Thread: Heeeey Men... Ponder Over These things!...
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Heeeey Men... Ponder Over These things!...
Posted : 8 Sep, 2011 04:16 PM
Proverbs teaches us in principle- -a man who would marry well will chose his wife more on the basis of her character.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised (Proverbs 31:30). Here are at least five quality character traits of a godly woman according to what God says to seek for in a woman.
1. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue (Prov 31:26)
2. The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands (Prov 14:1)
3. An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones (Prov 12:4)
4. A gracious woman attains honor, and violent men attain riches (Prov 11:16).
5. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life (Prov 31:11-12).
In regards to personality, it is an important factor especially when considering compatibility. No one wants to be with some one that they do not blend or get along with. However, conflicts can be turned in to complements. Sometimes false assumptions are made of persons because of their personality. For example, a man who has a meek countenance may be considered as being weak. Some women think that the ideal husband and spiritual leader is one of a real assertive or aggressive nature. Men with these types of personality traits are considered to be stronger. Nothing could be further from being accurate. Meekness is a godly characteristic because it is part of the fruit of the spirit. Although weakness and meekness may look similar outwardly, they are not the same. Weakness is due to negative circumstances such as lack of self-esteem and courage. But meekness is of a person’s choice. It is strength and courage under control, coupled with kindness. Anyone can act out of aggression when faced with adversity; it takes no strength to do that because it is a natural emotional response. But to maintain a mild temperament in the face of adversity, takes strength and self-control. Also, this is an indication that they are walking in the spirit and not in the flesh. A true, authentic, spirit filled, Christian woman who desires a true authentic spirit filled Christian man ought to find this quality very attractive.
Mark (Mark Parks) also wrote in the Article of his that you�ve Posted about the Qualities of a Good Man:
Although the Book of Proverbs does not give much about the qualities of a godly husband, here are some qualities a godly woman should look for in a godly man.
1. A wise husband is kind and compassionate (12:10).
2. A wise husband is honest (29:24).
3. A wise husband is hard-working (12:11; 27:23-27).
4. A wise husband is truthful (12:17,19).
5. A wise husband exercises self-control (12:15; 16:32).
6. A wise husband is a man of integrity (19:1; 20:7).
7. A wise husband is faithful and reliable (17:17; 29:3).
Here�s that Web Site (http://www.faithwriters.com/article-details.php?id=97159)
Semper said:Think about it, in the secular dating scene, women have few options; 1) The needy leech who is always calling, trying to please her & agree w/ her, putting aside his life's purpose & priorities for her. 2) The arrogant, selfish "man" that goes out of his way to make everything into a confrontation. 3) The player that appears to be a great guy that says all the right things. . . till he gets what he wants, only to disappear. Which is she going to choose? That's right. . . . NEVER #1.
Ella says: Semper, part of what you say is true, BUT, here's where the problem lies in what you say, those men who are leeches, USUALLY don't have ANY LIFE PURPOSES OR PRIOTIES for himself OR the woman... that's why he is a needy leech:laugh:... and women who settle for men who are needy leeches, waiting for the woman to take care of him, and the woma takes care of him... this woman is needy herself a needy emotionally leech, and thinks that taking care of a man is the way yo get him. This is not only women in the secular world, but Christian women as well who profess and confess Christ and being born again, many still live their lives as those women in the secular world, which is shameful.
Some Chrsitain woman would care less about giving a man money or housing him or buying him clothes and things, just to have a man. She is needy emtionally and just to say she has a man she THINKS she loves, and THINK he loves her she will settle for such a man. No, its not right, but the woman is at fault for buying attention and affection from any man, and when her money runs out, he's gone to the next needy woman.
Most often this type of man has more than one woman on the side any wayzzz, and some women don't care just as long as he satisfies her emotional needs of being there when he can, lies and all... she is contend to settles for a man who remind her of who she is... an emotional needy woman. Semper said: This is why I appreciate mature christian women-- they know they don't have to settle for these three.
Ella says: Good reasoning... a truly mature Christian woman tries her best to seek a man according to the qualifications and qualities that God has outlined. Of course, through the years of dating and possible marriage/divorce she has LEARNED from her past mistakes, and is now determined to do it God's way. Therefore, she will not settle for a man less than who she is in character and seek a man who possess qualities equal to her own. She has high self-esteem and usually can spot a deadbeat man when she see him, and for sure after her third encounter with him... cuz, his conversation is not going in the right direct and these are her red flags to kick him to the side of the road... as the old saying goes, fool me once shame of you, fool me twice or three times shame on me.
Mature women are on the look out for slothful men, who are out for a good time no matter how good looking he may be or how charming he talks, if he does not have the inner spirit of a good man at heart... bye!
Semper said: They know God's provided a fourth option, like the "Fourth man in the Fire" found in the Old Testament.
Ella says: Right... This is because true mature women come to understand her own value as being important not only to her self and has high self-esteem, but she knows her value to Christ, and seek God's very best for her life. She again refuses to settle for a man LESS THAN WHO SHE IS in Christ and in godly character.
BTW, first times I've seen your posting, so WELCOME TO THE FORUM!:hearts:
Thanks Arch, but I wanted to divide the two up one for the men and the other for the women. Therefore I shared the men's qualities in the Ask a Girl section for the ladies, as well as the site for the article, although I forgot to place the wensite for the men...thanks
Mature women are on the look out for slothful men, who are out for a good time no matter how good looking he may be or how charming he talks, if he does not have the inner spirit of a good man at heart... bye!
And others had trial of cruel mockings and scourgings, yea, moreover of bonds and imprisonment:
37They were stoned, they were sawn asunder, were tempted, were slain with the sword: they wandered about in sheepskins and goatskins; being destitute, afflicted, tormented;
38(Of whom the world was not worthy:) they wandered in deserts, and in mountains, and in dens and caves of the earth.
We are fools for Christ's sake, but ye are wise in Christ; we are weak, but ye are strong; ye are honourable, but we are despised.
11Even unto this present hour we both hunger, and thirst, and are naked, and are buffeted, and have no certain dwellingplace;
12And labour, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we suffer it:
13Being defamed, we intreat: we are made as the filth of the world, and are the offscouring of all things unto this day
