Author	Thread: Whats the best way...
MyCrownIsGod View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 09:43 AM For a lady to show she is interested in a man without him thinking she is too forward or pushy or whatever? I was always raised to believe that if a man was really interested, he would pursue you...but I know not everyone feels that way. So, would you prefer first contact? If so, why? Or should a lady send the first message/wink? Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 12:26 PM I'd quite happily send a wink. If she ignores that hoping for an eloquent messasge instead or as well then she'll be waiting forever - I won't waste time writing a message if she hasn't responded to the wink. That said, if she messages me, I'll always reply, even if it's the auto-rejection message. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 07:55 PM I wouldn't mind first contact. Just tell him you liked his profile and would be interested in talking. If he's interested, he'd write back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 09:16 PM All you have to do as a woman is respond to him in a positive way. If you are wanting to land a good man - do what the word says "honor" him. There is no greater way that you can honor a man than to let him know that you would like to know him. The only way that could be any problem at all is if you were just all over him and the clinging or controlling type - or if he got the impression that you were approaching a lot of other men. (If you are asking for yourself - I doubt you would need to worry about either thing) I will not chase a woman - and I do not think a man of God will do that. If she doesn't respond in a positive way I am moving on rather quickly - because what that says to me is that she does not value me much and if she is fearful for more than a very short time she does not have the character I am looking for. The biggest turn off I ever had was on this site - when women play hard-to-get. I was getting along really well with one - amazingly well from all appearances - when I asked very politely for her phone number and she said "anything worth while is worth waiting for." I gave her a sermon she will probably never forget and it was all right on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 10:43 PM OK MyCrownIsGod..Get ready this is the very best advice - the whole scoop on how to make the first move for the best possible outcome. First have real pic of yourself that show you in your most attractive light and show you from head to toe. Dress modestly but if you have a nice shape make sure that shows in your profile pics. Second - let him see that you viewed his profile. Third - be prepared to compliment him "Sincerely" on his looks and who you think he is as a man (say something nice about his character) - and send him the email. Fourth- Honor him = And do not delay in giving him your phone number unless you don't think you can trust him You are a wise woman MyCrownIsGod - because you ask good questions:glow: Post Reply
MyCrownIsGod View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 11:48 PM Thanks for responding everyone. I set up my profile a certain way for a reason, and it's not to be hard to get or any kind of game like that. I won't put my picture up here for just anyone to see and make comments on, without reading my profile or getting to know who I am as a person...I've had enough of that. So, for the gentleman who shows me he is genuinely interested in more than what I look like, I will privately email a photo of myself. As for the phone number thing, it depends on the guy. Many men seem to think if they can score a woman's number, it's as good as gold, and they can call whenever they want, acting like they own her. Like it or not,trust has to be earned, not freely given away. I've had to change my phone number and close social pages because I gave my number to the wrong guy who wouldn't leave me alone when I asked him to. Another stalked my pages and eventually threatened to kill me because he didn't like my FB statuses. I took care of the problem in the proper way. I learned a lot from that experience, and am much more careful now. A lady can never been too careful these days. For a woman refusal to give personal information too quickly is not PLAYING in most cases. If a lady refused to give her number, there is a good chance you tried to ask for it before she completely trusted you. For me it's all about wisdom and safety...and any truly Godly man would respect that. So for me, any man who pushes for contact I am not ready to give, reprimands or lectures me for having a little bit of wisdom, just shows me he is impatient, disrespectful and not the kind of person I would be interested in anyway. I've had that happen too. This is why I chose to ask some of the questions I have...to gauge how men on here feel about such things. Thanks for you're responses guys! Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 07:54 AM "The biggest turn off I ever had was on this site - when women play hard-to-get. I was getting along really well with one - amazingly well from all appearances - when I asked very politely for her phone number and she said "anything worth while is worth waiting for." I gave her a sermon she will probably never forget and it was all right on." I imagine MiracleMan the sermon you gave her only validated her reasoning that she was smart to wait in letting YOU have her contact information -- lol! :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 07:57 AM I wasn't suggesting that you were playing hard to get - but most guys are not going to respond or give any real consideration to attention they receive from a female when they do not know what she looks like. We are all rather visual. I have zero interest until I know what a lady looks like. I'm usually also not going to be very interested if I can not see in at least a general way what her figure looks like. Since you are talking about a guy on the Internet the way that you can handle the phone number thing is to say something like - "I'm sure you can understand why I have a policy of not giving out my number to a gentleman I just met here - but I'll be happy to call you so that we can talk and get to know each other better. What's your phone number?" Then you can block his caller ID by dialing *67 before his phone number. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 08:17 AM Statie are you sure you're really 33? You don't act like it. No way of knowing since there's no profile pic. Funny the last time I looked at your profile it also had you age settings so that no one could contact you. What that woman thought at that point was somewhat unimportant to me. I don't like carnal women who play games. The point being that she thought I would like her more is she played hard to get, when the opposite was true. And just maybe if she has any brains she learned a good lesson. Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 09:01 AM MiracleMan--it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out the type of man you are. YOU make that very clear. YOU are all about the VISUAL. Your repeated posts condemning women for not showing full body shots and yet you post no such picture of your own. These comments of yours seems to sum you up in a nutshell, "I have zero interest until I know what a lady looks like. I'm usually also not going to be very interested if I can not see in at least a general way what her figure looks like." -- MiracleMan Some men actually care about the heart and soul of a woman not just her packaging. You come off very pompous, haughty and controlling to me, I can imagine women get the same sense of you. Not getting a phone number from a female within a weeks time of communication with her doesn't suggest to me she is playing games with you -- it suggests she is cautious and not willing to compromise her safety and security by giving such a man as you her contact information. Your response to such a woman would be to chastise her and teach her a lesson by denigrating her choice to wait until she's comfortable in giving you that information only reinforces the idea that you are most likely a man interested only in his own needs rather than that of the female. To that end, she would be well rid of you. :ROFL: Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 09:05 AM ...and yes I am sure I am 33 unless my birth certificate is incorrect and my parents have misled me my entire life. :ROFL: Post Reply

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