Author	Thread: Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay?
MyCrownIsGod View Profile History	Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay? Posted : 18 Sep, 2011 01:57 PM My best friend and I have discussed this a time or two, and I was wondering what other people thought or felt about it. She says, couples (specifically, spouses)sharing a social page protects the relationship from online adultery. She was all for it when her boyfriend suggested it, because she wanted to please him. I say, his motives for wanting her to give him her account information were wrong. In his case it showed a serious lack of trust and respect for her as an individual. He has low self esteem and severe control freak issues. He wanted to isolate her from all her friends and made comments about putting her in a chastity belt, even though she NEVER gave him any reason not to trust her. They aren't together anymore, for obvious reasons, but she still says she likes the idea of shared accounts. I can kind of see her point about protecting a marriage, but I still think that if you can't trust your spouse to have a social page or email account of their own, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. On some level, you should be able to trust the person you are married to, to stay faithful and not do inappropriate things behind your back. I always tell people I'm with, if someone else hits on me, I will be honest and tell you about it. In the past, we would laugh about it. One gentleman said it was flattering to know other men found me attractive, but that he knew I was all his. I also make it clear to them I will never, EVER, cheat. I've never given anyone a reason not to trust me, so it's never been an issue. No one has ever asked me to share accounts with them. If they did, I would seriously wonder why they would feel the need to do so. What do you all think? Would you be willing to share your Facebook or Myspace account with the person you are dating/engaged to/married to? Would you want your boyfriend/girlfriend to be able to read EVERY single email you get? Would you want your significant other to be able to have access to your online banking information, or order things online under your name? How would you feel if someone asked you for your passwords to "check up on you?" Would you do it to please them, or would you do it because you actually wanted to? Or, would you tell them to get psychiatric help for their insecurities and trust issues? Post Reply
bryan1608 View Profile History	Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay? Posted : 18 Sep, 2011 04:58 PM The key things here are, first that both people agree and live by the rules set in the relationship. I know people who will barely speak to a member of the opposite sex. They see it as keeping all temptation away. I also know people who have many friends of the opposite sex including exes both are fully aware of the others friendships and ok with them. The trouble lies when secrecy becomes involved, the behavior changes, or one partner isn't fully on board with the rules set by the other person Post Reply
View Profile History	Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay? Posted : 21 Sep, 2011 03:56 PM must admit,till now i have never given this thought...seems regardless of yay or nay, if they wanna play they will stray? the thought of the mutual account seems very efficient... lol,i have lost track of how many email accounts i have,accounts for family,r/l freinds,cyberfriends/social,three business,shopping, and maybe 4 or 7 for games...so one would be nice:laugh: Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay? Posted : 23 Sep, 2011 08:01 PM My parents have each others' passwords for their email accounts, and they share bank accounts, etc. They don't have each others' passwords because they don't trust each other, they have them in case one of them needs their significant other to check their email because they're waiting for an email but can't check it themselves. My siblings and I also used to have the password for my dad's email account. I used to have it for my mom's since I'm the one who set it up, but she changed it when my dad's email got hacked. I know many of their passwords, security answers, etc, because sometimes we need to check something for the other. It isn't about trust. Like you said, if it's a trust issue, that should be worked out before you marry someone, or if you're already married, then it should be worked out in counseling. What it's about is convenience. It isn't a big deal to my parents. They don't care if the other has their password because they have nothing to hide, and they don't "need" to have the passwords for each other because they want to "check up" on them. It's a matter of convenience and practicality. I have given my mom my password on occasion so she can look something up for me, and while I don't think she would ever browse my account without my permission, I change it afterward anyway, because it's a different relationship. My sister and I have had each others' passwords in the past as well, and then of course changed them :ROFL: So to sum it up: If it's a husband/wife, then I would have to ask why it matters whether they have it. If it's boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance/fiancee, etc, then I think it's inappropriate for either to ask for the others' as they are not married. So, married couple yay; non-married couple, nay. And if you have to ask your husband/wife why they want it, then you don't trust them to trust or respect you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay? Posted : 19 Oct, 2011 09:07 AM I truly belive even if they are just bf and gf, they should have there passowrds and emils. If it realy means alot to them and if they dont have any thing to hind then whats the prob? Its not becuse you dont trust them, but ist kind of hard to if they refuse to give it to you? and by the way, just being gf/bf and so on, if it means any thing at all, and vary importin before you even get marryed, to get it all worked out before. You dont chance the rules after you get mairryed, that is what couses probs!!! Its best that you truly deport your slef in a relaisonsilp before it gets to that point. You cant chance over night, no one can. When you do give your password, Its also showing to the other that you do care, love, and respect them fully. Post Reply
View Profile History	Couples sharing social pages and email accounts? Yay or Nay? Posted : 23 Oct, 2011 06:35 PM No, I would not give anyone my password for email or social media. I created it for fun and to keep in touch with friends before I ever met any guy. I am sure he would have his own profile. All I would expect is to be added to his friend list and vice versa. Post Reply