Author	Thread: Soulmates
chozen2b View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 17 Jan, 2009 07:55 AM To both the guys and gals of the site. Do you believe there is a such thing as soul mates? Meaning there is only ONE special person for you or is there multiple persons you could possibly marry and through leaning on God the marriage work? Post Reply
View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 17 Jan, 2009 08:19 AM I believe a little differently than most, I believe that love is a choice we make. If you decide you are going to love someone, you will. Up until you decide to stop. In the great marriages of the Bible, very few actually chose their own spouses. Yet they were happy, and loved each other. People today will try to tell you that the women were repressed and had no choice, that they were just making the best of a bad situation. I don't believe it for a minute. I think they knew that love is all about your outlook, not your emotions. Just my opinion, Leon Post Reply
View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 17 Jan, 2009 10:40 AM Thank God that love is a choice and not a feeling or emotion. Because our feelings and emotions are ever changing. I may not feel like being kind to a stranger today, but i will choose to because I am called by God to do so. I may not feel like apologizing to someone that I have wronged, but I will choose to do the right thing. Yes, I believe as brother Leon does that love is a choice. Also I believe that we need to move away from having a type of mate that we are looking for. I have talked before about the profiles that specify the physical traits that they are looking for in a mate. If we meet someone who has all of the godly character traits that we are looking for will we choose to love them even if they are not what we desire in appearance? Blessings, Jesusfreak47 Post Reply
kidvid711 View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 18 Jan, 2009 11:13 AM I don't' believe in Soul mates. I believe love is just a choice we make. Just depends what you can tolerate and what you cannot. So basically its both emotional and a decision. Also depends if the two can meet those requirements. I don't think God can tolerate us but he loves us. Emotionally and a decision. Post Reply
chozen2b View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 19 Jan, 2009 07:01 AM Thanks to kidvid, jesusfreak, and leo for your response. Very insightful points. Post Reply
View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 19 Jan, 2009 09:42 PM If we look to the Scriptures for some guidance on the subject, it is interesting what we see. We see in Genesis a father choosing his son's wife. We see the Apostle Paul saying that he has the right to "take along a believing wife", and he advises that people can choose a spouse for themselves, "only in the Lord" (meaning only a Christian). So it seems that the Bible treats the choosing of a spouse as a liberty, a freedom. The heritage of the idea of "soul mates" comes from the romantic notion that there is some special force out there (not necessarily a god or personal) that controls everyone's destiny, and the greatest thing to seek is love. This is not biblically based, and it leads many astray who fear that they might have missed their "one true love", either by messing up a relationship or by passing it by. We can praise God that He does not act this way, and that He is sovereignly in control of our destiny, and if we need a soul mate, He is faithful to provide it. Our God is much greater than the one who has led to the belief in having only one possible soul mate. David Post Reply
ephesians522 View Profile History	Soulmates Posted : 29 Jan, 2009 05:53 PM There is still much to say about a "romantic notion". Have you ever been with someone and they seem to "fit"? Like they were made for you, or made from you? Just the physical makeup, like the two of you were part of a geometric equation, or two pieces of a puzzle? Just the comfort sharing the same room as you, the way the air pressure changes when they enter (makes the hair stand on your skin). I had that once. Believe me if you have that now do whatever you can to keep it. If you don't have it, it's worth waiting for the "glass slipper". I don't believe that there is just only one person for us. There are two side to every puzzle. Whenever my hair stand or I get "goosebumps" I always turn around to see who just walked in. Post Reply