Author	Thread: Crazy Night In Tucson
Admin	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 29 Nov, 2011 12:23 AM I think I set a new record number of times rejected this weekend. On purpose. I felt I could either sit at the bar and hate life till it was time to go or just go for the record and have a good time not giving myself time to dwell on failure. Basically the question I wanted to answer was what would I do or what would I be like if I wasn't afraid of failure or let failure hurt. The goal was simply to see how many times I could get rejected and not feel bad about myself. It was pretty fun and I learned a lot actually. I learned that you have a lot more chance of success and opportunities that open up when you genuinely aren't afraid of not being good enough or getting rejected. Seeing firsthand that getting rejected either once or many many times isn't the end of the world and the sense of relief in knowing that. When that happens, your level of happiness or unhappiness isn't dependant on somebody else and you don't need them to validate you as a person and you can actually be really confident and have a really great experience. I know this probably sounds insane and I probably didn't explain it perfectly, but if you've got nothing better to do sometime you might want to pull yourself away from the computer and give it a try. Don't internalize anything. Just go from one to the next to the next. It was sort of like when I first learned to ride a bike. I didn't think about falling and I just never did. I just kept riding and riding and riding. Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 29 Nov, 2011 01:00 PM Getting rejected by people you couldn't care one way or another is no big deal. The real hard part is getting rejected by someone you are truly interested in simply because you are awkward when starting out is very painful. Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 29 Nov, 2011 03:02 PM When that happens, your level of happiness or unhappiness isn't dependant on somebody else and you don't need them to validate you as a person and you can actually be really confident and have a really great experience. *** Yup !!!...Totally AGREE...this is what seperates the men from the boys...:applause:...and Brandan...you are a awesome man...and Cobbler...I do know how you feel...ima not real good at 1st communications either...I hold back for fear of rejection or not being understood...fear seperates us from Father GOD...SOooo...I force my self to step up Boldly...(obviously :rolleyes:)...ifin I am met with rejection...their loss...:winksmile:...Luv ya Gents...:bouncy:...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 30 Nov, 2011 05:11 PM I agree with cobbler. Rejections hurts if the person is someone you are really interested in. Online rejection doesn't bother me, because I do not even know the man. And I get rejected some, but I usually reject more because Online I find men not serious about the kind of relationship I want at my age. I read profiles and then ask lots of questions. Most profiles I do not like. And many questions I ask they do not want to answer. So, I move on. You have to communicate well online for me to want to meet in person. I have had sucess in meeting in person on Other paid sites. Unfortunatelyy no love match on my part. But CDFF I have not met any man In person yet, after being on here since June 2011. This is not the only venue to meet a man so I have hope. I do not go to Bars. Not best place to meet a Chrisan spouse. IMO Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 30 Nov, 2011 05:11 PM I agree with cobbler. Rejections hurts if the person is someone you are really interested in. Online rejection doesn't bother me, because I do not even know the man. And I get rejected some, but I usually reject more because Online I find men not serious about the kind of relationship I want at my age. I read profiles and then ask lots of questions. Most profiles I do not like. And many questions I ask they do not want to answer. So, I move on. You have to communicate well online for me to want to meet in person. I have had sucess in meeting in person on Other paid sites. Unfortunatelyy no love match on my part. But CDFF I have not met any man In person yet, after being on here since June 2011. This is not the only venue to meet a man so I have hope. I do not go to Bars. Not best place to meet a Chrisan spouse. IMO Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 1 Dec, 2011 08:02 AM I think it hurts because you allow yourself to hope and believe that she will actually say yes just because she looks nice and pretty so you get let down. If you know there is absolutely no chance she will say yes, it's no big deal. Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 11:52 AM Cheer... ...I think you know deep down in your Heart that a "Bar" is not the place you want to meet your mate. Men and women at bars tend to be a "bit tipsy" and not in their right "frame of mind". If you go there to just have fun and dance and listen to loud music and maybe get a "bit tipsy"...then do so, but if your intentions are of "meeting" your mate...you are going to be disappointed. As for being rejected...dogs sense "FEAR" and so do Women. If you Body Language...your Posture...speaks "I am Weak and Frail and I have no Confidence and I know you'll Reject Me" -- then that is what you are PROJECTING and that is what you are going to get! Confidence Breeds SUCCESS and Success breeds CONFIDENCE. But where do you start? It's the Egg or the Chicken Question. Baby Steps! As you Grow Spiritually...you will become Stronger both Physically and Mentally and you will WORK HARDER at being Smarter and more Disciplined. This will bring you "Little Successes"..."Little Wins"...that over time will SnowBall into a Mature Spiritual Christian. It is then that you will become that "LIGHTHOUSE" that Draws People to you. The Word First...Spiritual Growth Follows...Success will be ASSURED! Now...what was The Question? Oh Yeah... Post Reply
View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 06:33 PM Very well said. I'll think more about that. What I was saying was taking the cosmic joke life can be and turning it around on itself, but maybe that isn't the answer. Post Reply
Vivere View Profile History	Crazy Night In Tucson Posted : 5 Dec, 2011 09:53 AM Happiness and self confidence within yourself which is not dependent on or created by others' acceptance of you is its own reward! Post Reply