Author	Thread: Does having a child push guys away from talking to me???
Admin	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 30 Nov, 2011 11:04 PM Hey everyone! I was just wondering if the fact that i have a small child (18 month old boy) push guys away from talking to me. I think i have good qualities as a woman but sometimes i wonder why the guys that have viewed me decide not to message me...is it a "turn off" a "red flag" p.s. in no way will this change the fact that my son and i do come in a package and he will be a part of me forever. I wudnt have it any other way. Just curious thats all... Post Reply
View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 1 Dec, 2011 12:40 PM if i know You are single & available? No... just curious,do You wear a ring on the third finger of Your left hand?as it seems alot of ladies do,and they wonder why guys avoid them,lol,cuz we thinks You married.... Post Reply
Sid2011 View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 01:34 AM It doesn't really make a difference if you have a child or not. I read your profile and I found you very attractive as well as interesting. Your child is quite adorable too. The reason why I did not leave you a message or a wink, was because the age settings. Because I am 38, I was not able to express my opinion about you nor be able to contact you. Don't be discouraged, I believe that this is most likely the case with a lot of people that have tried to make contact with you. Setting the age settings to "any" will remove those restrictions, and will allow for a lot more contacts to chose from. However you may also be contacted by much older men as well as much younger than you would prefer. But on the bright side, you're still the one that has the final say on whom you chose to respond. Good luck and God Bless, Isidro :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 02:28 PM To be fair though, while it wouldn't push away MEN it will push away guys. I think it's fair to say that Sid is a man, and I prefer to think of myself as such also. Most males in the early 20's though, they aren't ready for a kid. They have no desire to have kids, settle down, and get in the routine that life in their head lays out for them after marriage. They don't want to think about dirty diapers and mischievous toddlers. They want fast cars, fun times, and no huge responsibilities, most don't come around for a little while at least. But again, that's a guy. The real thing is trying to find the men. I, like Sid, found you to be very attractive both physically and characteristically-plus you play the drums! That's huge in my books, I used to jam out myself :) And you should never- ever, ever, ever, put your son second to a man. Ever. Actually come to think of it, a man wouldn't ask you to choose him over your little boy. But yeah, you get the point I think. Post Reply
View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 05:29 AM I'll start out by saying Im 21. Though what I feel is different about me, is that Im ready to settle down. I dont want children yet though. Personally I'd like to wait a year (or two) and enjoy the company with that person before moving on to kids (it depends also on wat my potential wife would want). I've also heard that dating women with kids can be sort of a limiting, because they dont have as much freedom as those who dont have kids. So in the end, for me, I just dont feel that dating women with kids would fit for me.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 08:50 AM But to actually answer your question, Ill put it this way, when Im looking for a woman online and look through profiles for women around 18-24, and I see woman around my age who have kids, but have never been married or have quickly been divorced, thats a major turn off for me. I have to question to myself, why they were so quick to have kids, when they were so quick to divorce; and why they never just let their marriage play out till they were actually sure they would stay married before having kids. Or I wonder for those who never married with kids, why they would put themselves in that situation to get themselves pregnant in the first place. Now, I want you to understand, Im not trying to kock you down or anything, or blame you for anything. To me its not right to blame anyone without facts or anything. I just pose those questions to myself sometimes, because its hard to put myself in the shoes of people in your situation and what you have been through. I understand its a crazy world and things happen, but you'll have to understand too, that there are certain guys out there that have a red flag put up when they see a person your age so young, whos divorced with kids. I could understand if we were both older (like mid to late 20s or early 30s)and I was viewing your profile. Thats just my 2 cents though... Keep your head up though, theres a guy ou there for you, and God has a man planned for you... Post Reply
View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 12:12 PM @Karidee 100 When a woman has a child by another man,then men that might be interested need to know if the relationship between yourself and the man,will this be filtered through your child. A woman uses the child to gauge the relationship she will be having with a man,by studying the mans relationship with the child. Some woman will let the man be the man that he is with the child. Others are fearful,and want to control everything the man says and does with the child. When the latter happens,say goodbye to the man,unless he is the man Yeshua has actually raised to being your husband. There also is the matter of the childs dad,will he have visitation,this could put a strain on the relationship. Also,you need to understand that,when you have a relationship with the man you will be marrying,you need to have this man know that the child is both your child and his. If the man does not have this confidence,again say goodbye to the man.. I believe first you need to know Yeshua as you Husband,then begin asking Yeshua to bring you to the man He has raised to being your Husband. Shalom The Gardner Post Reply
EverythingMe View Profile History	Does having a child push guys away from talking to me??? Posted : 5 Dec, 2011 04:54 PM Some guys shy away from women with children, some don't, it just depends on the man. I don't judge or discriminate based on children, kid's are amazing and have done nothing to this world, but that's just me Post Reply