Author	Thread: Just wondering....
heart4almighty View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 31 Jan, 2009 09:26 PM I know you have probably heard this question more than once, but I'm curious...What draws your eye in a profile that would give you the boldness to pursue someone? For me its whether a person wants to live a life in the center of God's will. I find that I can write all the emails in the world, but ultimately I think the man should do the pursuing. What do you think? Post Reply
spri1458 View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 05:46 PM --A clear and respectable photo is a plus. --Having at least a couple of things in common with the other person is a plus. --Having a unique or creative profile is a major plus. Like in the job market, it�s to your advantage if you can differentiate yourself from the competition. --Poor spelling/grammar, using all capital letters, toggling the case, writing everything in internet slang (like �sk8� for �skate�), and writing little-to-nothing are major turn-offs. These things either make it difficult to read a profile or reflect little effort in the creation of the profile, suggesting that the person isn�t very enthusiastic about finding someone. Writing way too much is a turn-off too. --A lot of profiles say something like �I love God more than anything. I�m not very good at describing myself/I never know what to say on these things. If you want to know anything else, just ask.� This doesn�t do much for me�it should go without saying that a person on this site loves God(try showing this more, rather than just telling it), and I don�t want to have to ask just to find out basic information. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 05:59 PM I think your profile is very nice. You speak at length about your relationship with God, which shows your character better than listing your qualities. You have pictures, which lets us know you are probably a real person. You explain a little about what you line to do. I think it is a great example. Blessings, Leon Post Reply
spri1458 View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 06:14 PM Oh, by the way, I agree that you have a nice profile. Post Reply
lovinglife25 View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 2 Feb, 2009 02:48 PM I agree with the previous 2 posts :) More than one picture is always a plus It is nice to see a variety of pictures. Out with friends, doing favorite activities or maybe just having fun! You really only need one close-up pic. Also, having a unique header helps a lot. When I'm randomly browsing and I run across a funny header I always click on it! Just a few thought :) ~ Julio Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 11:04 AM first off it would be the first pic i see, as often im looking at pics first, and then profiles second. No point in wasting my time if i dont find them attractive at all. Second, like someone else said, wayyyyy too many people put "Im caring, honest, fun loving, christian. I like to do things outside and inside. I like music." That kind of profile description is horrible. First off, other people (and God) are the judge of someone's personality. U may think your nice, but others may think your spoiled or far far too reserved. Second, its too bland. Its important to put unique small details about yourself in your profile, like "I raise horses" or "I would love to live on a ranch some day," as these are less likely to be held by other people and they help the lookers find people who are like themselves more. Second, dont put "Looking for that perfect christian guy- caring, honest, trustworthy, loyal; who opens doors for me, and pulls out the chair, and does sweet things." Yuck. If u put expectations, especially perfect standard expectations like "honest" or "kind" or stuff like that, it makes guys who could have been could possibilities not want to write u because they think u are looking for someone who doesnt make mistakes; this is even if they are honest or quite kind in general, as everyone has their flaws and bad moments and so none could truly live up to those words. Another thing that helps- more than one pic. Ur first pic may be questionable, but putting up more pics helps the looker to get a better overall perspective, and people appreciate this. And on another note for pics- dont put pics of u with past bfs or guys that are your age in them with u hugging or something, or even just them being there. Guys may very well confuse this as a hang-up that u have, and pass by your profile because they dont want to deal with someone who is still stuck in the past. Post Reply
duchess_sarah View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 01:37 PM You know, even on a Christian site, there are still plenty of people who don't really " love God more than anything." My relationship with Jesus is the most important thing to me, He is my life & He is a part of every aspect of my life, so naturally, it spills out. I can't help it! Post Reply
duchess_sarah View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 01:39 PM Kudos to you guys giving great advice!! Good job guys! Post Reply
View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 06:54 PM Praise God! Sarah, you are so right. That love for God is what makes a woman beautiful. I had kept quiet, thinking I was the only man who thought that way, and I may well be. But just because others don't have it, doesn't mean I shouldn't be saying it anyway. Thanks for reminding me of that. God's favor, Leon Post Reply
gotfaithguy View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 6 Feb, 2009 08:20 AM Ok, in my opinion you are asking to much for them to post on their pages. Why do they have to put their whole life story in one space? Why not leave a little for them to tell you when the time is right? I don't care about pics or who it is with, kids, boyfriends, etc. etc. If God wants me to be with that person then it will happen. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just wondering.... Posted : 25 Mar, 2009 04:35 PM I do believe that men should do the persuing. yet it really feels good for a lady to show some interest instead of playing the typical hard to get role. Post Reply