Author	Thread: Question/ask a guy
Admin	Question/ask a guy Posted : 31 Jan, 2009 06:49 PM Since this forum is to ask a guy, I have a question: Why does'nt a guy get interested to know someone especially if they have children from a previous marriage? I recently viewed a profile on here and the man put that he had children from a previous marriage but yet did not want to get involved with anyone who had children or wanted children and I was thinking: Is'nt this a double-standard? The man would want someone to accept his children I am sure ...this is one of the main reasons I am not dating now I am o.k with that because I know God has His Best Pick for me and I am waiting on Gods timing instead of my own. Anyone ever been there? Godbless, Arlena Post Reply
ephesians522 View Profile History	Question/ask a guy Posted : 31 Jan, 2009 08:15 PM I think that it is the guys who feel that way that could answer that question. But anyone who feels that way are probably a little selfish so they are not worth your time. I could offer some assumptions in their defence, but that would be wasting my time. Maybe you'll never know the answer. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question/ask a guy Posted : 31 Jan, 2009 08:59 PM You are right on that one. Sometimes I think how I would like to date someone-but if they are not right for me I should be thankful I know how someone feels about the issue upfront. Godbless , Arlena Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Question/ask a guy Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 10:51 AM An easy answer- he doesnt want any more kids. He very well could have his hands full with the kids he does have, so its entirely legitimate to not want any more. And as for people not being interested in others who already have kids from a previous marriage, well, maybe they dont want to deal with the whole ex clogging up the matters any, or have to worry about the disciplining someone else's kid issue, or maybe they only want one or two kids period, and if the other person already has two, it forfeits their ability to know that they had their own. Or if they're like me, they dont want any kids at all, and so they would be highly less interested in someone who did have kids, because thats a HUGE impact on family life. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question/ask a guy Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 12:40 PM I think a lot of it has to do with responsibility. We live in a world where it is all about us, so if they are still in the world, they only care about what they want. Doesn't sound like a Christian value to me. I raised two step daughters that I claim as mine. Even after their Mom and I split up, they still call me Dad, and come visit all the time. The youngest actually stayed with me when we split. They are grown now, and have children of their own, and they have taught them that I am their grand father. The point is, I was willing to accept the responsibility that came with the woman I chose. Now I am still being blessed for it. A Christian should remember that it is not about us, it is about what God wants for us. Blessings, Leon Post Reply