, and was stable and more than able to support and provide for his wife, before God even brought the woman to him. Adam was self-sufficient and financially secure, and capable to care for,and meet the needs of his wife as a provider over his household.
Many men seek women who will take care of them, and some men do not even have jobs or a place to bring his wife after they marry. And these wives are the ones who must seek out those things if she plans not to live in a shelter.
Many men who are unprepared for marriage, often end up living in an apartment or house that the woman already has before they marry... but then again, in many cases it is the woman who allows these things to happen just to be married to a man she is dating.
All women are not qualified to be a "wife". Just as all men are not qualified to be a husband.
The woman who is a "wfe indeed", honors her husband and brings life to her marriage to please her husband, and laughter and comfort into her home; she is wise and builds her house into a home, and builds up her husband in all things pleasing to God. She knows how to control her spirit and finds favor among many people she knows because of her humility and kindness, and her good principles, and is stable in all her ways
The Scripture passages does not says, A man who finds a good woman finds a good thing... it says, A man who finds a "WIFE" finds a good thing.
This means a man who goes in search of a wife must seek a woman who already has the inner qualities of being a wife in her spirit. He should spend time in prayer and fasting seeking God for the woman He has chosen who has the godly qualities of a wife as God has described her to be. But the man must also have the inner qualities of a husband according to the qualities God has described him to be in I Timothy chapter 3, if he is to be viewed and consdiered the priest of his home, and as a wise husband.
A man who finds a suitable godly mate who is a 'WIFE INDEED", has indeed, found a good thing and favor from God.
Excerpts from the book "Let's Talk Man Talk", by Rev. Dr. Toy Hodge.
Since God promised to supply all our needs, and he also said before we ask, He already knows what we need, and will supply those needs according to the riches of His Glory.
God created us as dependants not independent of him, That is why the Psalmist wrote "He who finds a wife finds a good thing,and obtains favor from the Lord".
It is impossible to find what God has already promised to supply. God created Adam as a caretaker of God's garden.
GENESIS 2:15 "PUT HIM IN THE GARDEN, TO CULTIVATE IT AND KEEP IT" he did not own the garden, he was a caretaker whose needs are being supplied.
Adam did not find a wife God gave him a wife, God knew what he needed before he will even ask GENESIS 2:18 "IT IS NOT GOOD FOR THE MAN TO BE ALONE, I WILL MAKE HIM A HELPER SUITABLE FOR HIM".
We must learn to wait on God, and stand on his promises, He knows and supplies our needs at HIS TIME.We cannot find a wife he will supply our wife as needed.
Yes, God promises to supply our NEEDS, but this not nullify what He also tells us to do: ask, and it shall(will) be given; seek, and you shall find; knock and th door will be Open unto you;
God requires of us to ASK of Him for those things we have need of, which is included in the Disciples prayer Jesus taught His disciples and all of us to pray: Matthew 6, Give us this day, our daily bread... meaning to make provisions for all those things we have need of..
He also exhorts us to apply His principles to receiving His blessings. Matthew chapter 7:8. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.�Which of you, if your son ASKS for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he AKS for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will YOUR FATHER IN HEAVEN GIVE GOOD GIFTS TO THOSE WHO ASK OF HIM!
James tells us that you HAVE NOT, BECAUSE YOU ASK FOR NOTHING by faith, and when you do ask your motives are all wrong.
Throough out Jesus' ministry He teaches us to ask in pryer, believeing that God will give us whatsover we ask of him that is by faith according to God's will for us, without doubting.
So are you to say that, that a man SHOULD NOT ask of God for a godly wife, OR seeks God in His prayer and be on the look out for such a wife, and keeps kocking on heavens door at the throne room of God's grace?... But he is to sit back just bncause God knows his needs, adn wait for God to bring him a wife without even seeking or asking, or knocking???
Surely this is not what you're saying in what you have posted, becasue it does not line up with what God has spoken in this passage A man who FINDS a wife... FINDS a good thing.
Adam was our perfect example of the blessings of a wife that God has given to man. Everything Adam and Eve had was GIVEN to them by God. No he did ask for a wife, but since God was the creator God knew this was what a man needed to make him complete... and as example, God exhorts a man to ASK OF HIM to do toward him just as He was toward Adam, and once the man has ASKED of God, then God will indeed BRING THE WIFE TO HIM...
Perfect example of DINING A WIFE is in Genesis chapter 24, where in we read that Abraham sent his servant to FIND AND SEEK OUT A WFIE for Isaac...
Even in the book of Ruth, she went out and sought her husband... Boaz was not seeking her, but she sought him out and then ask him by faith believeing and standing on God's promise, to marry her...
A godly wise man must always position himself in preparation (making himself ready) to receive the blessing he has ask of God to give to him... He cannot just sitback without asking and seeking God for those things he requested of God in his prayers...
He must diligently seek to find those blessings in the least expected places God has placed them. Otheriwse, how will he know to FIND a good wife, that God has given to him?..
He must search out for a wife in his prayers before God, how else will he FIND her? God ain't dropping nothing at your door steps, if a person has not ask of Him and diligently sought him in prayer or has proven him/herself to be worthy and seriously in seacrh therefore of...
God is not a God of confussion, and no single verse of scripture stands on it's own it will be taken out of context. The word of God is like a spiders web they are inter- connect ted.
You cannot find before you seek, and you have to seek deligently with all you've got before you can find God and start to recieve his blessing. To recieve God's blessing, you must have a relationship with God
I am not disputing Gods word, all I am saying is you cannot find until you seek, the verse must be read within it's context not in Isolation. Godbless you.
Thank you Scott, for clarifying... you're correct, there first must be a close relationship with God in order to receive anything from Him.
If a person is lacking in a close relationship with God, he will also be lacking in a close relationship with a wife, and will not know how to ask, seek, or knock according to God 's will, nor will he know how to care for the bkessing God sends.
