Author	Thread: The First WINK
TrinaGayle View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 5 Oct, 2011 08:08 AM Just a quick question.. that will sound silly. If I see that I have been viewed but not winked at... if I like you should I wink? I have noticed that some guys have viewed me serveral times but have not winked. Are they waiting on the girl to wink first? Is it inapporate for the girl to wink fist or OK? Guess you can tell I am new to this kind of site. I had set my account up years ago, forgot about it, but now I am trying it out. Thanks for any replies. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 5 Oct, 2011 09:25 AM I bet that out of every 20 views my profile gets, only 1 or 2 guys will actually wink or message. I figure that they must have seen something in my profile that kept them from contacting me (and usually the reverse is the same -- I view their profile, and I can tell right off that we wouldn't make a good match.) Think of it like this: if a guy looked at you in Walmart, would you expect him to come over and say "Hi" and ask you for your phone number? Probably not. Same online. He just glanced your way, but for whatever reason didn't feel inclined to strike up a conversation, and you shouldn't feel slighted that he didn't. Don't take it personally!!! Now, about whether or not a girl can send the first wink or message...I think most guys on here will tell you that it is fine with them if you do that! I've only dated one guy that I met online, and I sent the first wink. He responded with a nice long message, we corresponded via message and IM for about a week, then we had a good, long phone conversation. A week after that (two weeks after I sent the first wink), we met in person. We only dated for a little over 3 months, but it all started with the wink I sent him. Post Reply
View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 5 Oct, 2011 10:02 AM most likely guys that have viewed your profile multiple times are not waiting on you to make first contact, it just happens when browsing profiles and click same profiles often more than once. But if you like a guy's profile then wink or message, though messaging usually is better. This wink feature should be deleted. Post Reply
Lorraine121 View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 5 Oct, 2011 11:36 AM I totally agree with LoonyK. I don't think a wink is a good start to a conversation. Better to say something like 'Hi, I like your profile' and/or perhaps ask a question about something they mentioned they were interested in. Post Reply
View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 05:24 PM If your interested I would say send a wink, that lets me know that your interested and that it won't me a waste of my time to msg you. I usually don't give out winks but I find them really helpful. So if your interested I would send them a wink Post Reply
donna54 View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 02:14 AM Winking is a cute idea that is just...too cute. And used too often by guys who think we'll giggle and be attracted to them because of it, when I think most women would prefer that the guy make the effort to read our profiles and say something creative like, "Hi". When a guy I've corresponded with for a while winks, then it's between friends, and not as creepy. Post Reply
lovemefaithfullly View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 1 Nov, 2011 04:45 PM Hello to all!:waving: This is only my opinion... no offense meant.:peace: Regarding "wink" message, some guys do send wink message because your mail criteria like..does not smoke nor drink do not meet your requirements that's why they wink at you, instead. Say, the guy profile, he said; "he drinks socially"...that means he cannot send you a message but only "wink". And that is also like saying, he likes your profile. And if you do reply him saying...thank you, etc.....that is already starting friendship communication to that guy. As for me, "wink" message is only more appropriate to men. They will be the one to send this instead of women. Why? As if women (as Christians) are not a proper way to wink to any guy either in public or in internet like this. (this is sort of flirting on the part of women) Some men are shy and they wink at you instead of saying..."hi". And if you don't ignore them and reply them saying...thanks..etc.. who knows?...this might be a good start of beautiful friendship communication ( of course, if you like his profile, too) and will later...GOD willing...you know what I mean?:glow:...He may be your lifetime partner!:applause::hearts: God bless us all to our search except those who are schemers (scammers).:peace: Post Reply
lovemefaithfullly View Profile History	The First WINK Posted : 4 Jun, 2012 07:55 PM Hello again!:waving: I would like to make some addition/comments regarding what I said about" wink". It is said that wink is somewhat improper to greet a Christian women if in the public places. However, in internet communication, I may say, it is still improper but if a man send a wink message, he must follow short message to know that he is not playing on you or to prove that he is not a scam. Some men send me wink messages and when I said "thanks", most don't even bother to reply. I wonder why they do that. I only want a little formality to exchange email message here. Some send messages and then they want right away to chat them without introducing first themselves aside from what I read in their profile. Though, I made a mistake in my first forum here in agreeing "wink" messages, can these guys be true to themselves and act as Christians? If you send me wink message, fine, I will accept that. However, I would like us to exchange email communication here at CDFF to know each other more and to avoid schemers. I have encountered many schemers that I could not retract my statement here. Thank you and God bless our search for our "true partner" and "soul mate". Post Reply