Author	Thread: First impression... that wasn't so good
Admin	First impression... that wasn't so good Posted : 3 Oct, 2011 03:31 PM would you make a decision off of a "first impression"(bad) when it comes to online dating? Im not one who ALWAYS makes decisions off of bad impressions right away... but there are sometimes where i'm like "RED FLAG". Cos how i see it... the way someone is with you when they first meet, how much more comfortable will they be after they get to know you AND meet you? First impressions can either be good... or bad. Would you ever make a decision off a bad impression? or would you risk it and give chances? If you do make a decision, how bad of an impression does that someone does that makes you say "see ya!"? Post Reply
View Profile History	First impression... that wasn't so good Posted : 3 Oct, 2011 03:42 PM was having a chat with a girlfriend (from here on CDFF) who had a bad impression on some dude... can't give details, but thought i'd ask all of you what you thought? Post Reply
View Profile History	First impression... that wasn't so good Posted : 3 Oct, 2011 04:07 PM I think we all do on here, not much to go by except for words, so obviously if its bad, then moving on Post Reply
View Profile History	First impression... that wasn't so good Posted : 3 Oct, 2011 07:32 PM First impression is your last impression it seems. To be honest, I probably wouldn't, just because I'm tired of immature chicks that like to play mind games. They almost always do and I wouldn't really feel like taking a chance that she is the magical exception that doesn't or at least for now isn't. In my experience of being on that side of it though it seems to be impossible to recover from and it's no fun, so I hope it works out for your friend. It's why I don't like emails because it takes at the very least 20 of them to accomplish 20 minutes worth face to face and usually it doesn't get that far. Post Reply
View Profile History	First impression... that wasn't so good Posted : 3 Oct, 2011 08:13 PM ya cheerleaders, I feel the same way... someone playing games (things don't add up right away or how they treat you right away), drop em like its hot... not going past friendship... true Post Reply
View Profile History	First impression... that wasn't so good Posted : 4 Oct, 2011 12:16 PM Really depends on what kind of bad first impression is. If there are signs of serious character flaws especially from a spiritual standpoint then I would not be inclined to move further. Like going out with someone and they are rude to people, use bad language, and show characteristics that are opposite of what we should be looking for in a Christian mate then that would be a sign that it might be best to not continue. On the other hand try to look at it from the big picture. Some people show things like nervousness, shyness, etc in different ways. And sometimes circumstances can alter someone's behavior. If someone had a long stressful week and then went on a date they may be tired, and not seem as energetic, enthusiastic, or as interested as they truly are. Some people act different when they are nervous and want to make a good impression. That said I look at it this way, if from what I can tell that the lady (in my case) is a Christian, is grounded in her faith, and has good qualities, and our personalities don't clash or aren't identical but the date/meeting went ok but not great, I would consider going out again. I think we should be willing to give people a chance. Online it's harder because the time you meet will be the first time you've been around each other in person. Whereas someone you meet at church you have been around them and had a chance to observe over time. Post Reply